Hi, I remember I asked this question before I cannot find it so I am posting it again.
The problem is I cannot get the thought of masturbating is wrong out of my head, thus I cannot get turned on. I erect, but not 100% turned on. It was slowly getting out of my head, but something triggered it now I have trouble getting hard. I think I can get rid of that in a few days. The other problem is I tried to stimulate my hornyness by porn..but I wasn't getting turned on until I saw the guy doing the girl. I think I am done with porn. I have the fear of becoming gay since I got turned on once the guy starting having sex with the girl. I think I am just paranoid, and I think I got turned on when the guy came because I probably thought he was me and I was doing the girl..or something like that. But, I just need help. To ensure that I am not becoming "gay" and are just paranoid and how to get my sexuality started again. I think this is all in my mind, but how do I clear my mind of this? First I want to get rid of the thought that I might become gay cause deep down I know I'm 100% straight and making a big deal out of it. Next I just want to start my sexual drive again. I also think I should stop masturbating for a few days, well since yesterday they are now attempts to get hard.
Thanks in advance.
The problem is I cannot get the thought of masturbating is wrong out of my head, thus I cannot get turned on. I erect, but not 100% turned on. It was slowly getting out of my head, but something triggered it now I have trouble getting hard. I think I can get rid of that in a few days. The other problem is I tried to stimulate my hornyness by porn..but I wasn't getting turned on until I saw the guy doing the girl. I think I am done with porn. I have the fear of becoming gay since I got turned on once the guy starting having sex with the girl. I think I am just paranoid, and I think I got turned on when the guy came because I probably thought he was me and I was doing the girl..or something like that. But, I just need help. To ensure that I am not becoming "gay" and are just paranoid and how to get my sexuality started again. I think this is all in my mind, but how do I clear my mind of this? First I want to get rid of the thought that I might become gay cause deep down I know I'm 100% straight and making a big deal out of it. Next I just want to start my sexual drive again. I also think I should stop masturbating for a few days, well since yesterday they are now attempts to get hard.
Thanks in advance.
I am also 14 if that helps in any way.
First off hun.....Your young, you shouldn't be too worried about this.
But one question, Why do you feel masterbating is so wrong?
I want you need to know, its going to be confusing for you until you really know what your into, and so what if you get these gay thoughts....I'm a girl but I can still think other girls are attractive, or hot, I'm straight but I feel confident enough in my sexuality to say and think such things. Don't worry! Your not gay....if you don't want to be.
Don't worry about masterbating hun, its ok. There isn't anything wrong with it as long as you follow a couple rules....keep it in the privacy of your home even better, your room, shower etc. Don't let it interfere with your day to day life. Our livest shouldn't revolve around our masterbating, its kept to evenings etc, when we have our down time, or when ever you get the urge and its safe to do so.
If your not into Porn, don't watch porn....to be honest, what gets me excited more is reading erotic writing, stories etc. We use our own imagination to picture what is going on.
So....Your Not Gay, just becasue you got excited when the guy started having sex with the girl is fine, thats what you were expecting to happen, and when it finally did in the movie you finally got excited! Its not because you are gay!
Masterbation is Natural, its ok.
-Canadian Girl
But one question, Why do you feel masterbating is so wrong?
I want you need to know, its going to be confusing for you until you really know what your into, and so what if you get these gay thoughts....I'm a girl but I can still think other girls are attractive, or hot, I'm straight but I feel confident enough in my sexuality to say and think such things. Don't worry! Your not gay....if you don't want to be.
Don't worry about masterbating hun, its ok. There isn't anything wrong with it as long as you follow a couple rules....keep it in the privacy of your home even better, your room, shower etc. Don't let it interfere with your day to day life. Our livest shouldn't revolve around our masterbating, its kept to evenings etc, when we have our down time, or when ever you get the urge and its safe to do so.
If your not into Porn, don't watch porn....to be honest, what gets me excited more is reading erotic writing, stories etc. We use our own imagination to picture what is going on.
So....Your Not Gay, just becasue you got excited when the guy started having sex with the girl is fine, thats what you were expecting to happen, and when it finally did in the movie you finally got excited! Its not because you are gay!
Masterbation is Natural, its ok.
-Canadian Girl
Hi canadiangirl, I think what you posted should be really helpful for someone who's dealing with issues related to masturbation. Do you have any ideas or tips on how to help get over that shame if you're someone who is prone to feeling that way? I think it might be helpful to hear about that from you. Thanks for your input!
Hi Health and Fitness Guy,
I have written something up these evening, I think I will start a new post and I will add this info. Feel free to read it and let me know....I'm here just to help when I can.
