I fell in love with this wonderful man 2 years ago. We fell madly in love, the chemistry between us was unbelievable! He was happy all the time, affectionate, fun and we made love EVERYDAY! He made me feel like the sexiest woman alive and he desired me so much. Life was great!! THEN, I found a joint in his coat pocket about 2 months ago and of course he lied about it. He said his cousin gave it to him and insisted he took it. He convinced me that he used to smoke pot years ago, but gave it up way before he met me. I believed him and flushed the pot down the toilet. Things were back to normal until I found a bag of weed under the couch. All hell broke loose. He finally admitted to me that he has been smoking pot daily (2-3 times aday) for 15 years!! I was in total shock after learning he was stoned throughout our entire relationship. Was that fun-loving, affectionate and sexy man really because he was stoned? I felt and still feel sick. I feel betrayed!! I told him that he needed to get help because I couldn't live like this. He said he had a problem and wanted to stop and that he was sorry for hurting me. He hates himself for that. Were all the beautiful moments we shared all a lie? Does he even remember any of them? God, this hurts more than I thought as I 'm writing my pain. He quit smoking because he said he didn't want to lose me. It's only been 8 days (I do feel proud of him, but I am very angry inside for all the lies and sneaking this sh*t behind my back for soo long) I'm trying to be as supportive as I can while he goes through these withdrawels he is experiencing, but it's really affecting our relationship. We haven't made love in all 8 days...he has NO sex drive at all and is moody and unaffectionate. It's like he is someone else, not the man I fell in live with and it hurts like hell. He hasn't smiled in 8 days either. It's like he has one desire in life, and that is smoking pot. If he was still using, he would be happy and his hands would be all over me. He would look into my eyes and tell me the most beautiful things that would really touch my heart. But, not now! Is he really that person I described earlier, or did the pot make him that way. He is clearly miserable without it but says he would be even more miserable without me but I can't live this way. Will we ever have sex again? He said there is nothing I can do to make him happy with himself. It's like he has no sprit and quite frankly, this whole thing is killing mine. He said he is going through some really hard times right now mentally, after quitting and he said it's exhausting to think so much. All he thinks about is wanting to feel "normal" again and his brain is wondering where the pot is. Please help me! Will things ever be the same again?? Is life as I know it OVER? I feel torn because I really love him, or at least the man I thought he was. This is a tough one! Thank you for taking the time to read this.....
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I can understand the situation very well. An ex of mine was bi-polar and wasn't good with prescribed medication so he chose to smoke weed instead. He controlled his moods by smoking weed and when he ran out he would become very difficult to deal with. It could be that it isn't a loss of sex drive but instead his normal moods. Maybe he has a form of depression or perhaps even manic depression (bi-polar). Then again he could feel resentment towards you for making him do that and maybe he feels if he acts like this then you will give in and let him smoke. Talk to him about things like that and ask why he began smoking weed in the first place.
As to if all those good things were just a lie. I wouldn't think so, rather it would probably be that he wants to do all those things for you and smoking weed gave him the ability to do so. Maybe I'm just relating to my own past experience too much.
As to if all those good things were just a lie. I wouldn't think so, rather it would probably be that he wants to do all those things for you and smoking weed gave him the ability to do so. Maybe I'm just relating to my own past experience too much.
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I also have problems with my boyfriend and I don't know who I can talk about this with. No one, apparently, that is why I am here. He was using marijuana two or three times per week, and I don't mind it. He has his life and he is doing what he wants to do in his free time, that is how we work. But I never could imagine that marijuana and sex can be that connected. He doesn't take a marijuana because now he feels pain in his head when he does it, so he stopped. But he lost interest in sex. And I don't know what to do. He is like - OK, so what, I can't do a lot about it, and I am paying a price. I am desperate and I don't want to find another boy just to be full in my sexual life.
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Know that marijuana can simply be a mood stabalizer. When he is high, he is still the same person, and he remembers everything. You should not be so hard on him and maybe just let him smoke it. for 15 years it has kept him steady. Who are you to judge him?
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I heard that meth can increase sex drive though...until the 6 month mark, where it starts rotting one's brain.
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It has only been eight days. He is suffering from marijuana withdrawal symptoms. And those include moodiness, lack of a sex drive, etc. After a couple months now, it should only get better. Try supporting him through this rough time, it helps.
