I had the same as you. I was with this guy for 1 year, the first 3-4 months was fine and sweet and he started to get cold to me and not replying my msg at all and I had to spam and ask him what have I done that he not replying. He told me because we keep quarrel argue which times we never hsd quarrel he still cold. We didn’t contact for 3 months and I still miss him and texted him, we sort of back in contact but he still mia at times telling me he’s busy with work or tired after work. Even it’s weekend when he got no work. He always meet midnight which make me think he only treat me as spare and entertainment or maybe his “Girlfriend” had already slpping. He denied with the girl when my sixth sense alr told me so. And I start to reject when he ask me to meet me or want to fetch me at the place where I am. But I rejected. Till one month later I found out my period was late for one week. I texted and ask him, and I went to test the kit and realise I was pregnant. I told him about it, he took few hours to reply me. If he had love me still everytime when he ask me to meet him, probably only for Sex and lust. Using my love for him for granted. He say he going to accompany me to the clinic the next day. But I went myself on that day as I was too scared. Doc refer me to the hospital for a full check up The next day and confirm I was 5 weeks pregnant. I cried. He was not there for the check up with me at all. Never mind. And after awhile, my Friend told me he send roses to a girl on the day itself after seeing the girl posted his name. When I had my check up. its only 3 before he still ask me to meet him and I rejected and he went to send another girl roses within 2-3 days apart? I was sad and disappointed. He even told me becos we got no status I’m not his gf so he can choose who he dated? We been on/off for one year he say he didn’t regard me as a gf? He say he wanted stable den disclose but look? So I ask for abortion and doing it at home with pills. He was not there either. He went dating with the girl instead while I was hurting from the pain. For days. Even I went for all my check up, he say he will be there or to go through this with me, but he didn’t appear Nor he giving in to me when I felt so depress but instead keep quarrel with me wanting to win this ego of his. The day I had my surgery abortion as the pills didn’t works on me. He say he would accompany me, I say with him around make no diff, and on that day, no text or any regards or him appearing at the ward.. I cry helplessly. I wish he was here Cos I could not tell anyone but only him know this matter. After surgery I went home myself not even a text from him. Can see how heartless he is. And he say diff sentence to me that he don’t want to turn up as he alr got new girl that he is wooing and not nice to keep in contact with me. Joke or what. But I been praying for him to lose him love one and get karma and punishement in his life forever by asking me to abortion and not there with me. All he know is he love sex. I hope the girl with him Now, would make him go crazy and hurt him till he feel the pain I had go through. I dealing it alone with my emotion and there times I still think and felt so much pain that I go through all this alone. And I never ever be stupid again to trust whoever just use you when they are lonely. But can’t deal when things had happen. Karma will come to him soon. Stay strong!
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I am 20 years old & was seeing my ex boyfriend for 15 months, it became very intense & real quickly. We fell for each other so fast & even though we are young & don’t have our own places we lived at each other’s parents homes so it felt like practically we lived with each other. However, things were great in the beginning but things started to turn. He didn’t trust me & When I went on a night out he wouldn’t speak to me the next day & id spend my whole day trying to convince him nothing had happened. He treated me well on the whole like encouraged me to do the things I wanted to do (start a new job) , he would drop me off & pick me up in his car, we’d spend all our time together... he had his own business at the age of 20 so he was very ambitious & I admired him greatly because of this ... he was very good looking ( half Colombian/ half French) & I am Scottish so we were quite opposite visually & culturally but we seemed to click. I was brought up very different from him as his family were used to it being just them so I think when I came in the picture they were wary of me, but they ended up welcoming me in& I became close with them you might say. My parents took him on holiday... we went to Surrey to visit my uncle & my ex fell in love with my little cousins - we never returned to see them again together. After our holiday in October I fell pregnant... it was a shock... him & his family said they would stick by me whatever I decided to do however when I mentioned to my ex I wanted to keep it he would tell me I was ruining his life, he couldn’t continue with his business so I felt I had to do... I knew it was probably best looking back now but it still hurts he said those things. He said he wanted to stick by me so came to all the apps with me however , it’s hard to believe he actually cared now but instead was just making sure I would go through with it. After the abortion we stayed together through Christmas however I noticed I change in him & in us. He was going out nights out a lot when he didn’t really before. Spending less time with me & I resented him subconsciously I think for what had happened. So in February we had an argument & he full blown ended it- he had dropped my bags off before & said this before so thought he was just bluffing again but this time it was for real. He said he wanted to remain friends in time as he respected me as a person but just didn’t think I was a suitable partner for him. In the beginning when we first broke up I was trying to find ways to communicate but as time went on I stopped for about 3 weeks no contact until.... i noticed another girl was in the picture. We had been going to a public speaking class together after December just before we split up... & now I’ve been told he’s been taking this girl now when he told me it’s probably the best thing I didn’t go back as “it would be too painful for me” . Then on Saturday night I was out with my friends & we went to a club myself and him have been before... & he was there with this girl. So I tried to keep it classy but I ended up actually throwing a drink over him & giving them both abuse & got thrown out the club. I feel so bad I steeped to that level but his friends that were with them aswell were actually trying to provoke us. I tried to go up to talk to him normally and he told me to go away. This girl aswell I’ve found out is 8 years older than him.... he told me they were “just friends” when I confronted him about it. I’ve also found out she is an entrepreneur also who does heath things- the perfect girl for him as his family are also into gluten free dairy free & exercise. I just don’t understand how guys can move on so fast& replace you... especially when I thought we had a deep connection & we were actually more like best friends. I shouldn’t have but I send him a message apologising for how I behaved but how I Couldn’t understand how he could hurt me lik that & he’a Totally ignored it.
Any advice would be great so I can move on & open my heart to someone that will respect me more X
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Also to mention his family did not contact me after the split to wish we well - nothing! The girl is similar to him looks wise- Latino looking where as I am blonde & blue eyes but I do seem to get a lot of attention. Everyone used to tell us how good we were together & how beautiful our kids would be... he still has all the photos of us on his social websites but none of her it makes no sense.
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it’s been almost 3 mths and I’m depressed, I can’t get over it. Sometimes I wish I never existed.
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