marijuana addiction and A.D.H.D.

My boyfriend has been a daily smoker, three to six times a day, for the last 12-years. He keeps deciding to quit over the last year and it's been so terrible that I've even thought about staying with friends while he withdrawals. His only symptom is his SEVERE ANGER and irritability. He was also diagnosed with ADHD in elementary school and has used pot as a form of self-medicating. One minute we can be snuggling and the next second, he's throwing our dog because he nipped him (he's a chihuahua) the longest he's been clean since being together is a month and things were going great. When we met, I didn't mind because I smoke too. However, Im a recreational user and I maybe do it once a month or ever-other month. What can I do about this anger? My self-esteem gets knocked down when he gets demeaning with me. And I'm afraid to leave my little dog with him. It doesn't help that he gets the weed from his brother, who only perpetuates the issue. He has no job or career goal and moks my boyfriend when he tells him he wants to better himself with school. I'm trying to stay supportive and positive, however I can't lose myself at his expense. Even when I try to tell him that it won't be like this forever he just gets mad and tells me it's useless. I'm at my wits end. I don't think I can handle him buying a sack, only to promise me he won't get angry and that this is his last sack. Its not fair to me. Please help with suggestions on natural detox and ways to aleveate the anger. The anger is so constant!

OMG!! I feel like I wrote this myself !!! I was a ritalin child. I am now on Adderall XR but I do not wish to get off of it, b/c in all honesty I am thinner than I have ever been and I love that aspect of it. In term of ADD, I feel like my tolerance level lowered. I feel like my brain is going nonstop!! And I take 60 mg!! I have been on this dosage for 10 years. I am 46 years old.

Okay so I've never written a post before but I'm also ADHD and smoked weed for many years i have recently stopped haven't smoked for three weeks. I'm 22 and yes still live with my parents. My parents are Mormon so all I hear is god this, god that, church this, church that, yet I don't think they themselves realize that they themselves have made countless mistakes in life and no matter how much you ask for forgiveness from god it's not gonna change the fact that it's your choice to do what you do. Just like it's still your choice to choose to do what you do under the influence on any substance whether it be alcohol, weed, speed, shrooms, and cocaine. yes I don't know how it effects you I've only done weed, alcohol, and metadate. I know how they effect me in general.  And I have to say hearing my parents b***h about me smoking weed and them complaining about the smell made me wanna quit and I realize. They don't like me when I'm off weed either I've just come to the realization being ADHD you just can't please anyone completely. I can never keep a job for more than a year. I'm not always angry but people do try very hard and I come very close to lashing out at them. When I'm sober my mom seems to think I'm on something else besides weed, which really pushes the buttons. I find if i smoke a bowl I'm calm I keep my cool. I've let my parents see the sober side of me and they don't like it they threaten to throw me out on the streets before I can even find another job. I have currently been looking for a job for the past year, have had no luck. I have come to the point where smoking weed just seems to work, but when I can't find a job that doesn't drug test it becomes kinda hard to get my life together. I haven't taken my metadate for the past five years, I hated the feeling of being on it and my parents forcing me to take it. As soon as I graduated high school I quit taking it and went to weed. I never noticed a negative side effect besides the not sleeping, eating compulsively, and short term memory loss. I did how ever feel I was still able to complete small tasks and concentrate at a higher level than when I was sober I tried college (did two classes) and was able to somewhat keep up with the class not having my book for spanish didn't help me which held me back from the class. However I was able to take as many notes as I could to try and keep up with the class while high. I had never taken spanish before and was the only one who had no experience in spanish. I felt stupid compared to everyone else. One thing that I've notice helps me is listening to music especially dubstep at the moment. If I have dubstep going I react to the music in a positive manner; I move, I get things done, I can complete things I can't do while sober. I feel music is an alternative drug music can be just as addictive as a drug it's all around you; you see it, you hear it, you feel it, and it motivates you. Schools have came to the conclusion that no music helps students well how come the drop out rate has increased since that rule has been enforced, test scores aren't any higher than they used to be. I know many people that smoke weed that I graduated with that have gone to college and that have completed college. No I don't know if they are ADHD. But it makes me wonder how did Albert Einstein do it how did he figure it out. Oh how i wish he was still alive to reveal his secrets to being a smart ADHD person. Some people say that he wasn't ADHD well have any of you read his books? Yes he's written books he talks about it whether he knows it thats what doctors these day and ages diagnosed him with. I can somewhat believe it from what he wrote he always seemed to have alot of energy. But only the close people to him hold the secrets to his past. I feel being ADHD that im capable of doing many different things with proper training i can do anything whether i stick with it has always been the question I've never been able to stick with one thing I've always become bored with activities that i do constantly so I try new things all the time I can never do something for more than a year I get bored with it too easily. I've found that changing it up here and there keeps me interested in activities. I'm sure this probably won't help some of you that much but i hope you've enjoyed reading about my experience of being ADHD just the same.

