I am 20 years old, and I had sex 2 days ago. It was very intimate, I've been with the girl for almost 2 years and am very attracted to her. Usually, even when we're just kissing, fully clothed, I'll have an erection which is practically continuously there. During foreplay, she gave me a blowjob and palmed my penis causing me to get an erection. However, after I put on a condom and actually penetrated her, it felt like my penis started to soften and lose that initial size of erection. She came several times, with both my finger and my penis. But at the end, I wasn't able to come. She kissed me and palmed me, and I had an erection, but as soon as I'd try to come, I'd start losing my erection. I was absolutely dripping with sweat and my heart was racing, and although I did want to come, it just wouldn't happen.
Has anyone experienced anything like that here? And if so, what are the things I could do to be able to help this trouble I'm facing? It's frustrating, and awfully embarrassing.
I actually ended up apologising to her right at the end because of it, just because I didn't know how to react. She made it feel a lot better by kissing my forehead and telling me that it's alright. I just want it to be perfect for her. I need help.
Don't worry too much. This happens to every guy.
One thing is, when you were inside of her, could you feel her insides through your penis or was it hard to feel much? If it was hard to feel, then maybe you should try those "thinner" condoms.
Also, if you are trying hard to get her to orgasm and not thinking too much about how good it feels for you, then maybe think about that more.
Your girl should be understanding, and it may take a few times for you to get used to having sex.