I'm ashamed of my erect penis

Yeah, pretty much my experience when I was a teen - it was other boys who teased or made silly comments, not girls. Whether girls liked it or not, I don't know. Some seemed to - one that I went out with definitely did, but she was the only one who ever actually said it. Other girls sometimes looked, and a few were curious (ones that I knew well) and sometimes asked questions, but most seemed to pretend not to notice. A couple of times a girl asked to see it, but if others wanted to they never said anything.

I DO agree it's not something to be ashamed of. I had to learn that - for a while after puberty I found my constant erections to be pretty embarrassing - but eventually I stopped letting it bother me. Nothing I could do about it anyway, and you can't let something like that run your life.

I know this is easier said than done, but: "don't be ashamed", that's it all. You always read that adolescents and post-adolescents tend to be erect a lot but when it comes to be naked in front of others it's often not true. There are far less boys with an erection issue than some would like us to believe. Yes, true enough, everyone has a hard-on in the morning and may have the odd one during daytime, but the close to constant erection we deal with here are very rare. I have not had an accident which provoked it, it was only something which developed gradually, starting quite early, before puberty, when my penis sometimes stood horizontally in the morning, just as small as it used to be but standing . A year later I started puberty and my penis grew a little bit and now when it was standing my glans was visibly larger. My erections became more and more frequent and also lasted for longer. When I was suffering most from my condition, approximately from age 13 to age 20, I was having erections which lasted for 15 minutes to 1 hour and which repeated themselves after only a few minutes, my penis staying partially hard in between, and this went on for hours on end. I was having at least one such crisis in the morning and another before lunch, but in the afternoon it didn't take much to trigger another one, getting naked being the surest way to get hard. And I can tell you I was always the only one in the changing rooms or wherever. I only started to accept my condition when I was 17 or 18. Today I'm 34, I'm still prone to erections and I encourage them actually. So try to feel proud of your body. You are entitled to.

Does anyone's penis hurt after a prolonged erection? And what do you do in that case? It is very hard for me (pun intended lol) to get rid of my morning wood if I don't masturbate and if I let my penis stay hard at some point, after an hour or two, my glans gets darker and the whole thing starts hurting. Sometimes I then ejaculate spontaneously and sometimes it eventually gets soft without anything else happening. After my morning wood has gone, one way or another, I don't have any other unwelcome erection during the day. Needless to say I masturbate almost every morning but I don't always have the time and I don't think it's very healthy either.

I agree that the "close to constant" erection problem is rare, but it happens to some of us. Even then, it won't be exactly the same for every guy who experiences it. At the same time, the guy who almost never gets erect is rare too - the other end of the scale. In my teen years there was one other guy who seemed to have the same issue, and if there was anyone else who had the constant problem I never knew about it. The same thing applies to my condition today, the accident provoked non-ischemic priapism, or high flow priapism. That's a rare thing too, happening to something like 20,000 men and boys worldwide every year. When you compare 20,000 to 7.9 billion, today's approximate world population, that's a very small percentage of people. Even rarer is the non-ischemic priapism that doesn't resolve on its own or with medical intervention. I don't have a number for that, just a urologist's statement that some men choose to live with it rather than have surgery that sometimes causes impotence. If I had to guess (and it's purely a guess) I'd say it might be a couple of thousand men worldwide, maybe a little more if you include men who don't have access to medical care.

About penis pain, the only time I've experienced that is when I've been trying to hide an erection, like pushing it up against my stomach and holding it there with something tight fitting. The darker glans is normal I think? Anyway I've had very prolonged erections in the past that never hurt unless I tried to force them into something tight. My current condition causes no pain at all, but it's not a full erection (70/75 percent erect) and it still has some flexibility, so it probably doesn't count.

There's nothing wrong with masturbation, it's normal and pretty much everyone does it. If it helps you get rid of your morning wood, good! Anyway, you should probably mention the situation to your doctor because of the pain. It may be nothing, but if it's something it's better to find out sooner rather than later.

Certainly we're not equal when it comes to erections, some of us need to be stimulated, for others it seems that the blood flows very freely through their penis. I have always had easy boners, partial or complete, but most of the time my penis is swollen to some extent. I don't know I think it's nice and healthy and I wouldn't change for another condition. Of course I'm not all the time really hard, it's mostly only a swelling as I said which makes my penis lift. But even if I'm fully hard I still enjoy it better than a flaccid and small penis.

I TOO WHEN I WAS 10 USED TO SHOW MY SISTER MY HARD penis AND LIKED TO GO OUTDOORS AND SHOW OFF MY HARDON, AND HAD 3 GIRL COUSINS WHEN I WAS ABOUT 11 MADE ME PULL DOWN MY PANTS FOR THEM I BELIEVE IT WAS THE FIRST TIME THEY HAD SEEN A PENIS AND I REMEMBER I GOT A HARDON

I don't remember how it started, it actually went progressively of course, but in my recollection it is as if I went straight from nothing to frequent erections.Truth is that there's a moment when I start to be the object of mockery and therefore become self-conscious about it. I felt shame. A friend told me I shouldn't care, that I never cared about my hard-ons but in reality I hadn't been aware of how often I was hard even before. For the rest of my adolescence I tried not to hide, facing the mockeries. At the end I managed really not to care again.

