my 17 year old son lied when he told us he was studying an advance level course when he was repeating GCSE. I am just so upset he lied for 7 months until we eventually found out.
What do we do my x partner and I.
What do we do my x partner and I.
chill out firstly, find out why he lied and what he thought might come of it. dont do anything drastic, he is becoming of age soon and you dont want him resenting you and possibly leave...just talk things out =)
Confront him, straight away. There is a reason. Maybe he was ashamed of himself for having to repeat the other course. Many times kids know full well they are lying, but they always take that chance that no one will ever find out, then when the wind hits the sails, they don't know what to say when confronted. The usual answer is, "i don't know" or they will try to turn things around on mom/dad by using the expression of "i am so stupid" sort of a guilt trip on you.
Don't attack him, just ask. In reality, there is no excuse for lying, but he may have his reasons.
Then punish accordingly. This is such a problem today with parents being afraid to punish their (almost) grown teens. He is still your responsibility and he must be a big boy and accept his punishment. Parents today are so afraid that the kid will hate them or rebell against them or God forbid, lock themselves in their rooms and refuse to speak to them. (yipee)
If you and your x raised your boy with respect and love and guidance, there should be no real reason for him to go off the deep end, unless there is something else going on that you don't know about.
Don't attack him, just ask. In reality, there is no excuse for lying, but he may have his reasons.
Then punish accordingly. This is such a problem today with parents being afraid to punish their (almost) grown teens. He is still your responsibility and he must be a big boy and accept his punishment. Parents today are so afraid that the kid will hate them or rebell against them or God forbid, lock themselves in their rooms and refuse to speak to them. (yipee)
If you and your x raised your boy with respect and love and guidance, there should be no real reason for him to go off the deep end, unless there is something else going on that you don't know about.
Yes, first find out the reason why he lies and then you think about it. You realize him and don't scold him and be as friend with him.
maybe he lied about retaking some GCSEs because he thought you'd be disappointed or something...
it's hardly a malicious lie so i wouldn't be worried about it, tbh it just shows that he cares what you think.
:-)
it's hardly a malicious lie so i wouldn't be worried about it, tbh it just shows that he cares what you think.
:-)
Well, I wouldn't punish him for that. I am pretty sure your DS was just afraid you would be angry or disappointed in him, and he was working to make up for it. Instead of punishing your son, examine why you think he felt so uncomfortable telling you he failed and needed to retake the course.