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You obviously know what the problem is: you forced him to give up doing something he liked (something that is PROVEN to be mostly harmless), something that wasn't hurting you or your relationship until you called him out on it, and now he's depressed. It sounds like your issue was his lying about it, and not so much that he smoked. You could have discussed it with him and compromised a little instead of saying you "can't live like this."
Let's say you liked meat and he was vegan. You only ate veggies around him, but had burgers or steaks when he wasn't around. No harm to him at all, but when he found out, he freaked out and forced you not to eat something HE believed to be bad for you. You would feel bad about lying to him, but be honest; you would probably resent him a LOT, and not feel like being affectionate with him for a while.
I think you should both re-evaluate your priorities. You need to decide if being with a pothead is really that bad, and he needs to decide if he wants you controlling his life.
Let's say you liked meat and he was vegan. You only ate veggies around him, but had burgers or steaks when he wasn't around. No harm to him at all, but when he found out, he freaked out and forced you not to eat something HE believed to be bad for you. You would feel bad about lying to him, but be honest; you would probably resent him a LOT, and not feel like being affectionate with him for a while.
I think you should both re-evaluate your priorities. You need to decide if being with a pothead is really that bad, and he needs to decide if he wants you controlling his life.
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First off marijuana is the furthest thing from harmless only people who ignore the truth to justify there pot smoking say this. Generally they are stoners themselves and don't know much about biology. A note to you people - no one cares if you want to smoke it and you don't have to justify it to the rest of us by spreading a rumor that pot is harmless!!!
THC is a mild form of acid and causes many physical problems but the major is the phsychological problems associated with longterm use! Your boyfriend probably suffers from depression which can be masked easily by alchohol and drug addiction and he will need to speak to a professional.....if he is too proud try reading Feeling Good by Dr. Burns
Marijuana has been proven in many studies to be a leading cause of depression in males, it also inhibits the production of testosterone and your boyfriends sex drive was probably fed by THC instead of the true chemical in our body.
I hope you guys are able to tackle this problem quitting is the right thing to do! Our bodies produce natural mood enhancers 10 times better than THC it's too bad that weed surpresses this. Your boyfriend just needs to get that chemical production back up to par!
THC is a mild form of acid and causes many physical problems but the major is the phsychological problems associated with longterm use! Your boyfriend probably suffers from depression which can be masked easily by alchohol and drug addiction and he will need to speak to a professional.....if he is too proud try reading Feeling Good by Dr. Burns
Marijuana has been proven in many studies to be a leading cause of depression in males, it also inhibits the production of testosterone and your boyfriends sex drive was probably fed by THC instead of the true chemical in our body.
I hope you guys are able to tackle this problem quitting is the right thing to do! Our bodies produce natural mood enhancers 10 times better than THC it's too bad that weed surpresses this. Your boyfriend just needs to get that chemical production back up to par!
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It sounds like to want to change him, and he is resentful of it. Not to say that he should or shouldn't smoke pot, but the decision has to be because he wants to do it, not that you want him to do it. A person can not change another person or be changed by another person. They can only change themselves, when they are ready.
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Let that man do what he does and if it affects u physically, mentally, or socially leave it b, u would'nt want somebody told u 2 leave something alone if u liked it u would'nt stop no help would make u stop u make u stop i can relate my girl is one of those people who thinks she's so perfect because she don't smoke or drink but lil does she know marijuana make u fun not sad like alcolhal drinking makes sex better and so does weed drinkers kill them-selves weed smokers don't weed makes your appetite better drinking does'nt u tend 2 lose control drinking not weed smoking leave that man alone and let him do what he has 2 do 2 control himself u really wanna help him let him vent 2 u about his life and don't tell him he's wrong 4 how he feels and show him what right feels like take care of your man GOD put some people n a better position than others to teach one another how 2 b better the devil helps you not believe people can change so u can do the devils work or GODS work you can't make people change they have 2 change themselves we can't do that unless we're comfortable there aint nothing n the bible that tells u not 2 smoke weed that human laws and human laws don't have one law from the bible get your mind right we have gays out here fighting for a right but it says n the bible no same sex sex lets b real stop b n so selfish
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I have a degree in Biochemistry and molecular biology , and I have taken a number of undergraduate psychology classes. I am not a stoner and I do not need to justify smoking, or using any drugs. The statement that THC is a mild for of Acid is very inaccurate.
