I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and all of a sudden he cannot keep a hard on? he will start to get one, and then half way through he will eaither go floppy, or cannot cum? isit because he is not sexually attracted to me? or is there another reason behind it, because its breaking our relationship! were sticking together because we love each other, and every thing else is perfect.
please some one help!! its getting us both down!!!
please some one help!! its getting us both down!!!
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Things like this happen to all guys! Once it happens...the anxiety about it just makes it worse and worse. The only way you are going to get through it is to NOT think about it - and NOT let it become an issue in your relationship.
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Taz is exactly right! I've done a lot of reading up about it because I went through the same thing with my boyfriend, almost exactly the same actually (timing and everything!). It all ended up just being too much worrying. He worried that he wasn't pleasing me, that he was letting me down, and whenever we started to have sex, he'd start worrying about it going down, which just made things worse. And when i worried it was my fault, he worried more because he felt it was all his fault that i was feeling so unattractive and unsexy!!
Just let him know that he's not letting you down, and you really are okay about it. Tell him that if it does go down, you'll happily just try again next time. This will take any pressure off of him. The fact that you've said it's getting him down aswell as you, means that it's nothing to do with you being unattractive. From what i can tell, if you were causing it in ANY way, he would tell you.
You both just need to tell each other it's okay and that you'll work through it together, and you've got all the time in the world. Just stop worrying :-D
Just let him know that he's not letting you down, and you really are okay about it. Tell him that if it does go down, you'll happily just try again next time. This will take any pressure off of him. The fact that you've said it's getting him down aswell as you, means that it's nothing to do with you being unattractive. From what i can tell, if you were causing it in ANY way, he would tell you.
You both just need to tell each other it's okay and that you'll work through it together, and you've got all the time in the world. Just stop worrying :-D
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