I have been having this problem for a long time now and it is beginning to effect my relationship. I have been with my boyfriend now for 4 years. He is kind, caring, understanding and I love him very much. The problem I am having is he has never been able to make me cum! We have tried everything. The problem is I put a barrier up! I put this down to my past where I had many bad sexual experiences where I was used and abused very badley. I have always lovedand enjoy sex with him but it has come to the stage now where I just don't want it as I become upset and frustrated that I can't come. My boyfriend feels frustrated to and now I feel like he has given up even trying with me now. Sex is an important part of a relationship and because I don't want it now it has really effected us. I can make myself cum virtually straight away so it not as if my body can't do it because it can. It upsets me that my boyfriend has given up on me and he says to me what else can he do! Maybe I just can't get over my past and that is why. If anybody has any advice I would love to hear it as I just don't know what to do. Thank you x
See a therapist.
That sounds rather curt but I think that's the only thing that will help you and him