My boyfriend is disgusted by sex.

hello,

if he doesnt take of your needs, leave him. many men would glad to have a nice girl like you.

is it possible that he is a homosexual? i went out with a man for 2 years, thought he liked me for me (never initiated sex) we broke up and 3 years after the breakup, he told me he was super gay. he's still my best friend.

its possible that it is not the case, im just saying this because it is a possibility.

regards, take care

Here is sort of a twist for you. I always think meeting people in the middle, while making serious progress is a good alternative. I can only assume from the other replys telling you to leave him cold, that you obviously love this guy very much if you have already taken on part of the blame. So there are a couple of things I wanted to cover, to both open your eyes, and his eyes at the same time, and possibly save the relationship. You may want to try a wide range of varrying sex subjets on him to not only educate him on how big the world of sex is, but that it's just not limited to that one thing he caught his parents doing that he finds to be so terrible.

He might find you irresistable if you were decked out in a Shiney Goth rubber set and being ready to whip him with your painful whip if he doesn't lick your boots. Not that you would approve but he could get turned on if there were two women in the bed ready for him. You could douch with a 2 quart warm bag of water with a tablespoon of Castle Soap, that makes you feel good, smell good, and taste good. If he's never had a blow job, get him to allow you to try this on him, and do it good. Keep steady rythem and swallow, guys love this. You might not enjoy it, but may find it's something he actually enjoys. He might losen up after you try a few of these. Of course what I have mentioned is by no means the limit or the excess of sex, there are so many things you can try with him, and eventually learn what he does like. How about dressing up in a cheerleaders costume?

If he has been traumatized by witnessing a sexual occurance, it's also possible that if you educated on some of the other twisted, bizzar, and sick things that other people might like in sex, he might realize that what he caught his parents doing wasnt sh*t compared to whats out there.  All of which was unclear to begin with. I'm not sure if he didn't want to give you the gory details or if you just didn't want to share it. Either way, as you can see, it wouldn't be to hard to teach him that his parents were actually pretty normal.

Everyone has their limitations, and when it comes to sex, those things are just accepted and respected. In your case it sounds like you can't get past holding hands. Don't feel bad, I was with a girl for 5 years, enguaged. I bought her a 1/3 ct princess cut diamond in a white gold band because she was alergic to yellow gold. It costs a lot more just so you know.  She couldn't open her mouth big enough to give me oral, She eventually complained to me that sex hurts her, so of course I'm not going to ask or force her.  I couldn't go down on her because it was like her temperature was always high which caused he to have a slight odor and she would never douch even though I highly suggested it. She had one very long labia about two inches long that she had to tuck to prevent it getting caught in a zipper.  I couldn't kiss her because she had tonsiliths so her breath like very bad poo.  All I could do was finger her, but still able to give her mind blowing orgasms. She told me she would see stars when she would cum.

I realized that our intamacy was pretty much holding hands. I was only able to deal with it for about two years and masterbated all the time, and tried to hook up with other women in the mean time, got caught, and we were done.

I've had many guys with aspergers/autism and they feel this exact way about sex. Being molested as a child doesnt lead to being disgusted by sex. He could be autistic. Google it and see and if so; RUN!

Don't know how you've done with your living situation but if you can't move or you'd be stuck at your parents, stay as a roomate but end the relationship. R.U.N!

What is said below is not true. Men, far more than women, become adverse to sexuality due to sexual abuse. It can gross them out. Ask any therapist and read the scientific literature.Just because this guy is the way he is, it doesn't mean he is gay. Not every guy is interested in sex in the same way. Guys wants different levels of it. Do away with antiquated stereotypes folks. As for a solution: I think the woman has a right to a healthy relationship that involves sex, but that she should propose counseling. I don't believe in dumping people just cuz they have baggage. Everyone on this site does. If he refuses, say you have to go.