hi all... eim in my early/mid teens and have always heard people talking about masterbation. It was more like people making fun of masterbation. At first I resented the thought of me doing it my self and know I've been doing it 2 - 4 times a day. The problem is I want to stop. I've tried very hard but I some how do it anyway. If I feel the need to do it I will go to a room where there are public people so I will get way from the thought. I know I do it much and I want to stop 100%. Can some one help me on how to stop masterbating? :O
Hi, your situation is completly NORMAL. (RELAX) I dont understand why you would want to stop masturbating? practically everyone your age does it. I also believe no one here can tell you how to stop masturbating, its a hard, very hard process which i believe is beyond control. Im not gonna say you cant stop but it will be very difficult especially when you are "turned on". Anyways im not really much help, but i hope this helped =). Bye & have a happy new year.
OMG me to i want to stop 100% but i just cant! can some1 tel me plz,I think you just need a hobbie something u can do every time u want to 'jacking off' so it wil stop u from thinking of that and start thinking of something else...i bin on bf2 it has stopped me from 'jacking off' for about 2 weeks =)
Why would you want to stop? Everyone does it. It's normal and healthy. It's also pleasurable. Get over it. Just enjoy yourself.
Relax everyone dose it. Also you just can't stop, if your that addicted and you HAVE to stop then keep doing it but slowly do less and less it should work.
Or get in a relationship i know that has helped a friend of mine.
Lastly Look at porn, but look look the most disgusting pictures you can find ex. granny porn, fat people, ect.
Hope i helped! 8)
Or get in a relationship i know that has helped a friend of mine.
Lastly Look at porn, but look look the most disgusting pictures you can find ex. granny porn, fat people, ect.
Hope i helped! 8)
its not healthy to do it that much
but are you trying to stop 100%, or just wanting to do it less?
i`m trying to do it less, but not completely stopping.
if your like me and trying to do it less, get outside and do stuff, play a video game. if you really want to stop, get warcraft hehe...even though you'll lose your social life
but are you trying to stop 100%, or just wanting to do it less?
i`m trying to do it less, but not completely stopping.
if your like me and trying to do it less, get outside and do stuff, play a video game. if you really want to stop, get warcraft hehe...even though you'll lose your social life
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Hey, that has got to be some kind of record! I thought I was doing it a lot! It's been a couple of months since you've written this. Have things changed any? Regardless of how good it feels, masterbating a lot can interfere with normal daily activities, or keeping a job.
If it is really getting to you having this monkey on your back, and seems to control your life choices, you may want to consider talking to a men's doctor and see if there is any kind of medication to calm down your desires to masterbate around the clock.
This could cause you great concern as your life goes on if it seems to be controlling your life choices. Don't feel afraid to ask for help... these human urges are very powerful, and for some people may be a form of addiction. Sexual addiction is a medical condition and there is medication to help you through it. After a while, you could take less medication, or stop taking it completely someday. You are not the only person that has gone through this. Eventually, you may feel it necessary to seek medical help rather than continue to be a puppet being jerked around by strings beyond your physical control.
I do believe masterbation is a completely normal part of human development.
So it is o.k. to do it without being controlled by it hour to hour. Good luck my friend. Normal-guy
but i materbate about 25 times a day.
Hey, that has got to be some kind of record! I thought I was doing it a lot! It's been a couple of months since you've written this. Have things changed any? Regardless of how good it feels, masterbating a lot can interfere with normal daily activities, or keeping a job.
If it is really getting to you having this monkey on your back, and seems to control your life choices, you may want to consider talking to a men's doctor and see if there is any kind of medication to calm down your desires to masterbate around the clock.
This could cause you great concern as your life goes on if it seems to be controlling your life choices. Don't feel afraid to ask for help... these human urges are very powerful, and for some people may be a form of addiction. Sexual addiction is a medical condition and there is medication to help you through it. After a while, you could take less medication, or stop taking it completely someday. You are not the only person that has gone through this. Eventually, you may feel it necessary to seek medical help rather than continue to be a puppet being jerked around by strings beyond your physical control.
I do believe masterbation is a completely normal part of human development.
So it is o.k. to do it without being controlled by it hour to hour. Good luck my friend. Normal-guy
The bible says ,angels will cheer when the saints enter the heavens because their have overcome the war of the battle against sin. I am a Christian from south Africa and had once been addicted and victimised by masturbation and now I am victimizing masturbation every way I go so believe me if I tell you that today you have logged for a reason and you are going to stop at this moment forever, praise God.
