Ok, I'm fairly sure this is untypical. My partner and I have made love twice now, and both times she has finished long before I even felt close. The second time we even tried oral play before and after coitus with no results.
I've heard about women not being able to climax, but never a man. I don't know what to do, it's very important to me that I am able to climax when she does. Please help
I've heard about women not being able to climax, but never a man. I don't know what to do, it's very important to me that I am able to climax when she does. Please help
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To be honest, I've had the same problem too. I don't know what it is. And it's happened multiple times. I just can't seem to orgasm easily. Although some women would see this as a good thing!
I reckon maybe, it might be down to:
What you eat
How much exercise you get a day
How much sleep you've had
But don't fret! You're not the only one.
I reckon maybe, it might be down to:
What you eat
How much exercise you get a day
How much sleep you've had
But don't fret! You're not the only one.
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There are a number of reasons why this might be happening.
But before we go there, you need to know that it is a rare and unpredictable thing to be able to climax together. Yes, it's nice when it happens, but most of the time, one partner climaxs before the other.
It's learning how to adjust your timing and be considerate of your partner that marks growing together as a couple.
Now, for what may be causing such a delayed ejaculation, there are many possibilities. Everything from stress, fear of pregnancy, pressure to perform, lack of sensitivity of the glans, over-stimulation, fear of discovery, lack of intensity of stimulation... even prior learning of specific stimulation to achieve climax.
You can impact some of this by.... waiting longer between orgasmic sessions with or without your partner. (That is, wait longer between sex sessions and there will be more semen, and shorter endurance time.)
You might find a lack of sensation due to a numbing agent in the lube, or from over stimulation of your penis by your partner, or lack of movement on your part when you're on the bottom and they're free to move on top.
You might also wait until you're more relaxed in friendly surroundings.
You could also plan a session with your girl where she does nothing by pleasure you... that is, she focuses solely on getting you off, with no expectation that she's going to come. Sometimes, having hours to spend together in this way can help teach both of you what works and what doesn't.
Don't expect to learn how to relate in just one or two sessions. Making love and having sex effectively takes time and is a learned behavior. No one is a perfect lover overnight.
Give yourself time.
But before we go there, you need to know that it is a rare and unpredictable thing to be able to climax together. Yes, it's nice when it happens, but most of the time, one partner climaxs before the other.
It's learning how to adjust your timing and be considerate of your partner that marks growing together as a couple.
Now, for what may be causing such a delayed ejaculation, there are many possibilities. Everything from stress, fear of pregnancy, pressure to perform, lack of sensitivity of the glans, over-stimulation, fear of discovery, lack of intensity of stimulation... even prior learning of specific stimulation to achieve climax.
You can impact some of this by.... waiting longer between orgasmic sessions with or without your partner. (That is, wait longer between sex sessions and there will be more semen, and shorter endurance time.)
You might find a lack of sensation due to a numbing agent in the lube, or from over stimulation of your penis by your partner, or lack of movement on your part when you're on the bottom and they're free to move on top.
You might also wait until you're more relaxed in friendly surroundings.
You could also plan a session with your girl where she does nothing by pleasure you... that is, she focuses solely on getting you off, with no expectation that she's going to come. Sometimes, having hours to spend together in this way can help teach both of you what works and what doesn't.
Don't expect to learn how to relate in just one or two sessions. Making love and having sex effectively takes time and is a learned behavior. No one is a perfect lover overnight.
Give yourself time.
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