I am a 14yr old boy and I walked in the bathroom to pee and saw my 13yr old sister sitting on the toilet peeling and I saw her vagina and got extremely aroused and after she was done I went in and that is all I could think of .... Am I okay ??
Hello alec
Yes, you are normal. But having sexual thoughts over siblings or indulging sex with sister is equivalent to incest. So, stay away from your siblings. I am sure you have a girlfriend. Good luck
Dear Alec --
As you proceed through puberty, both you AND your sister will experience awarenesses and, possibly, desires that will be new to you. By this age you have picked up the prevailing societal concerns over having a sexual relationship with a sibling. I cannot advise you how best to proceed, that is best left to you (and your sister). But I can illuminate some things for you here:
Consensual sexual exploration and activity between siblings is far more prevalent than most people will acknowledge. On the one hand, it would seem that it should be expected that as siblings reach sexual maturity (aka puberty) they should reach out to the person closest to them to express and explore their emerging sexual feelings. Who better to help satisfy your new and confusing desires than someone who has been your life partner for all their life; someone who knows you at your best AND your worst and still loves you anyway; someone who is least likely to reject you, and in fact, may be experiencing similar questions and new, confusing desires? Siblings who are already best friends are likely to become sexually involved -- if only temporarily -- if left to their own devices. This often occurs naturally if both parents must be out of the house for work each day. This is not to say it is good or bad, just that it happens more normally than people think. Please keep in mind that I said "consensual", as forced or coerced sexual involvement with a sibling should never happen, regardless.
However, becoming sexually involved with a sibling is fraught with pitfalls and problems. Leaving aside the real genetic issues involving the offspring of immediate siblings for the moment, the societal pressures of such a relationship are enormous. Since societal condemnation is pretty universal in Western societies especially, such activities between brothers or a brother and sister, consensual or not, must essentially be kept secret from EVERYONE -- even one's best friends and peers. This can be a tremendous burden, as one slip from EITHER of you can result in total condemnation and ostracization from your peer community, PLUS punishment of one kind or another by parents and family members who are almost guaranteed NOT to understand the often innocent nature of these things. Brothers and sisters who HAVE tried to have a monogamous, committed, long-term life partner type of relationship (and they DO exist) have often found it necessary to move to another community entirely, to pretend that they are a "married" couple and to raise their children, keeping their true relationship unspoken and unknown to all those around them. The inevitable legal issues accompanying family life, especially when any offspring must begin school, and medical questions that may be asked along the way, can be daunting and incredibly stressful. All because you want to love each other beyond just being a "brother and sister".
Additionally, it is fairly likely that one or other of the siblings may take an interest in having a life with someone OUTSIDE the family -- someone they might meet at school for example, which is entirely normal, of course. The resulting jealousy, sadness, and fear of abandonment can destroy the sibling relationship beyond just the sexual aspect. So, enjoying a sexual relationship -- any more than just simple, early sexual explorations -- will be dangerous on many levels, and can come at a very high price. If you find yourself turned on by the sight, the smell, of your sibling, or even the sound of their voice, consider that your responses are a perfectly normal part of your maturing sexuality. What you do about it is the hard part. My best recommendation then, is to enjoy the way you may experience your sister (or your brother) as another beautiful human being, and keep your fantasies of having sex with them to yourself, unspoken and unrealized if you can, to use when you masturbate, perhaps. Whatever you choose to do, love them genuinely, gently, and with respect for them as an individual with feelings and fears just like yours. Good luck to you both.