I can't give much advice, but I try to help when I can. I'm glad you thought the info I gave was good.
-Canadian Girl
I have written something up these evening, I think I will start a new post and I will add this info. Feel free to read it and let me know....I'm here just to help when I can.
I can't give much advice, but I try to help when I can. I'm glad you thought the info I gave was good.
-Canadian Girl
Absolutely. Let me know when you post the new thread because I would like to pass it along to some friends with teen daughters. I think they might benefit from it a lot. Do you have a background in public health or something? Or just experience as a woman?
Hi,
I started the new thread, its in the Sexual Stimulation thread. I figured thats where it was suited best. I'm not sure if its exactly what I wanted, or you were looking for, but give it a read and see if it will benefit.
Actually I have no background in public Health at all (I went to college and got a diploma in Agriculture...not even close to public Health) But I like helping, and I'm pretty open about this type of stuff, I'm not afraid to talk about it ANY MORE, and its just part of being human. So I guess this is just my limited experience as being a woman.
If there is anything you want me to write up or change let me know.
-Canadian Girl
I started the new thread, its in the Sexual Stimulation thread. I figured thats where it was suited best. I'm not sure if its exactly what I wanted, or you were looking for, but give it a read and see if it will benefit.
Actually I have no background in public Health at all (I went to college and got a diploma in Agriculture...not even close to public Health) But I like helping, and I'm pretty open about this type of stuff, I'm not afraid to talk about it ANY MORE, and its just part of being human. So I guess this is just my limited experience as being a woman.
If there is anything you want me to write up or change let me know.
-Canadian Girl
OH Ya, the thread is called "For the Young and Confused about Masturbation"
I meant to ask, Do you have a health background, I'm assuming by your name, but wasn't sure if that professional or not.
-Canadian Girl
I meant to ask, Do you have a health background, I'm assuming by your name, but wasn't sure if that professional or not.
-Canadian Girl
I have a bit of a health background but I never really made a career of it. Mostly I'm just a hobbyist. :) And thanks for telling me about the thread! I'll be supporting you from the sidelines.
Agriculture? Don't you think that gave you some expertise in health? I mean, it is sort of related...at least all the bio you had to take, right?
Agriculture? Don't you think that gave you some expertise in health? I mean, it is sort of related...at least all the bio you had to take, right?
No Problem,
Your Giving lots of great advice, so I assumed you might be more into health etc. Than just being a hobby, but it people like you that keep the board going....and give correct advice rather than some others giving pointless, useless information.
I guess Agriculture gave some basic Bio type stuff, but not as much as you might think. I just do alot of researching for my own knowledge, so like some people say about me, I'm full of pointless information but it all seems to come in handy at somepoint, not making it that pointless at all.
Thanks for supporting my thread!
- Canadian Girl
Your Giving lots of great advice, so I assumed you might be more into health etc. Than just being a hobby, but it people like you that keep the board going....and give correct advice rather than some others giving pointless, useless information.
I guess Agriculture gave some basic Bio type stuff, but not as much as you might think. I just do alot of researching for my own knowledge, so like some people say about me, I'm full of pointless information but it all seems to come in handy at somepoint, not making it that pointless at all.
Thanks for supporting my thread!
- Canadian Girl
Well thank you for the compliment! I think you offer up a lot of great advice as well so thanks for that and I'm glad that you're a regular poster. I'll stop talking now to keep from derailing this thread. :)
lol, Thank you. And your more than welcome.
-Canadian Girl
-Canadian Girl
I think this 'problem' is getting to you alittle to much. Most people feel guitly when they first start masturbating. You should know that its perfectly normal.
and being turned on by a guy 'doing' a girl doesnt make you gay at all mate. if it was two guys than maybe. But either way you should accept who you are, and live by your own choices.
Take things slow. if your trying to keep hard and its failing, its probably more because your worried about it happening rather than a physical problem.
your only young and finding yourself can be a fun and slightly confusing.
jsut relax and take your time, it'll happen
and being turned on by a guy 'doing' a girl doesnt make you gay at all mate. if it was two guys than maybe. But either way you should accept who you are, and live by your own choices.
Take things slow. if your trying to keep hard and its failing, its probably more because your worried about it happening rather than a physical problem.
your only young and finding yourself can be a fun and slightly confusing.
jsut relax and take your time, it'll happen
Hi there, you're just 14. Unfortunately your body is going ot feel out of whack like this for awhile. It isn't anything to be concerned about. You should really only be concerned if you cannot get an erection for a sustained period of time, feel a lump, or have pain. Does that make sense at all?
well, to make sure ur not gay, how about trying to find a boyfriend?