What am I supposed to do. Menopause is destroying my marriage. He was understanding only in the beginning, now it is a completely different story. I cannot say that it is not my fault, I really became nervous all the time, yelling at everybody and crying for no good reason. Still, is it enough for a break up?
Of course not. But, you must realize that your husband is being very, very ignorant here. In this situation you are the victim, no one else. The problems you are experiencing happen because of hormone imbalance ant that is something you cannot affect. It is not your fault, it is just a phase in woman's life that will pass eventually. Perhaps there are some other motives for your husband's behavior? If not, then try to explain him what you are going through. Anxieties, stress, lack of concentration, not to mention physical problems.
Having been on the receiving end of my wife's bitter tongue laced verbal assaults for absolutely no reason, and watching my son's be subjected to the same thing, during the years she's suffered from menopause, I hardly consider her a "victim".
Pass eventually ?????? 15 years enough ????
Thanks H3 finally some that is going through what I am. I'm tired of being the punching bag making me feel like I'm the reason she is going through this while she is so nice to everyone else.
My husband does not understand nor does he believe me about menopause and the lack of sexual need. How can I convince him that my sex drive is gone because of the menopause?
Yeah. Same here. I’m THE punching bag. Yes I’m only human and from time to time need to vent, like now, and tell people how horrible my wife can get. Doesn’t matter if the situation has absolutely no relation to me, I will be the one to blame. Its sucks. However, I have been in a voyage to research extensively what the heck happened to my beautiful lovely sweet wife. I still love her, of course.
I realized that, eventually it does go away.... it’s not her, i have to tell myself that she had just gone a mental change that she had no control over. This is all hormones and not her conscious mind doing this. I’ve learned to bite my tongue ( which is extremely hear for me) and just let her say what she needs to say. Eventually her small window throughout the month of normal comes back and she realizes that she was wrong...I don’t bloat or make her feel guilty, I just tell her “ it’s ok sweetheart, I still love you”.
Doing my research really did help me realize what she is actually going through. I encourage all the guys on here complaining of their wives treating them like dirt, to do their research on their wife’s condition.
For the record my wife is still beautiful and loving. Everything is temporary - like Menopause.
I realized that, eventually it does go away.... it’s not her, i have to tell myself that she had just gone a mental change that she had no control over. This is all hormones and not her conscious mind doing this. I’ve learned to bite my tongue ( which is extremely hear for me) and just let her say what she needs to say. Eventually her small window throughout the month of normal comes back and she realizes that she was wrong...I don’t bloat or make her feel guilty, I just tell her “ it’s ok sweetheart, I still love you”.
Doing my research really did help me realize what she is actually going through. I encourage all the guys on here complaining of their wives treating them like dirt, to do their research on their wife’s condition.
For the record my wife is still beautiful and loving. Everything is temporary - like Menopause.