My BF quit smoking pot and lost his sex drive

Wow, i know its already been over a year, but im feel really blessed to have found your reflection....by that i mean im in exactly EXACTLY word for word the same position as you....
He was always smiling, saying beautiful sweet nothings, and always like u said all over me constantly touching me, looking into my eyes and saying such beautiful things......

like you i wanted him to stop he was smoking every hour!.... but he wants to make me happy its been 3 days, and everything youve explained my situation reflects.... i feel like i dont know him anymore, was that the real him? Or did i fall in love with a lie.... he seems emotional less., no sex drive... i feel undesirable now that hes coming off.... even though i know its a symptom it hurts deep..... The difference is he thinks him not being high doesnt make him a different person or changes him....... denial.....

im very hurt and alone... and although i know its been a year for u. please respond and share and update of your story in hopes that we can reflect and share with one another.
love, light & blessings

Poor guy. He makes a huge gesture and stops smoking for you and you're online seeming desperate after 8 days! Sounds like you might have some misplaced concepts of love, care, and support.

Though Marijuana should never be talked about as if it were a serious life-destroying drug, everyone needs to accept that there are some side effects when you stop after long term use. This isn't like discussing opiate withdrawals... It should be on-par with the discontinuation of long term caffeine usage. It sucks, but no one around you should be treating you like a recovering drug addict.

To the original posting... Couldn't your serious judgment, fear, and misplaced concern be the cause of his sexual dysfunction? I know Id have a hard time performing if my partner treated me as you've treated him. Pot withdrawal seems like just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to performance concerns in your relationship.

Best of luck. However, I wouldn't have high hopes for a successful relationship with the foundation you're laying. In many ways you've wronged him far more by judging him than he could ever have harmed you by not being honest about his usage.

It's quite simple, really.  Many don't come to realize a simple little lesson when messing around with her.  To put it bluntly, she is a stealer of souls. 

Many approach her without the slightest semblance of deference to her power, and fail to offer her the due respect and caution she rightly deserves.

I find many who jump to her defense quite amusing.  Anyone who has even the slightest propensity for tapping into their own intuition can see this energetic fact plain as day.

There is a price to be paid for the rendezvous of human awareness and that of the inorganic beings around us, and for some of these entities the price is high indeed.

But don't you fellows worry, go back to your bubblers.  She is quite adept at pulling the proverbial rug right out from under you without you having so much the inkling of suspicion.

Torch one up.  Huehuehue...

my bf is opposite since smoking pot. when i met him he wasnt on it and was warm and loving now i am seeing him again and have learned his smoking pot and his totallly opposite. cold and distant.

my bf's opposite was great when he wasnt on it. now he is after not seeing him for 6 months i noticed the difference. now he smokes it his uncaring, cold distant.

I wouldn't want to have sex with you either if you made me quit smoking pot. I don't care how old this thread is, it needed to be said. 

Ive just began my detox from cannabis after smoking it for 12-14 years, found this thread helpful and its good to know other people are in similar circumstances and experiencing the same things!

hello i know what your going thur the same thing has happened to me as well and i dont know what to do about tis problem.

Prescisely what needs to be said. Thank you.

Cocaine is a plant? A lot of dangerous substances can come from a plant... it's not a rose.

You're ridiculous, it's pot not heroine. I can't tell you how many kids here at University of Chicago (one of the best schools in the country) smoke pot daily and still get amazing grades and do wonderful things. Every experience you had with him was completely real don't believe the BS you see in the movies, you can smoke cannabis and still be a productive member of society.

Now, I am writing this though the topic is very old. Also, I want any one else there having a heart ache from the same type of issue with their significant other to know this.
When I smoked pot (I've only stopped for a few days now) my sex drive was impeccable. I wanted it daily (To be blunt) and I could have it going on for ages. My fiance on the other hand, he didn't have a high sex drive like I did due to smoking pot.
It caused a ton of arguments for us, because I felt unwanted/ugly/undesirable && all the stereotypical things a woman thinks in the bedroom. Granted I still feel a bit of that, but I am trying to get over it.
Back on topic, now that I've quit.. My sex drive has decreased quite a bit. I only want to have sex for 5 minutes & just want it to end, I tell him fiance to "finish" whenever he wants because it's that intolerable. Now in a sense, he knows how I felt because of my lack of sex drive. But honestly, just give it time. You two have been together for a while now & you can clearly work out anything including sexual issues. Just open up to him & tell him how you feel. I know it's difficult, but another option is try seducing him more, if you take control he may appeal to that much more.

Hope I helped in any way!

I think it's horrible to try and change a person. If he changes then he should do it for himself, not because he's being pressured.

That's almost certainly not what you want to hear but I believe it to be true and I myself wouldn't let that happen to me. Don't sell who you are to fall in love. Weed doesn't change your personality, we all have our vices, maybe don't be so judgemental. Just because society generally tends to agree with you doesn't make your way of thinking right. We are really still at the start of medical science, we don't even fully understand why we dream yet.

Find out all the stuff we don't know, it will make you a lot less judgemental.

A relationship isn't about making someone fit more to who you are, it's a connection of two seperate minds which is special because despite your differences together you form something beautiful

I don't smoke pot, but why can't you accept him for who he is? Why would you throw out his pot? I don't think that's ok-you're making him miserable. If he was as great to you as you said he was while he was a smoker why would you want to change him onto someone he's not?

Pot brings out his personality rather... and on the contrary, he's truer while he's using.

At the first few years of using, it does cause certain changes in a person's thought process but personality wise, not much. It's a rather advantageous phase imo. But then eventually tolerance and dependence builds up and the "enhancing" side of it just flats out. He's been smoking for so long he would have gotten used to it. He probably won't feel much smoking. Take it away at that stage it would just cripple the person. For someone who smokes for this long, quitting is like quitting cigarettes. It takes about a year to fully quit.