The psycoreactive compound in marijuana is THC. THC acts on the CB1 and CB2 receptors also known as canibanoids. Canibanoids are seemingly specific to THC, hens the name. The intracellular and intercellular signaling that occurs effects very different regions of the brain from LSD. LSD operates by being metabolized. Once metabolized the newly-formed metabolite causes a build up of calcium around the neurons in the brain and induces and emergency response that results in immediate cell death releasing a wide variety of neuro-transmitters that are not normally released and thus makes abnormal connections. Also as part of the emergency response your heart rate accelerates. This stimulation and the fact that they are both illegal drugs may be the only common ground between the two. Also there is definite damage that is done as a result of long term LSD abuse, and in some cases acute abuse (most likely post traumatic stress disorder). There is much conflicting information about the long term effects of THC abuse, as there is much inter individual variability in the number of canibinoid receptors people have.
In short THC is not a mild form of LSD, and the only definite long term health problems are those that come with consistently smoking anything.
I can understand how this difference in life styles is problematic and THC has a very strong psycological addiction in some individuals. But please don't listen to of spread in accurate information (guest).
The psycoreactive compound in marijuana is THC. THC acts on the CB1 and CB2 receptors also known as canibanoids. Canibanoids are seemingly specific to THC, hens the name. The intracellular and intercellular signaling that occurs effects very different regions of the brain from LSD. LSD operates by being metabolized. Once metabolized the newly-formed metabolite causes a build up of calcium around the neurons in the brain and induces and emergency response that results in immediate cell death releasing a wide variety of neuro-transmitters that are not normally released and thus makes abnormal connections. Also as part of the emergency response your heart rate accelerates. This stimulation and the fact that they are both illegal drugs may be the only common ground between the two. Also there is definite damage that is done as a result of long term LSD abuse, and in some cases acute abuse (most likely post traumatic stress disorder). There is much conflicting information about the long term effects of THC abuse, as there is much inter individual variability in the number of canibinoid receptors people have.
In short THC is not a mild form of LSD, and the only definite long term health problems are those that come with consistently smoking anything.
I can understand how this difference in life styles is problematic and THC has a very strong psycological addiction in some individuals. But please don't listen to of spread in accurate information (guest).
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I have a degree in Biochemistry and molecular biology, and I have taken a number of undergraduate psychology courses. I am not a stoner and I do not need to justify smoking, or using any drugs. The statement that THC is a mild for of Acid is very inaccurate.
The psycoreactive compound in marijuana is THC. THC acts on the CB1 and CB2 receptors also known as canibanoids. Canibanoids are seemingly specific to THC, hens the name. The intracellular and intercellular signaling that occurs effects very different regions of the brain from LSD. LSD operates by being metabolized. Once metabolized the newly-formed metabolite causes a build up of calcium around the neurons in the brain and induces and emergency response that results in immediate cell death releasing a wide variety of neuro-transmitters that are not normally released and thus makes abnormal connections. Also as part of the emergency response your heart rate accelerates. This stimulation and the fact that they are both illegal drugs may be the only common ground between the two. Also there is definite damage that is done as a result of long term LSD abuse, and in some cases acute abuse (most likely post traumatic stress disorder). There is much conflicting information about the long term effects of THC abuse, as there is much inter individual variability in the number of canibinoid receptors people have.
In short THC is not a mild form of LSD, and the only definite long term health problems are those that come with consistently smoking anything.
I can understand how this difference in life styles is problematic and THC has a very strong psycological addiction in some individuals. But please don't listen to of spread in accurate information (guest).
The psycoreactive compound in marijuana is THC. THC acts on the CB1 and CB2 receptors also known as canibanoids. Canibanoids are seemingly specific to THC, hens the name. The intracellular and intercellular signaling that occurs effects very different regions of the brain from LSD. LSD operates by being metabolized. Once metabolized the newly-formed metabolite causes a build up of calcium around the neurons in the brain and induces and emergency response that results in immediate cell death releasing a wide variety of neuro-transmitters that are not normally released and thus makes abnormal connections. Also as part of the emergency response your heart rate accelerates. This stimulation and the fact that they are both illegal drugs may be the only common ground between the two. Also there is definite damage that is done as a result of long term LSD abuse, and in some cases acute abuse (most likely post traumatic stress disorder). There is much conflicting information about the long term effects of THC abuse, as there is much inter individual variability in the number of canibinoid receptors people have.