Man this comment was great. I had fun reading through the whole damn wall of text haha and it makes me happy to know there are people like you out in the world, who are so happy that they actually need to smoke to become more stressed LOL! Good luck with your life Lindy~

I feel pretty much the same as you do. Iam 60 count 'em...60 years old and still dealing with this. i smoked like most others of the late '60s and 70's but quit after getting married and having children.but life was HARD emotionally...now I know it was probably ADHD all the time. At age 50 I was diagnosed with MS and started smoking again because I'd heard of the help it gave to MS sufferers and people I admired like Montel used it for his MS also and man he looked GREAT! But my immediate family felt I was just"drugging"B

But Like you, if I understood correctly,I feel MORE productive, in control and NORMAL when I control my intake. When I don't I go back to how I was for 30 years feeling out of control, lazy,afraid and useless

With ADHD using sativa is just the herbal form of amphetamine ( see university of Idaho study) but stop over medicating. Start your day with a sastiva blast from a handlehld pen size vapourizer such as the "Essential"
At coffee time another hit and at lunchtime a hit. Never get to hihg and at the end of the day switch to indica to relax and calm down. Take no hard drugs if you can as they can lead to bigger mental health issues. Alcohol is also not good. Avoid late night coffee and sugar and eat turkey sandwiches when you get the munchies. The suppliment of tryptophan will really help ( eat turkey). Why does pot work?. I think its because we have excess (DATS) dopamine transporters which need something (ridalin coke nicotine...) to tie them up so that more dopamine can remain available to regulate Exective function. I think that the body resorts to this solution with ADHD people by sucking up your brains endocannibinoid (anandamide) and then as it runs short sending you a craving signal to find exocannibinoids to ingest to make up the shortfall in the body. Normal folks don't have this problem so they dont need herb they can easily quit. Stick with weed and try epilepsy drugs for rapid brain if the herb isn't enough. eating gluten free can also help reduce symptom intensity
Good luck
Savvy Gourmet

i didnt know there were people out there who were going through the exact some thing i am. im going through this realization process now and its somewhat depressing and the more I tried to stop smoking the more "adhd" I got. I thought that maybe i was just someone who needed to be "stoned" to function and then I realized that I really just had undiagnosed adhd and generalized anxiety disorder. Its still hard for me to get used to needing medicine to function like a normal human because i feel like its the same thing as me drinking to relax or smoking to focus but the more i learn about my situation the less judgmental i am on myself.

how are you now ? im going doctors soon i feel like its got to the point i need to go i smoke cannabis daily and i am spending so much money onit, but i hope this will be the last time ever

I am so you.

How did the help go would love to hear back.

I have serious ADHD. Smoked weed to help the symptoms for 8 years. I quit smoking cold turkey and had the same symptoms as you. They lasted close to six months. I still don't feel the same after three years. Very serious stuff. I lost a job and relationship over it. Your body has its own neurotransmitters, and when you put drugs in your body on a regular basis, your body adjusts it's own levels. Then when you take the drugs out, everything is screwed up, your not the same person. I can tell you with certainty that the only way to recover is to abstain 100%, endure the symptoms, and over time your body and brain will adjust back to normal or as close as possible depending on the damage to your body. There is no fix for ADHD. The best treatment is to get a sh*t ton of protein in your diet, to exercise, and stretch your muscles every day. This will help the physiological and mental symptoms immensely. There are some combinations of amino acids and caffeine that have been shown in studies to help also. Drugs like weed, adderall, coke, they make you feel better for a small fraction of time, a few minutes, hours, days, but the long-term damage they can cause to someone with ADHD is scary.

Interesting theory on the DATS and needing "exo" substances to tie the receptors up so the rest of the dopamine can be used. Have you ever read anything about this mechanism or any published studies?