If you are of the world maybe you can overcome masturbation by avoiding talking about it or joining groups and making new friends or avoiding being alone or by avoiding bathing or looking yourself at the mirror too long but now tell me something , what happens if you invite a friend over for the weekend because you are afraid of being alone cause your parents are going somewhere for the weekend and then the friend decides to go home unexpectedly because he has an emergency and leaves you alone or what if you where tired and so you had to take longer at the bathroom or what if you are exercising and need to look yourself at the mirror to see your progress or what if you are depressed ( cause when you are depressed or happy ,you can just do it without even thinking ,I know ,you could be clean for 3 months and just do it within 3min without even thinking , the bible says ‘ I know what I do is wrong and get very sad when I do it cause I know the right thing to do but there is a law at work in me that forces me to do the very thing I hate to do ).
That is how most of you tried fighting it and you have failed repeatedly because the devil has got a lot of patience and has waited for exactly these kinds of weak moments .Let me just explain why , please be patient ; in your mind you tell yourself that the formular is this , avoiding being alone , etc. Now what happens is that when your friend goes unexpectedly , your formular breaks down and you start feeling weak cause the devil is now convincing you using the very same weapon you used against him , he tells you that ‘you know if your friend was here you could overcome because that is the way to overcome and you are weak now because you are alone and remember you cannot overcome masturbation if you stay alone so do it one more time now because the feeling is too much but tomorrow 1st thing , make more friends so that when one friend decides to go , you can call another one , you agree then he smiles while you busy abusing yourself.
Ok now that you know that I know exactly what you are going through lets get rid of this thing.
This is what you should do , every time you wake up in the morning pray the Lords prayer , a prayer that declares God as your father then follow that prayer by the Lord is my sherpered prayer ,a prayer that declares God as your guide and the after that God our protector ,a prayer that declares God as your shield and then put on the whole amour of God , Daniel prayed 3 times so pray these prayes 3 times a day , morning , day/lunch time and night , now my friend you are ready for the war , now …
Remember the bible says we are in a spiritual war ( read again the first sentence ) and you better make clear in your mind that whenever you masturbate the angels lose the battle against the demons in your life through the power of your decision.When you feel the urge to masterbate while desperately trying to stop , it goes do the point that you feel sick , you lack consentration and sometimes you cant even breath then you loose control and do it.Understand that when Cain sinned God expelled him from the garden but gave him a word of encouragement that ‘ sin is crouching at your door ,it wants to rule you but you can overcome it’.You can overcome it now the key sentence follows :
When you feel the urge to masterbate , know for sure that at that point in time the angels that God has charged over you and the demons that are responsible for the habit are at war,now believe me when I tell you this when you start feeling sick understand that the demon of this lust are holding on and fighting back hard (last kicks of a dying horse , in other words when you start feeling that you loosing control that is when you gaining most of your control that the devil took from you , your victory at that moment is at hand) know masturbation is not like overcoming the sin of killing people (for example) which is not so enjoyable to do,while you are busy weak (physically) and confused during your fight against masterbation there is also your flesh which enjoys and longs for masturbation , so then you start trying to build excuses to do it again ,and so on , this is what you should do , know that a moment after you’ve masterbated you will be feeling very low so it is not worth it ,concentrate on it (don’t avoid it ) so you will recognise the voice of the devil see how much he hates you , you can actually hear him at that instant when he’s trying every excuse to let you fall because unlike you he knows that if he could lose you at that moment , he could loose you for ever because in the same way that he can make you get weaker and weaker everyday God can make you stronger and stronger hence he says resist the devil and he will flee from you.So sit down and think about your life ,where is the world coming to if you cannot even look yourself in the mirror because you afraid you might masterbate, know that most of those women you masterbate on will never be yours cause you are just a wanker , observe how beautiful porn woman are and hate the devil for letting something so beautiful become so ugly, it has come to my understanding that the people who masterbate are people who have a certain special brain potential but the devil takes that and converts it to something ugly – a masturbation addict and know my friend (cause I am not talking just to make you feel good) that sin is when a person is overwhelmed by his evil desire and this when it is full grown leads to death and when God gives you an opportunity to stop and you keep on with this sin he will let it possess you, the bible says he left them to their evil desires until even men burned with lust for each other and women the same and they constantly invented new ways of sinning( you will try to find new websites which are even dirtier than the ones you keep using and will start finding new ways of masterbating), so have that in mind but when you do fall which you probably will know that God is always ready to receive you and he sees you as a wounded soldier and is more concerened about the way you rise , rise up again if you reading this message for the 100th time and still manage to fall, your deliverance can only come from God alone so if you fall rise up more of a Christian because if you keep falling you will always humble yourself when you go to God cause you are a sinner so the devil is just giving you more reason to relie on God, God will always forgive you ,you just have to forgive yourself.
