Dear lonly
Sadly, some men have been brought up with the idea that women do not enjoy sex, and some have been taught that nice girls don't. So, some try and get it over with quickly. This mindset may come from older women in his life (mother/grandmother/aunt), or it may come from religious teaching. Or it might be that he feels inadequate when it comes to satisfying a woman. It may be that he does not know what to do. There may be something else in his 'history'. What are your (and his) thoughts on masturbation? Many people take baggage into their marriage.
It may be that just talking about your needs, as already suggested, will be sufficient to 'get the ball rolling'. However, you say that he won't give you oral sex, and that indicates you have asked him, and he has refused. Has he given any reasons?
Tell him how much you love him and want to express that in a mutual way.
What are there cultural or religious backgrounds of you both? How old are you both, and where do you live? Perhaps knowing a bit more about you will enable more directed and specific advice.
Hope this helps a bit. Hope to hear from you soon.