In short THC is not a mild form of LSD, and the only definite long term health problems are those that come with consistently smoking anything.
I can understand how this difference in life styles is problematic and THC has a very strong psycological addiction in some individuals. But please don't listen to of spread in accurate information (guest).
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Cannabis (marijuana), does have a main ingredient, THC, but it is in NO WAY acid (that line that THC is a mild form of acid is as far as I know only from a Family Guy episode and is a parody of govt. demonizing of weed with BS "facts"; the idea that someone would take a cartoon so seriously to the point where they reference points made in it, I can't help but laugh out loud and wake up my girlfriend...); and it DOESN'T affect your sex-drive in anything but positive ways. I've smoked pot almost daily for over 12 years, and I've still got a hyperactive sex drive; cannabis is the most efficient aphrodisiac I've heard of - this reason alone will keep me from quitting cannabis until I die. It just makes sex so much better, I don't see any reason to do anything sexual without smoking it beforehand. It's not an addiction thing, it's a preference. Why wouldn't I want sex to feel better? That's your bf's problem, I almost guarantee it. 15 years of Having great pot-fueled sex being brought to an unwanted and abrupt halt would turn anyone off - maybe forever. Let him smoke again, for Pete's sake. You sound like you need to get high and experience some truly euphoric sex =)
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Ok 1st all I love pot and will eventually smoke again.
I've quit smoking pot & ciggys for about 5 days now. I feel Like sh*t. My reason for quiting is when im high I dont accoplish much and I need to move on and get somthing better for myself.
I tried pot when I was 12 , been smoking every day since I was 14 approx 2-3 hits every 1-2 hours. I am now 20.
My problem is I havent gotten a bonner in all 5 days and Im use to several in a day.
I dont care about the withdrawl pains , or the lack of appatite. I knew that would happen I've quit once or twice in the past. But Never have I NOT been able to get it up .
I plan on not smoking all summer but if things don't change I might be forced to pick up the habbit alot sooner than I thought .
Any help????
Ps: Ginger tea helps increase your appatite If you cant eat whiles trying to quit.
I've quit smoking pot & ciggys for about 5 days now. I feel Like sh*t. My reason for quiting is when im high I dont accoplish much and I need to move on and get somthing better for myself.
I tried pot when I was 12 , been smoking every day since I was 14 approx 2-3 hits every 1-2 hours. I am now 20.
My problem is I havent gotten a bonner in all 5 days and Im use to several in a day.
I dont care about the withdrawl pains , or the lack of appatite. I knew that would happen I've quit once or twice in the past. But Never have I NOT been able to get it up .
I plan on not smoking all summer but if things don't change I might be forced to pick up the habbit alot sooner than I thought .
Any help????
Ps: Ginger tea helps increase your appatite If you cant eat whiles trying to quit.
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My first impression when I read your post is you have blatant aggression and you sound so insecure that for the simple fact that your partners been relaxing and getting high, everything's ruined now.
Well maybe you need a legion of bloggers to reassure you before you can trust/be with your partner again but wow 15 years huh, without much hitches by the sounds of it.
A genuine relationship has insued but perhaps it would be better to throw it all away due to fear of the unknown and your lack of information you have.
Or you could continue to dominate him into jumping through every hoop you set and perform every demand you make, till he instigates a break up, if you couldn't pick up on it that was a lot of sarcasim.
My advice is wake the F*ck up, start acting like an adult and use communication, patience, understanding and work towards a situation and life that suits both of you, a lot of people that get divorced fail at the formentioned things and comprimise.
Life is short why question what's good and works?
Peace.
Well maybe you need a legion of bloggers to reassure you before you can trust/be with your partner again but wow 15 years huh, without much hitches by the sounds of it.
A genuine relationship has insued but perhaps it would be better to throw it all away due to fear of the unknown and your lack of information you have.
Or you could continue to dominate him into jumping through every hoop you set and perform every demand you make, till he instigates a break up, if you couldn't pick up on it that was a lot of sarcasim.
My advice is wake the F*ck up, start acting like an adult and use communication, patience, understanding and work towards a situation and life that suits both of you, a lot of people that get divorced fail at the formentioned things and comprimise.
Life is short why question what's good and works?
Peace.
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