hi. i've got a little problem. i'm 21 yo and i've been practiced sexual intercurse for almost two years with a girl, but i didn't came even once (also i've experienced loss of erectin in the act but it was temporary and in few minutes/seconds i'm again on back track... but with no ending). at first i thought that it will go in time, but it didn't. i've been masturbateing (from the age of 12) and i didn't have any problem of this sort, so it can't be a case of malfunction of the penis. now i'm with someone else and the story is repeting again. at first i was frustrated but i've managed to pass on. still it is a problem...
can someone give me some advice?
can someone give me some advice?
You suffer from RE (retarded ejaculation) it is when the male either fails to climax in the vagina or takes a very long time altho during masturbation or play they will find it much more easy.
RE is caused by a false belief's that you must be in full control of your orgasm and so your brain doesn't let you ejaculate otherwise. as you were developing sexually as a child your sexual development may of been interrupted.
The main root of the problem may be to do with masturbation... during masturbation you have full controle and if you start to young as you are still developing sexually you have the chance of that becoming the only way you can ejaculate... i know there are other causes.. but this seems the most likely.
LUCKILY, there are ways to cure this.. very rarely does this sort of thing last a lifetime anyway.. but dont expect an instant fix!
During sex.. you need to focus on the pleasure in the present time you need to stop waiting for an orgasm and that way you will enjoy sex ALOT more! relax. if you are getting frustrated with yourself over not being able to ejaculate then you are les likely to have fun and less likely to ejaculate.. besides.. its not about acheiving orgasm.. its about pleasure and being with your partner that matters.
you aught to discuss this condition with your partner.. that will take alot of pressure of.. and that will make you feel more confident when it comes to sex! I suffer from RE to but iv learnt to overcome it so i know for sure that its possible... and i mean very possible.. you are that close.
RE is caused by a false belief's that you must be in full control of your orgasm and so your brain doesn't let you ejaculate otherwise. as you were developing sexually as a child your sexual development may of been interrupted.
The main root of the problem may be to do with masturbation... during masturbation you have full controle and if you start to young as you are still developing sexually you have the chance of that becoming the only way you can ejaculate... i know there are other causes.. but this seems the most likely.
LUCKILY, there are ways to cure this.. very rarely does this sort of thing last a lifetime anyway.. but dont expect an instant fix!
During sex.. you need to focus on the pleasure in the present time you need to stop waiting for an orgasm and that way you will enjoy sex ALOT more! relax. if you are getting frustrated with yourself over not being able to ejaculate then you are les likely to have fun and less likely to ejaculate.. besides.. its not about acheiving orgasm.. its about pleasure and being with your partner that matters.
you aught to discuss this condition with your partner.. that will take alot of pressure of.. and that will make you feel more confident when it comes to sex! I suffer from RE to but iv learnt to overcome it so i know for sure that its possible... and i mean very possible.. you are that close.