My bf tells his friends about our sex life etc, I'm embarrassed!

im sorry for what you are going thru.I GIVE YOU MY ADVICE WITH THE HOPE THAT YOU CLEARLY UNDERSTAND MY ADVICE.im a survivor of domestic violence and to THIS IS TWO RED FLAGS!... i think you should definitely stop having sex with him. im sure you have your reasons for being with him but love he is disrespecting you in a most private way.i understand he is totally different from that when you are together.from personal experience, i believe men/women who do this are 'setting the stage' for how they want they relatinshiop to be.and your boyfriend is trying to take control in a way so that when you get used to it and give in to his ways HE CAN DO WHATEVER AND YOU WILL THINK ITS NORMAL.i mean if you stay with him you will give in.instead of him telling everyone about you sexually YOU will advertise yourself to others....kinda like a prostitute does.and him carrying your panties around is him holding something personal of yours to keep you aware that he is the one running the relationship. after all of that you will believe what he has made your life to be.in a few years he will be holdign YOUR CHILD against you to keep you aware that he is running the relationship.when you have a child he will have you do drugs so he can later say YOU WERE AN ADDICT and of course it will be true(even tho he brainwashed you to do it).the bottom line is YOUR CHILD WILL BE WITH A MONSTER bc he will have many many people to say what type of person you will be. i know this may be shocking to you and it is confusing as hecky!YOU CAN STOP WHAT HES DOING RIGHT NOW IF YOU WANT TO. MISS LADY,YOU DONT HAVE TO BE A BILLBOARD OF PROSTITUTION.YOU DONT HAVE TO ENDURE TEH HUMILATION HE IS CAUSING YOU. please read m advice on how to get away from all of that advertising.I STRONGL ADVISE YOU TO LEAVE HIM THO but if you do stay TEACH HIM HOW TO TREAT YOU.

1. to make sure he dont flip out CALL HIM DONT MEET HIM!

2. tell him how much you dislike what he is doing.he will get defensive and say its nothing big;its not his fault;you are too worried abut other people;he cant tell people what to say;etcetc....now that you know what to call his 'displaying acts' tell him that you are seeing things in him that are RED FLAGS.youre gonna have to FIRMLY let him know that YOU KNOW THE SIGNS NOW. i take it you are young and unaware of any abuse-LETS KEEP YOU SAFE IN THAT SAME WAY.

3. after yall have gotten the matter of discussion out the way TELL HIM YOU NEED SOME SPACE. hes really gonna flip out and THATS WHY you need to call him with all of this-YOU DONT WANT PEOPLE TO BE SAYING NEXT HOW HE MADE YOU WALK NAKED OUTSIDE JUMPING AND DOING CATWHEELS DO YOU? he is gonna realize you tryin to break away from learning his ways so he gotta up the notch on you.doing this over teh phone you will be safer from his getting a hold on you...emotional or physical.

4. nwo tell him you have to go bc you have chores/homework/you have to think/dinners ready whatever BUT YOU HAVE TO HANG UP.this is very important that you dont let him keep you on the phone.if he cant keep you on the phone then he cant manipulate you to come and see him.YOU ARE SAFE.you gotta TEACH him this is about you and not him.you gotta teach him this is about how you feel not him.it only takes  YOU long enough to say what you gotta say AND HANG UP to teach him you dont like his ways and you are not comfortable with his ways.trust me you can do this over the phone PLEASE DONT DO THIS IN PERSON.

5. go talk to your mom/dad and let her know that you have told your boyfriend you need some space. yes,even if she didnt know you had a boyfriend....its important that you tell her so she will know its distant for now.you dont have to go into details of what he has done RIGHT NOW. in the upcoming days and weeks if he continues harrasing you or trying to force you at least SHE WILL KNOW WHY YOU DISTANCED FROM HIM AND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND BETTER.most mothers dont encourage their daughters to be with a man like that when she find out how he is treating her daughter.DONT BE SCARED. SHE LOVES YOU AND GAVE BIRTH TO YOU SO THAT YOU CAN GROW UP FINISH COLLEGE AND MAKE HER A GRANDMOTHER!

6. call one of your old girlfriends,cousins that you didnt have time for no more and make plans to go get yalls nails done,to the mall,park etcetc. fill up your time with other people and other things than being with him OR PEOPLE WHO HANG WITH HIM AND TAUNTED YOU. 

7. turn your television to INVESTIGATIVE DISCOVERY or LIFETIME. both channels are for women.they both show us how a man(women2) uses manipulative tactics, then they set the stage and ruin our lives most times they kill us. I WISH YOU THE BEST!!if you ever need to message me please dont hesitate.

8.GO GIVE YOUR MOM/DAD A HUG AFTER READING THIS BC YOU MAY NOT HAVE MANY LEFT IF YOU DONT GET OFF OF HIS STAGE.