I have lost my vaginity to my ex last year and it hurt quite bad even he is having a small and slim penis (4" length). We have had sex more than 20 times but some time still hurt if he push it too deep.
I found that my current bf having a huge penis and it is more than double my ex size and especially he is damp thick, he is almost 2.3" across. I am scare that he will hurt me as my first time again. Is there high chance for me to in pain as I lost my virginity?
If it is. Will the pain will start from the initial insertion or it will only hurt after he insert more than 4"
I am really worry because my ex always said that I am very tight and now my bf having a huge size.
I found that my current bf having a huge penis and it is more than double my ex size and especially he is damp thick, he is almost 2.3" across. I am scare that he will hurt me as my first time again. Is there high chance for me to in pain as I lost my virginity?
If it is. Will the pain will start from the initial insertion or it will only hurt after he insert more than 4"
I am really worry because my ex always said that I am very tight and now my bf having a huge size.
it may hurt a little but you will eventually stretch enough to accomodate his size!
if you are worries about pain try using some lube such as ky jelly!
if you are worries about pain try using some lube such as ky jelly!
Tell your new bf as well that your used to a much smaller guy and he's the biggest and that you need him to be gentle till u get used to him
+ it will be a great boost to his ego
+ it will be a great boost to his ego
It will hurt if you not used to have something huge inside you. Most probably the stretching pain will come after 4" because that is your virgin area. You may experience stretching pain more than a normal virgin having sex for the first itme because 2.3" is consider too thick. Make sure you use lube and relax before have sex with him.
Well, these tips above are all good.
Here are a few more:
In addition to telling your boyfriend that you're used to a smaller penis, (yes, an ego boost) tell him that you want to be on top to control the depth.
If you're not used to this position, it may take some practice, and time to develop the coordination with him to make it most pleasurable for you both.
But YOU are in charge, if you are on top, lady!
Second, you might suggest using a THICK penis ring to limit the depth to which he can penetrate. If you're both used to trying a sex toy, make this a fun thing, and tease him a little with it. Tell him you're training him to take it easy until you grow used to him.
But don't lie... tell him in a non-threatening, non-confrontational (and in a non-sexual environment, not when you're in bed) what you need and that you're concerned with size.
In most cases, the guy will be understanding, if he cares at all for you. If he isn't, he may not be the guy for you.
Remember, you're not the first to have to deal with this. And don't let him pressure you to feel that you're at fault. It takes two to tango...
Here are a few more:
In addition to telling your boyfriend that you're used to a smaller penis, (yes, an ego boost) tell him that you want to be on top to control the depth.
If you're not used to this position, it may take some practice, and time to develop the coordination with him to make it most pleasurable for you both.
But YOU are in charge, if you are on top, lady!
Second, you might suggest using a THICK penis ring to limit the depth to which he can penetrate. If you're both used to trying a sex toy, make this a fun thing, and tease him a little with it. Tell him you're training him to take it easy until you grow used to him.
But don't lie... tell him in a non-threatening, non-confrontational (and in a non-sexual environment, not when you're in bed) what you need and that you're concerned with size.
In most cases, the guy will be understanding, if he cares at all for you. If he isn't, he may not be the guy for you.
Remember, you're not the first to have to deal with this. And don't let him pressure you to feel that you're at fault. It takes two to tango...
This is all good advice. The nice part is that there are quite a few more adventurous positions that you can now enjoy. You on top is a good starting point, especailly if you face away from him (called "reverse cowgirl"). The otehr idea in he beginning is to buy a medium to large dildo and use that gradually in order to stretch out your vagina. Teh vagina is very elastic though (think childbirth!) and so you'll be fine. After all, most of your girlfriends will be very envious, especially as you experiment with new positions. Anotehr one is him standing and you wrapping your legs around you. If he is strong he can carry you around the house, continuing to thrust into you, taking you to a new surface. Make it a game to see how many positions and locations you can cover in one go. Soon you will be enjoyign the great "lengths" that you can go to have fun!
Dr. Bob
Dr. Bob
Are you using enough lube during sex? Are you coming to intercourse highly aroused? Are you up-to-date on your gynecological exams? You might try some different positions or have him penetrate more shallowly and see how that works. Make sure to use a lot of lube. It really can make a huge difference.
We had sex and used a lot of lube, so his penis slipped into my butt, and it hurt a lot. What to do now?