I've been with my bf for 5yeArs. A. Few days ago we had sex for the first time for boh of us. Were 16. Ididnt bleed AND he said I wasn't tight at all! I've never had sex before. But he questioned me after neather thing happened. I felt nothing until he was really deep in me. Then it hurt. I really don't know what to do. Is this normal?
It certainly could be normal. If it was his first time too then what is he comparing you to?
More likely you were relaxed and ready for it. You don't necessarily have to tear your hymen, it may already have broken naturally.
Don't worry. You know you were a virgin, that's what matters.
I'm male and have had many sexual partners, a couple of whom were virgins. Also, gfs have confided their first experiences with me.
You are perfectly normal. Many women do not have the type of hymen that breaks, or have very little tissue across their vagina. Previous insertions (tampns, etc) may also have ruptured or eliminated most of your hymen as well.
As for tightness, the previous poster is correct about vaginal "tenting" as you become aroused; your vagina actually loosens and enlarges in preparation for intercourse as you become aroused. If you have sex without much time mentally and physically in arousal, you will be tighter, but you will also likely be far more uncomfortable.
Lastly, on the tightness thing, I've found that women's vaginal tightness varies as widely as breast size or hair color. The only common factor I've found is that more athletic women tend to be tighter. Running, swimming, biking all tones muscle and the vagina is surrounded by muscles. If you are toned or ripped, you are likely to have a tighter vagina. HOWEVER, not all men want their partners to be tight. Most do not.
Please practice safe sex and enjoy this new part of your life responsibly!