Hi everyone!
I'm a 30 year old single guy. According to social criteria I'm a successful person. I have a PhD degree in engineering from a university which is always in top 30 in the world. I started my professional job 20 months ago and during this period I have got two promotions and now I'm a manager. I have lots of friends and people enjoy being around me. I have a very good relationship with my parent and sister. I speak 3 languages and now working on the 4th one. I have traveled a lot and can socilize with anyone from any country on any subject. Financially I'm doing OK but not amazing. I work out 3 times a week and have a athletic body. I'm very energetic and I have told that I'm hyper active.
I started smoking pot when I was 26 and since then I've been smoking from once to 4 times a week. The weed has really changed my life because since I have been a smoker, my brains works much better and I'm much more concentrated. I can solve more complicated problems and understand engineering facts much better. When I'm high, I always come up with brilliant ideas which motivates me and drives me in life. I'm more artistic when I'm high and enjoy the music to the end.
The only down part of my life is that I haven't had a girl friend past 3 years. I have dated lots lots of girls but find them either ugly or not bright.
Since 6 months ago I came up with the idea of quitting smoking weed but I'm unable to do that. I have no good reason or no motivation of doing it. I think maybe by being high in past 4 years I have built a fantasy world that not most of the people can understand and enter and that's why I don't have a girl friend.
Today I came up with the idea of going to a rehab center but then I though if I don't convince myself that I have to quick, if I don't have enough reasons then I will never quit. So I though to share my story with people and see if they can give me some reasons to quit. any suggestion is very appreciated!
Thanks!
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I only have a MSc in engineering from a university that is only top 150 in the world. Acc. social criteria I am not a successful person, but I am happy with myself nonetheless... (to hell with social criteria :) ) I hope you accept my opinion. ;)
Weed can be helpful for hyperactive people, I think because it helps you to concentrate deeply at one thing at a time. I also recall a story of a math professor that used to smoke once a week in order to solve problems or to come up with new insights.
There is a lot of debate whether a relationship where one person smokes weed will work out. In some cases it does, but I think in the majority of cases it will sooner or later make things very difficult. That's based on common sense and experience only, not on thorough research.
What I read about you is that up till now you have been incredibly focussed on being successful in every field. The only thing you're not successful at is a real meaningful relationship. Some of my questions to you are: Why do you want a relationship? Because it completes your queste for success or because you really miss having a person to be intimate with emotionally and physically? Will weed help with that? What do you expect from having a girlfriend? Are the girls you dated really ugly or not bright or are there other, hidden, reasons that you can't find a girl of your liking? What kind of girls are you dating? Maybe you're looking for the wrong type of girl in the wrong type of places? Are you really putting an effort in developing a relationship? Aren't you too married with your carreer to be able to start a real meaningful relationship? You don't need to give answers, I guess you should try to dig deeper and find the answers yourself. Take your time for it, as it will provide you a key for how to live the rest of your life happily. In the process I think you will also find the answer on your question what the real role of weed is in your current life and if it should play a role in the rest of your life.
I think it wouldn't be a bad idea to contact a rehab centre or, more independent and less intrusive, a psychologist, to see if they can help you with answering some of the questions above. As you are hyperactive, you need to accept that things like this are processes that need time, so be patient. I sincerely wish you the best.
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dfI am not an engineer...but i am a very intelligently packed full of information and knowledge Nurse. I want to say that as a woman, i personally am more concerned with a guy who is honest, cautious, and respectively responsible. if your not facing losing your job, being arrested to get your bud, and youve been living life and along the way you are a good, decent man...hun theres nothing about partaking in some burn time in ur own home and as a relaxant for your mind. I have ADHD and Im 33...bud truly does slow mmy thought process and make my mind flow without the anxiousness due to racing thoughts and energy bouncing off my brain to ,y legs...it worked. I will not allow myself to risk being arrested,losing my kids or career due to ramifications facing any one in this society of few states who legalized medicinal use of bud. so its risk vs benefit in the life you have.
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hey as a experienced weed smoker in the past i smoked for many years when i was in my late teens up to my mid twenties so i no how it feels i became very lazy myself enjoying the more relaxed life style i can tell u quitting is the best thing ive ever done i quit at the start of this year . Im not goin to lie to you the first few weeks are horrible but u gota stay strong parania stupid thoughts they will all come the sideeefects arent nice but i guess everyone is effected differently u just gota stick to your guns and do it ur mind will be at ease and u can start getting back to the better things in life
just keep occupied it will be the best change ur make in your life believe if u need to ask me anything go ahead will be more than helpful good luck Guest!.
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