neeed heeeeellp :/

Well if this was your first attempt at sex, it does often hurt. It hurt me the first few times. It doesn't help that that boy seemed to not care about you very much. In most first time situations, the place is, where ever you find a spot (for me it was the back seat of a car) and the boy just too eager to satisfy himself. First time sex can be tense even with a guy who cares and takes his time. You need to be relaxed and take deep long breaths.  The boy I first had sex with, just wanted to stick his penis in me and go at it til he got off. I just laid back and bit my lip hoping it would be over soon. It wasn't very romantic, it hurt and I was ready to give up, but... I met a boy that summer and he was gentle. When I decided it was time again to try, we waited til we had a comfortable place and plenty of time. He took his time, kissing and hugging me and he talked to me and listened to me. He made me feel relaxed. Then we took a long time touching each other and having oral sex. I think back and I wish my first time had been like this. Oh make sure you are really really wet. When he finally entered me he was so slow about it and he looked up to see if he was hurting me. When he did he stopped. It took a long time til it didn't but he was patient. I have heard horror stories from my girlfriends about their first time.

I mean there could be a medical reason but it is not usually that, at least from what I've read. You should try masturbating. get yourself real wet and insert one finger, then 2. Be slow with yourself like you would want a boy to be. Go deeper and deeper testing when it starts to hurt. Back off and keep tryin til your comfortable. Be relaxed and enjoy it. Look around your house and I'll bet you will find things. The end of an ice cream scoop, the end of a brush or one of those big sharpies. I had this pair of plastic chop sticks that was good at the beginning. Work your way up to something the size of a penis. I'd say if you can't come to a point where it does hurt after all that trying then and I mean weeks or months of trying at least, see a doc. to see if there is a physical reason. Hope this helps

 

 

thanx I know about all that stuff I just don't feel satify with this whole sexual thoughts and I know about the wetness I just cant stop my hormones I want it but I don't want it and sex right now isn't my thing im busy I got kids that go through my room and stuff so I have to hide and sneak things :/ and I masturbate like 4 times a week but idk if im scared of hurting inside my vagina and yeah.. :)

Dear Cherie

Sexual thoughts and responses are natural, and be glad you have them. You certainly don't need to engage in sex to deal with your feelings. Many regret doing so too early. Sexual intercourse is more than another sexual activity. It is a bonding action, and you never see your sexual partner in the same way again. You have been joined to them. So you are wise avoiding sex now. Keeping your hymen intact might also be important to you. However, masturbation can give you release and satisfaction without the need to use anything that may hurt your vagina. If you want some help on this, let me know.

Hope this helps

yeah i know but i have them like 3 times a day and i get very wet, and intercourse i think is the best for my age right now. i just want it but i dont want it so yeah minded complication atm :/ but thanx so much :)