Now read again the first sentence. Remember my friend , it is not about win or lose but about how many punches you can take and keep going foward .whether you fall and musterbate give glory to god if you lean on him when you rise up and everytime you overcome the temptation give glory to God don’t ever stop being a Christian God will only give up on you when you are in hell , never feel rejected he was rejected so that we may be loved , never judge yourself he was wrongly judged so that we should never be condemned or accused and please my friend never feel like you will never overcome this sickness he was wounded so that we may healed. God is always good and when the devil acknowledges that whatever he tries you remain , he then flees and waits for another time , cause when you are realy addicted the devil rejoices more on the feeling you have after than the actual masturbation because he knows he can use it to destroy you and make you do all the negativity possible because my friend once you loose hope you ,any kind of evil will be possible in you.
In short let God help you to Overcome Masterbation , my friend God is everywhere and whenever you are masterbating he is watching and now he wants it to come to an end in your life.Bible reads ‘can a woman ever forget her nursing child , even if that where possible I will never forget you ,see I have written your name on the palms of my hands , your troubles are ever before me’.That is how you should fight it ,may God be with you in your fight and may you one day pray with a lot of thanks giving for what God has done in your life when you realise that its been quite a while and you have not touched yourself therefore realising that you free ,and God saved you.
If you are of the world maybe you can overcome masturbation by avoiding talking about it or joining groups and making new friends or avoiding being alone or by avoiding bathing or looking yourself at the mirror too long but now tell me something , what happens if you invite a friend over for the weekend because you are afraid of being alone cause your parents are going somewhere for the weekend and then the friend decides to go home unexpectedly because he has an emergency and leaves you alone or what if you where tired and so you had to take longer at the bathroom or what if you are exercising and need to look yourself at the mirror to see your progress or what if you are depressed ( cause when you are depressed or happy ,you can just do it without even thinking ,I know ,you could be clean for 3 months and just do it within 3min without even thinking , the bible says ‘ I know what I do is wrong and get very sad when I do it cause I know the right thing to do but there is a law at work in me that forces me to do the very thing I hate to do ).
That is how most of you tried fighting it and you have failed repeatedly because the devil has got a lot of patience and has waited for exactly these kinds of weak moments .Let me just explain why , please be patient ; in your mind you tell yourself that the formular is this , avoiding being alone , etc. Now what happens is that when your friend goes unexpectedly , your formular breaks down and you start feeling weak cause the devil is now convincing you using the very same weapon you used against him , he tells you that ‘you know if your friend was here you could overcome because that is the way to overcome and you are weak now because you are alone and remember you cannot overcome masturbation if you stay alone so do it one more time now because the feeling is too much but tomorrow 1st thing , make more friends so that when one friend decides to go , you can call another one , you agree then he smiles while you busy abusing yourself.
Ok now that you know that I know exactly what you are going through lets get rid of this thing.
