Delores is correct. I have lived through this with my former husband for 23 yrs. Many men now days become addicted to porn and their minds become distorted to what normal sex is. Starts out watching porn now and then. Then it's everyday. Porn is chemically more addicting than meth (scientific fact). They get more and more kinky as time goes on because they begin to get more and more bored. They become more violent, more controlling, more degrading. And believe me, it doesn't matter how much you give into, they will want even more. It just goes on and on. I spent most of those 23 yrs arguing with him about what I didn't want to do. It was miserable! His kinkyness eventually led to him looking up child pornography (found it in the history) and when I confronted him about it, he admitted to it and HE wanted a divorce. Like Delores, I too was left broke and betrayed. Ladies it doesn't matter how much you give in or what you allow him to put you through, it won't get any better... and that is NOT love! Try to work it out but if you see it heading down a dark road, leave, don't wait 23 yrs like I did.
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Tell this nut job your not some porn Queen and do not have any interest in his wants and lust. Drop the prick and move onto somebody else not obsessed with porn. There are lots of other men like myself that like good old romance,loving and adventure that doesnt have perverted overtones from some old sex s*** on porn sites.
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id**t.
That is why men prefer to marry a s*** than a nun. Yes, I have a wonderful woman and she acts as a w**** on the bed, she makes me blow jobs and allows me to do anal...I love her, she gives me everything I want and need, I won´t never leave her.
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you obviously don't really love him to death, otherwise you wouldn't be waiting our time moaning about him
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Just my two bobs worth....
If a relationship is a loving one that doesn't have any serious problems, I think the trick is to take these things really slowly. I mean super super slowly..
Don't focus on time frames or specific outcomes. That can caus relationship problems. Treat it more as, 'Let's see how far we can take things in this direction or that direction without setting goals.'
For instance, with the anal, a couple could start out by having the man just gently push his penis agains the anal entrance (lots of lube of course) and allowing her to be in complete control of how far and how quickly or slowly she wants to go outside her comfort zone.
Perhaps they could try the spoon position and set aside 20 minutes for it now and then, focusing also on love talk and other intimate caresses.
Even if after 1 year the penetration is still just a few millimeters, what does it matter? It's all about the intimacy and gently taking intimacy in different directions in a leisurely way to enhance it, not focusing on specific goals, time frames and benchmarks.
Same with swallowing. Allow her to just start off tasting and experimenting with just the ocassional drop if that's all she's comfortable with in the beginning and see how she goes from their. (it's a good time to address any taste/diet issues too)
If there is a solid loving foundation, it's only natural that people will be happy to slowly go outside their comfort zone to please their partner more and more.
This very much applies to anal sex and swallowing. And the best way her man can reciprocate is to not focus on specific goals and benchmarks but to simply allow her to go at her own pace..
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You stated that you're open to trying to sex positions, you'll try anything, but you quickly limited anal sex and swallowing his sperm? Anal and oral sex are the only two other types of sex that a man and woman can experience with each other. If you're so quick to limit your sexual involvement to vaginal intercourse and oral sex without swallowing, you're directing limiting the sexual adventures that you two can engage in. With this being said, the two of you may have grown to become sexually incompatible with each other. I say this because he wants to embark a new adventures, two in particular that you have no interest in. You're unwilling to please him, he's unwilling to be unhappy. I suggest that the two of your get marriage counseling and make your decision from their.
Sincerely,
I've been there before and refused to concede my happiness.
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You should be good game and giving and try to please your partner. No swallowing? OK. Just let it dribble out of your mouth and let it run down your breasts. Rub it all over yourself in a sultry dance. After he sees that, he will never again want you to waste a load by swallowing. :-)
Or perhaps you can agree to an open relationship - agree to see other people for sexual release. Or maybe try swinging. You can find a woman who wants to do an FMF with you and your husband where she is a bit more adventurous than you. Or just simply "don't ask, don't tell". He had just better use a condom when he strays, because he will stray. There are plenty of women out there who love receiving anal and performing oral sex to completion.
Best wishes!
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these are a couple of the things that can trigger infidelity, but it's sounds like that is worth it to you because of your dislike of the activities. Hopefully, he'll limit it to just those two things, and you can both live happily ever after.
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I had the same problem, but my husband wanted anal sex when I was on my period and had a tampon in me. What we finally decided on was he would give me a cleansing enema first and then we would have anal sex . He would lay a large towel on the bed and then he would have me get on all fours. Then he would put almost a whole tube of k.y. Up in my anus . Then he would slowly insert his 7 1/2 in penis up in me , while I didn't like it at first I guess he finally got my rectum stretched enough where I didn't mind doing it 2or 3 times a month.
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