Yes absolutely a long erection eventually hurts. But for me an erection lasting as long as you describe, an hour or even more needs to be entertained in some manner because my normal erections always only last a few minutes, sometimes up to 10 but rarely longer. Even my morning wood goes away in less time.

Hi Tom nothing to be ashamed of ,just keep jerking your 5 inch penis ,can you cum?

I wouldn't say it is completely normal, for most men don't have this problem, but it is nevertheless completely natural and eventually your erections will diminish. 5'' is on the lower edge of the average size span, nothing to be proud of but nothing to be ashamed of either. My advice would be to dress in a way that it is less noticeable and to "stand up for it" (pun intended) in the changing room. You don't have a choice anyway.

Sometimes I have erections for no reason at all but I have also exhibitionist tendencies, not that I try to show myself naked but if I have to get naked in front of others I get excited, so one way or the other I am erect most of the time when naked be it because I'm already hard or because I get turned on. I've never experienced shame, on the contrary I've always been kind of proud of my erections, especially when I was hard already when I undressed but also when I got hard immediately after. But I don't believe you need to be an exhibitionist not to feel shame. Erections are quite natural and should be accepted. I notice that around me men tend to hide their own hard-ons less, as if I gave them the courage not to.

I don't have the frequent erections which some describe here but I've always suffered from episodic priapism. At the beginning (that's what my parents told me for I don't remember of course) the episodes happened without any regularity, sometimes there was an episode every day for a week, sometimes there was nothing for a month, but then they became more regular, happening once or twice a week and often when there was an episode there were one or more others the same day. My parents were told to watch it because it would be dangerous if they lasted for too long, but usually my penis was back to normal after 30-45 minutes and didn't hurt, it's only when they lasted for more than an hour that the pressure made my penis feel as if it was bruised. Puberty hasn't changed the frequency or the duration of these episodes, but of course by that time I became erect more often, especially in the morning, but these erections, which were more frequent, lasted less and sometimes ended with an ejaculation and I learned to distinguish them from priapism. When I was a child my parents managed to transform the whole thing, priapism and their checking on it, into something something like a game and encouraged me to undress when my penis was "awake" so that they could check the duration of the episodes more easily. Later when I was old enough to check for myself I was still glad to get out of my pants and briefs when it happened especially once my penis had started to grow. I had always been able to explain my condition as a medical problem to others together with my missing foreskin which had to be cut off because it was too narrow and a lot of people were supportive so that I never felt ashamed, not of the priapism but also not of the other erections when they started to happen. Only when I felt that I might ejaculate did I hide. During my adolescence and up to today I felt always at ease with being naked. Today I'm very often naked when at home, alone or with my friend, I undress without any hesitation in changing rooms, public showers etc. and when there is a choice, on the beach for ex., I always go fully naked whether I'm erect or not. I don't thing it should take a condition like mine in order to act like that. Nobody should feel bad about his erections. Nobody should be mocked because of them.

There was a neighbour's son who was the same age as me and who, when we were 14 started to be made fun of at school for his erections. I felt sorry for him, he kind of withdrew from the others, stopped doing things also with me whereas we used to do a lot of stuff together, being the same age and living close to each other. When I got a chance I told him I missed him and that I would like him to come with me on a bike ride. I still didn't know exactly what and how I was going to help him but I wanted badly to and first of all I wanted us to be alone. When we stopped for a pause it was obvious that he was hard. He tried to hide it but I asked him if it didn't hurt. He blushed and turned away but I insisted and told him that I supposed that it must be uncomfortable, that my breasts were growing but that at least I was allowed to have them show wereas he was obliged to hide and that I couldn't imagin what it would be like to push back my breasts all the time. He felt that I was seriously concerned and he said that it didn't hurt but that it was uncomfortable of course and that at home he often undressed. He said it as if he was begging to be allowed to undress and I said that if he wanted to it was no problem for me. He didn't hesitate, unzipped his shorts and took out his penis. I was surprised, it had all gone faster than I imagined and I didn't dare say anything more so we chatted about a lot of other things, then we got on our bikes again, he stayed as he was and after a while he stopped and got dressed again, telling me simply that his erection was finally going away. From there on we talked about his condition, how often he got hard, what it felt like, how he dealt with it. From that day on we saw each other again regularly and it was a tacit agreement that whenever we were alone and he had an erection he could put himself at ease. There never happened anything sexual between us but after some time I started to undress freely in front of him and we really became like brother and sister. I met him again last week, after years of having lost contact and he told me how important this had been for him, to be able to be himself in front of someone who tolerated his condition during these years.

Actually a lot of the stories told here are nice and go straight to the point. If you're often hard, it's not only about hiding, but also about being at ease and both don't go well together. Therefore it's important to have an understanding family or friends. In school I was called an exhibitionist because I showered naked after sports and I remained undressed in the changing room as long as possible but that was simply because I was glad to be able to have it out. When I am in a relation it is always understood that I'm allowed to be naked as often as possible for the same reason. But when I was younger my parents for example wouldn't have it. When I was naked they got angry and told me to spare at least my sister the view of it and to "get some modesty"! Whereas my sister was at ease with it and allowed me to get out of my clothes whenever we were alone. She had asked me why indeed I so often tried to get naked especially since I was always hard and when I told her that it was precisely because of that that I needed to be free she completely understood. Anyway: congratulations to all who write here in support of our condition.