This is what you should do , every time you wake up in the morning pray the Lords prayer , a prayer that declares God as your father then follow that prayer by the Lord is my sherpered prayer ,a prayer that declares God as your guide and the after that God our protector ,a prayer that declares God as your shield and then put on the whole amour of God , Daniel prayed 3 times so pray these prayes 3 times a day , morning , day/lunch time and night , now my friend you are ready for the war , now …
Remember the bible says we are in a spiritual war ( read again the first sentence ) and you better make clear in your mind that whenever you masturbate the angels lose the battle against the demons in your life through the power of your decision.When you feel the urge to masterbate while desperately trying to stop , it goes do the point that you feel sick , you lack consentration and sometimes you cant even breath then you loose control and do it.Understand that when Cain sinned God expelled him from the garden but gave him a word of encouragement that ‘ sin is crouching at your door ,it wants to rule you but you can overcome it’.You can overcome it now the key sentence follows :
When you feel the urge to masterbate , know for sure that at that point in time the angels that God has charged over you and the demons that are responsible for the habit are at war,now believe me when I tell you this when you start feeling sick understand that the demon of this lust are holding on and fighting back hard (last kicks of a dying horse , in other words when you start feeling that you loosing control that is when you gaining most of your control that the devil took from you , your victory at that moment is at hand) know masturbation is not like overcoming the sin of killing people (for example) which is not so enjoyable to do,while you are busy weak (physically) and confused during your fight against masterbation there is also your flesh which enjoys and longs for masturbation , so then you start trying to build excuses to do it again ,and so on , this is what you should do , know that a moment after you’ve masterbated you will be feeling very low so it is not worth it ,concentrate on it (don’t avoid it ) so you will recognise the voice of the devil see how much he hates you , you can actually hear him at that instant when he’s trying every excuse to let you fall because unlike you he knows that if he could lose you at that moment , he could loose you for ever because in the same way that he can make you get weaker and weaker everyday God can make you stronger and stronger hence he says resist the devil and he will flee from you.So sit down and think about your life ,where is the world coming to if you cannot even look yourself in the mirror because you afraid you might masterbate, know that most of those women you masterbate on will never be yours cause you are just a wanker , observe how beautiful porn woman are and hate the devil for letting something so beautiful become so ugly, it has come to my understanding that the people who masterbate are people who have a certain special brain potential but the devil takes that and converts it to something ugly – a masturbation addict and know my friend (cause I am not talking just to make you feel good) that sin is when a person is overwhelmed by his evil desire and this when it is full grown leads to death and when God gives you an opportunity to stop and you keep on with this sin he will let it possess you, the bible says he left them to their evil desires until even men burned with lust for each other and women the same and they constantly invented new ways of sinning( you will try to find new websites which are even dirtier than the ones you keep using and will start finding new ways of masterbating), so have that in mind but when you do fall which you probably will know that God is always ready to receive you and he sees you as a wounded soldier and is more concerened about the way you rise , rise up again if you reading this message for the 100th time and still manage to fall, your deliverance can only come from God alone so if you fall rise up more of a Christian because if you keep falling you will always humble yourself when you go to God cause you are a sinner so the devil is just giving you more reason to relie on God, God will always forgive you ,you just have to forgive yourself.
Now read again the first sentence. Remember my friend , it is not about win or lose but about how many punches you can take and keep going foward .whether you fall and musterbate give glory to god if you lean on him when you rise up and everytime you overcome the temptation give glory to God don’t ever stop being a Christian God will only give up on you when you are in hell , never feel rejected he was rejected so that we may be loved , never judge yourself he was wrongly judged so that we should never be condemned or accused and please my friend never feel like you will never overcome this sickness he was wounded so that we may healed. God is always good and when the devil acknowledges that whatever he tries you remain , he then flees and waits for another time , cause when you are realy addicted the devil rejoices more on the feeling you have after than the actual masturbation because he knows he can use it to destroy you and make you do all the negativity possible because my friend once you loose hope you ,any kind of evil will be possible in you.
In short let God help you to Overcome Masterbation , my friend God is everywhere and whenever you are masterbating he is watching and now he wants it to come to an end in your life.Bible reads ‘can a woman ever forget her nursing child , even if that where possible I will never forget you ,see I have written your name on the palms of my hands , your troubles are ever before me’.That is how you should fight it ,may God be with you in your fight and may you one day pray with a lot of thanks giving for what God has done in your life when you realise that its been quite a while and you have not touched yourself therefore realising that you free ,and God saved you.
im 23 and been masturbating since i was about 15
it's becoming a big problem and im not being productive at all with my life
is there any major idea or pointers on cutting down on masturbation, i've cut down to about 6-8 times a month now but it still seems to take over at times..
it's becoming a big problem and im not being productive at all with my life
is there any major idea or pointers on cutting down on masturbation, i've cut down to about 6-8 times a month now but it still seems to take over at times..
Set your self a goal. I suggest only allowing yourself to masterbate once every other day, but stopping 100% is just a bad,bad Idea if you are male, masterbation has benefits such as cleaning out dead semen,getting rid of old hormones, helps to ensure you never get prostate cancer, and just cleanes the inside of your penis.
Im sure female masterbating has its benefits aswell.
But 2-4 times a day is very bad if your a guy. as a guy with a healthy penis I wouldnt go more than 3 times a week,5 at the max. and never more than once a day unless your really turned on. Masterbating this much will make you weak and could cause a wide variety of problems.
But dont stop 100% Its one of the few things in life that is enjoyable and good for you at the same time!
