My husband IS generally sick/ill with something most of the time?

I feel you pain. My boyfriend of six years is always too sick for anything unless its aomething he wants. He is very obese now and refuses to accept that he would feel better if he just got up. He lays on the couch most of the time moaning and saying he doesnt feel good. Hes been to the doctor numerous times and they cant find anything wrong with him. He won't work. He uses the excuse of my schedule. So I fully support him and come home to the house being a total wreck. I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown most days. He is young. I think he is just selfish and is using me. Except we rarely have sex anymore. He always has an excuse for that. Hes too tired or sick or we don't have the privacy when he is ready to go.

:( he will never change.

Your husband and mine must have been separated at birth. Has anything you've tried worked? I don't know what to do any more.

Refreshing to see I'm not alone. My husband complains almost daily about the state of his bowels, his stomach, his liver, his gallbladder, his back, his knee, his headache, his ......_____ enter any random body part. I'm screaming inside all the time. I'm not sure I'm going to be able to hang in there. So sad after 20 + years of marriage.

Reading all these comments make me happy to know I'm not alone, but sad that this doesn't look like it's going to change. I've been married to my husband for almost 8 years now and his "illnesses" have left me drained. He has depression and anxiety like many have commented. He loves to work, loves to hang out with his family. He won't eat right, won't expertise, or use the things the doctors have suggested will help. We have 2 small children and at this point I'm less than sympathetic. Whatever headache, nausea, stomach pain, can barely function on the weekend illness this is, hope some shrink finds the cure to give all of us some relief.

i knew this had to come from a man, I'm sorry but if you have all these problems you have no desire for sex. or maybe you don't feel as bad as you pretend. I feel sorry for that woman, because my husband is the same way,

Is this thread still active as I'm going to add my comment?
Wow what a relief to know I'm not alone as my husband is a hypochondriac I think...lol he's 53 and there's 8 yrs between us, we've been married for 19 yrs
He's always wanting some attention like a darn 2 year old and seems to think I don't remember the days before that he had some ailment to complain about like i feel strange, I think I might have a kidney stone or a bruised kidney or my head hurts like no other, I'm having a strange headache, might be a migraine or something serious, my feet hurt, my knees and my back and so on, God forbid when he really does need help cause he's the little boy who cried wolf to many times. Lol
It's irritating me beyond the grave and back, literally I don't dare complain cause his response is zero, like he lacks empathy, he's a introvert personality, and a electrical engineer and sometimes I wonder about his intellectual intelligence cause we hno social life outside of each other and our folks cause he doesn't like social events and I do all the organizing only to have to accommodate change on top of more changes cause he isn't wanting social BBQs or anything even close, he also likes to lay in his big recliner and sleep while I tend to the children like I just love doing all of the training and teaching myself, were raising our 2 grandbabies 2&4 year olds.

You're not alone when I read your story I felt like you're telling my story. I have three children from him & feel that I just LIVE for the sake of my children.
I'm just waiting the answer from God for all my question I've.... Since, God orchestrated our Life.
Just keep on Pray..!

I'm sorry I'm not alone, because it really stinks! My husband is 54 and acts older then his 94 year old uncle. He is forever making some kind of noise because of some kind of pain he is in. He does nothing but sleep all day every day. He does nothing with me,the Kids or the grand kids. Oh sorry we do have sex when he is in the mood. The only time he leaves the house is to go to the doctor. I've caught him several times texting or messaging other women and I keep telling him to go to them and see how long they would put up with him. He's a real catch no money, no motivation and can't get it up without shots in the penis. Thank God for toys...lol I'm too young to be wasting away like this. I just don't want this anymore!!

This is my husband. He's on the cusp of 60 going on 90. He has been checked out by numerous doctors, scoped up one way and down the other, x-rayed, ultrasounded, massaged, had chiropractic work and acupuncture, gone to various "faith healers"... you get the point. Besides diverticulosis (not uncommon in a guy his age) they've found nothing, most noting he's in good shape for a guy his age. His current doctor has hinted there's nothing he can do for him (possible hypochondria).
What I get is different. I call it the Roulette Wheel of Illness; EVERY MORNING he decides what he's going to whinge about, then bangs on about it until bedtime. He'll even wake me up for updates. Shoulder pain going down to the fingers, or upset stomach with pains, diarrhea or constipation, mystery pains in various parts of the torso, stabbing pains in the feet (with high-powered, sudden yipping). He'll hold on to it for a few days at least (or until a dr. tells him it's nothing), then he moves on to another of his favored ailments. Today it's back pain which runs to his testicles. "Sounds like a pinched nerve, probably psoas nerves. Call your doctor or the chiro." This ailment is a good, old chestnut he drags out at least twice a year. This time he's finally agreed to see the chiropractor, at least. He hates being told he's fine. But it's a win for him since he's decided to take the WHOLE WEEK off from work.
In the meantime I am a married "single mom" to our ten year old, as well as chief, cook, and bottle washer. It was all he could do to get out of bed and get our child off the bus yesterday. Then right back to bed. Suppose 16+ hours in bed can cause back pain? Geez. But you know what? If one of his buddies calls and asks him to play a gig, he's hopping in the shower, loading his big ol' amps in the car, and gone till the wee hours!
I know all this sounds awful and I sometimes feel like the most terrible person, but can't I have feelings, too? I am just out of sympathy. I fake it, but I can't, day in and day out, sincerely shake my head sympathetically and murmur pithy regrets. I have no new material. Maybe if he was a little less like an annoying roommate. Just shy of 8 years without intimacy and you know what? That's the ONE thing he's not asking the doctor about!
I wish there was a local group for folks in my situation!

Wow it's good to know I'm not alone. My husband has been coughing for 4 weeks, just tonight he threw up. Whenever we are supposed to go somewhere or do something that I'd like him to do there is about a 40% chance he doesn't feel well and he can't make it. I thought it was maybe because he was the only son of a nurse- he got attention when he was sick, or was able to flake out of a stressful situation.

Thanks to everyone for sharing. I, too, thought I was alone. My husband and I have been married for 20 years and each year I wonder if we will make another. In the first eight years of marriage, he had some type of surgery...knee, shoulder... 6 times. And missing excessive time from work. Since we have moved away from his family, the hospital/surgery part has slowed down tremendously. However, he has every ache and pain possible and chronically missing work. This sounds horrible to say, but sometimes he is so theatric, he makes himself fall in front of me.
I am so tired. I have been working three jobs the past 10 years (averaging 60 hours weekly and no vacations) to take care of our kids/home. Anytime he is sick, he is out of work at least several days and since he is always sick....most of the time with no sick pay. This newest sickness happened after I let the family know I am tired and gave notice to one of my jobs and we will have to watch our pennies.
I feel really bad even writing this but I am getting so frustrated and think he brings his issues on so he doesn't have to work and gets "special" attention. Thanks for listening!

My husband has gout, high blood pressure, arthritis, planter faciatus, stomach ulcers, anal fissures, bad back, sinus infections, addiction to pain meds, depression, moodiness, he has had appendix removed, back surgery, numerous tests, has doctors appointments every week, always in some sort of pain. This has been going on for 11 years.

Mine is in his early 40's. It makes me wonder how he has been able to function all these years. I csn't take it anymore.

I have the same problem with my boyfriend of 2 years and am about to lose my mind! He is forever sick, sore, or generally not feeling well. I've just about had it. I can't be sympathetic to him anymore. He will stay in bed 2 days out of the week. I can't stand it!!!!!!