I also reccomend making a challlenge that you will carry out once a year.Myself, I quit masterbating for 7 days at some point atleast once a year.
Im sure female masterbating has its benefits aswell.
But 2-4 times a day is very bad if your a guy. as a guy with a healthy penis I wouldnt go more than 3 times a week,5 at the max. and never more than once a day unless your really turned on. Masterbating this much will make you weak and could cause a wide variety of problems.
But dont stop 100% Its one of the few things in life that is enjoyable and good for you at the same time!
I also reccomend making a challlenge that you will carry out once a year.Myself, I quit masterbating for 7 days at some point atleast once a year.
Hello everyone..... It's 12:30AM....
As part of "step 5," in the "12 step" program I feel the need to tell "humans" of my addiction. Right now, the internet will suffice. My name is Greg. I am 18 years old. I have an addiction to masturbating. I do it once every two days. While this may seem healthy and normal I am tired of this cycle. Unlike most people I masturbated for the first time in my life at age 17. It's a long story... but basically I ejaculated by accident when I was around 10 years old. My body was not ready at that time and it gave me a great deal of pain. So, I stayed away from that part of my body for a long time.
I've had this addiction for about 8 months. I want to stop because it makes me stay up late at night (in order to find privacy). Staying up late causes a loss of sleep/energy. It is also starting to stunt my growth. This is really disappointing because I was predicted to be 6'4" and now that dream is losing steam. I also want to stop because I am going to be attending college soon and I'd rather spend time doing other stuff. Luckily it has never affected my energy levels. This is probably because of my athletic schedule.
Masturbating for me has always been pretty healthy and fun. I have not had feelings of guilt or shame.
More recently: I tried to quit for the first time last week. I was extremely unsuccessful. Extreme urges overpowered me. I basically blacked out and woke up with a warm sensation and sticky stuff all over me (not literally... (I was aware the whole time) it just felt like that emotionally). I have masturbated 2x since that.
I am now 100% determined. I burned all my magazines. I deleted all my internet favorites. I have anti-virus software installed on my computer... and I turned on parental controls. Then I proceeded to enter a random password with my eyes closed. I'm thinking about taking the tissues out of my room... then I would have nothing to clean up with. I can only think of one more solution... cold showers.
So basically this is my plan. Yes, I know this was never a serious problem... but unless I can clearly demonstrate 100% control over my body... then (there is no then... it will happen). I'll try to come back on later (maybe a month) and tell you guys how it went. Thank you for allowing me to post here. Also... thank you for all of the information. I can't remember this specific thread, but so far this is a cool website. I might donate to it later.
*ah... d**n confirmation code... lol didn't see that*
As part of "step 5," in the "12 step" program I feel the need to tell "humans" of my addiction. Right now, the internet will suffice. My name is Greg. I am 18 years old. I have an addiction to masturbating. I do it once every two days. While this may seem healthy and normal I am tired of this cycle. Unlike most people I masturbated for the first time in my life at age 17. It's a long story... but basically I ejaculated by accident when I was around 10 years old. My body was not ready at that time and it gave me a great deal of pain. So, I stayed away from that part of my body for a long time.
I've had this addiction for about 8 months. I want to stop because it makes me stay up late at night (in order to find privacy). Staying up late causes a loss of sleep/energy. It is also starting to stunt my growth. This is really disappointing because I was predicted to be 6'4" and now that dream is losing steam. I also want to stop because I am going to be attending college soon and I'd rather spend time doing other stuff. Luckily it has never affected my energy levels. This is probably because of my athletic schedule.
Masturbating for me has always been pretty healthy and fun. I have not had feelings of guilt or shame.
More recently: I tried to quit for the first time last week. I was extremely unsuccessful. Extreme urges overpowered me. I basically blacked out and woke up with a warm sensation and sticky stuff all over me (not literally... (I was aware the whole time) it just felt like that emotionally). I have masturbated 2x since that.
I am now 100% determined. I burned all my magazines. I deleted all my internet favorites. I have anti-virus software installed on my computer... and I turned on parental controls. Then I proceeded to enter a random password with my eyes closed. I'm thinking about taking the tissues out of my room... then I would have nothing to clean up with. I can only think of one more solution... cold showers.
So basically this is my plan. Yes, I know this was never a serious problem... but unless I can clearly demonstrate 100% control over my body... then (there is no then... it will happen). I'll try to come back on later (maybe a month) and tell you guys how it went. Thank you for allowing me to post here. Also... thank you for all of the information. I can't remember this specific thread, but so far this is a cool website. I might donate to it later.
*ah... d**n confirmation code... lol didn't see that*
I disagree with people saying it's totally ok to masturbate. I think it takes away from a mans drive when he masturbates. Unlike having sex with women the two are different. Plus most masturbators use pornography, and that can cause serious problems in someones marriage down the road b/c it can be addictive. I've seen it happen several times
" I deleted all my internet favorites."
that's my problem, i REMEMBER how to find all my porn. -__-'
that's my problem, i REMEMBER how to find all my porn. -__-'
It is perfectly normal to feel the urge to masturbate. In fact, on average the male body will automatically orgasm every three days if it is not manually relieved. Which is most commonly known as a wet dream. Think of it as a males menstrual cycle.
I agree it is frustrating because I hate waking up in a soggy mess, I would much rather be in control of that process. (It's much cleaner).
I also agree that pornography is highly destructive to how we view women. Porn turns women into sex objects rather than real human beings. This can cause much confusion as well as frustration down the road when you decide to enter into a serious relationship with someone.
My advice would be to not merely quit masturbating, but rather use it as a tool to release pressure. Avoid pornography at all costs. Once you're done you'll be happy you did. This is not only physical, but very very mental. Once the pressure is relieved you are much more likely to function on a much more logical level. If you neglect to release that pressure, you find yourself thinking about sex nonstop which is totally annoying.
That's my advise. That is the conclusion I have come to in my walk of life. I hope it helps.
I agree it is frustrating because I hate waking up in a soggy mess, I would much rather be in control of that process. (It's much cleaner).
I also agree that pornography is highly destructive to how we view women. Porn turns women into sex objects rather than real human beings. This can cause much confusion as well as frustration down the road when you decide to enter into a serious relationship with someone.
My advice would be to not merely quit masturbating, but rather use it as a tool to release pressure. Avoid pornography at all costs. Once you're done you'll be happy you did. This is not only physical, but very very mental. Once the pressure is relieved you are much more likely to function on a much more logical level. If you neglect to release that pressure, you find yourself thinking about sex nonstop which is totally annoying.
That's my advise. That is the conclusion I have come to in my walk of life. I hope it helps.
Don't listen to all these people that say you are crazy to stop masterbating completely. They are in the same struggle that you are in, maybe not to the same degree but they are. People will tell you that it is healthy both physically and mentally but I know from experience and many can attest that all it really does is rob you from enjoying the true pleasures in life. When you are in the cycle of lusting, desiring, and masterbating, it is hard to get out, and you really aren't free. One person made the comment that it is really unhealthy to stop 100%... this is an unsupported claim. No research is out there that can prove this. Studies have been done that make the claim the masterbating reduces your risk of prostate cancer but they are few and far between and if your a real scientist you'll understand that you can't believe every study that comes out.
Work to stop, and when you do fall down, just remember that you can still continue in the right direction. Everyone falls, but not everyone gets back up and triumphs. If your a religous person, ask God for help and He truely will be by your side helping you fight these urges. If you're not religous, I think you can still find the spirital side of you and have that help you. Buddah taught that masterbation and lusting is a determinent to yourself and a discrase to your parents. You're probably not a parent yourself but think about your future son... would you want him to be doing what your doing now? I sure wouldn't, because it really leads to no where. The fantisies you have in your head will never truely be fulfilled and your life will never be fullfilling if they are part of your life.
Seek friends and relationships with people that will help you rise up and overcome these urges. Masturbation is really a want for love and closeness, but when your done you realize that you were no closer to true love and happiness than before you started, so try to remember that when you get the urge to start.
Work to stop, and when you do fall down, just remember that you can still continue in the right direction. Everyone falls, but not everyone gets back up and triumphs. If your a religous person, ask God for help and He truely will be by your side helping you fight these urges. If you're not religous, I think you can still find the spirital side of you and have that help you. Buddah taught that masterbation and lusting is a determinent to yourself and a discrase to your parents. You're probably not a parent yourself but think about your future son... would you want him to be doing what your doing now? I sure wouldn't, because it really leads to no where. The fantisies you have in your head will never truely be fulfilled and your life will never be fullfilling if they are part of your life.
Seek friends and relationships with people that will help you rise up and overcome these urges. Masturbation is really a want for love and closeness, but when your done you realize that you were no closer to true love and happiness than before you started, so try to remember that when you get the urge to start.