Hello. I'm 36 year old male and I have a true confession to make. My sex life is miserable and I don’t know who to blame for all that.
Simplest putted- I have big problems with overactive sex drive.
This is present as long I can remember, from the earliest sexual experiences and it has continued even after in life.
I'm married for five years and my wife recently told me that she simply can't respond to my frequent wishes for sexual intercourse. All this made me depressive because I started to think that there is something wrong with me. What are my options now? Should I consult some specialist? Which one?
Hello. I have read your post and it has made me thinking about it and explore a bit. I have found out that this is very present condition and in most cases it is associated with men. In psychiatry, there is one condition called Hypersexuality. This condition refers to an abnormally intense and compulsive sex drive despite numerous partners that person can have in one moment. It is connected with one disorder called satyriasis characterized by an overactive libido and an obsession with sex and in females it’s called nymphomania.
This is totally psychological disorder and it can be cured thought sessions with your psychiatrist. Some doctors even prescribe antidepressants for treating this condition.
Hi there. I have read about your issue. The thing with libido is, you really cannot measure which is over and which is not. Sex drive varies widely in humans; what one person would regard as a normal sex drive might be deemed to be excessive by some and low by others. "Nymphomania" and "satyriasis" are no longer as disorders in the DSM-IV (manual for mental disorders), though they remain a part of ICD-10 (diseases or related health problems), each listed as a subtype of "Hypersexuality. The threshold for what constitutes hypersexuality is subject to debate, and critics question whether a standardized diagnostic threshold even exists. What I'm saying here might not really help at all with your problem with your wife, but what I can suggest is that you just do something on your own that can help you with your high sex drive. Of course I'm not saying that you cheat your wife, but instead find something that can help you satisfy yourself without tiring your wife. :-)
all of you whom responded to this poorman told him its a phsycological disorder when many times it can be related to the body over producing testosterone and male sex hormones in general... .this morning i was diagnosed with this situation so gentalmen dont listen to these quacks go to a shrink and a regualar doctor and discuss it with both its their job to make the diagnoses not the "geniuses" on here
Firstly related to the last response: if you're going to tear into other people's advice perhaps you should at least spell basic words correctly. Psychological is not spelled phsycological, gentlemen is not gentalmen, regular is not regualar, diagnoses is a word but improperly used, you mead diagnosis (diagnoses = verb, diagnosis = noun), its is improper, there should be an apostrophe. Also, there is a complete lack of punctuation and capitalization; funny that the only time you actually use a period is after the ellipsis (...) a time where you never use a period.
Having said that sex drive is not really related to production of testosterone, is more so related to the way it effects your body. For example, some people during puberty get very muscular with little or no effort and others don't--why?--testosterone effects different people differently. Yes there are other contributing factors to muscle growth: diet (specifically protein consumption), basal metabolic rate, physical activity (or lack thereof), genetics, but still testosterone contributes. Perhaps a more pronounced example is bone growth during puberty. Where the diaphysis and epythesis meet (the compact bone in the middle of the bone and the spongy bone at the ends of bones) is referred to as the epitheseal line or the growth plate. During puberty the growth plate is open which allows for height growth and expansion of the rib cage and shoulders. Broadening of the shoulders (other than in relation to genetics) is almost exclusively related to the body's response to testosterone triggering bone growth prior to the epithseal line closing. So what does all this mean? Testosterone production has very little to do with overactive sex drives. Normal levels of a hormone can produce an "abnormal" response. Perhaps abnormal is not the best word, but certain receptors are "over-sensitive," persay, to hormones. On the flip side consider and example of desensitization to a hormone in Type 2 diabetics. While there are several causes of Type 2 diabetes, one cause is the insulin receptors on the cells not responding to the binding of insulin (or not sufficiently responding) to take up glucose from the blood stream. The pancreas could still be producing normal insulin amounts but the body's cells need more to respond correctly.
How can one deal with the problem? Unfortunately it's something that people have to learn how to deal with. Generally as people get older Human Growth Hormone (HGH) levels will naturally decline testosterone levels will also naturally decline (this doesn't mean your body was overproducing mind you) the combined effect will contribute to decreased libido. There are also studies that show becoming a father naturally lowers the sex drive. And while people's cultural viewpoints may sometimes present a confound to this, sometimes adding something different to your sex life can better satiate an overactive sex drive e.g. a third party, toys, certain games, try something different to "spice things up." If that isn't an option and your wife can't meet your needs you could also try masturbating (it works wonders). If all else fails and you just can't take it there is always castration, that's sure to work. (Joke...joke...)
Having said that sex drive is not really related to production of testosterone, is more so related to the way it effects your body. For example, some people during puberty get very muscular with little or no effort and others don't--why?--testosterone effects different people differently. Yes there are other contributing factors to muscle growth: diet (specifically protein consumption), basal metabolic rate, physical activity (or lack thereof), genetics, but still testosterone contributes. Perhaps a more pronounced example is bone growth during puberty. Where the diaphysis and epythesis meet (the compact bone in the middle of the bone and the spongy bone at the ends of bones) is referred to as the epitheseal line or the growth plate. During puberty the growth plate is open which allows for height growth and expansion of the rib cage and shoulders. Broadening of the shoulders (other than in relation to genetics) is almost exclusively related to the body's response to testosterone triggering bone growth prior to the epithseal line closing. So what does all this mean? Testosterone production has very little to do with overactive sex drives. Normal levels of a hormone can produce an "abnormal" response. Perhaps abnormal is not the best word, but certain receptors are "over-sensitive," persay, to hormones. On the flip side consider and example of desensitization to a hormone in Type 2 diabetics. While there are several causes of Type 2 diabetes, one cause is the insulin receptors on the cells not responding to the binding of insulin (or not sufficiently responding) to take up glucose from the blood stream. The pancreas could still be producing normal insulin amounts but the body's cells need more to respond correctly.
How can one deal with the problem? Unfortunately it's something that people have to learn how to deal with. Generally as people get older Human Growth Hormone (HGH) levels will naturally decline testosterone levels will also naturally decline (this doesn't mean your body was overproducing mind you) the combined effect will contribute to decreased libido. There are also studies that show becoming a father naturally lowers the sex drive. And while people's cultural viewpoints may sometimes present a confound to this, sometimes adding something different to your sex life can better satiate an overactive sex drive e.g. a third party, toys, certain games, try something different to "spice things up." If that isn't an option and your wife can't meet your needs you could also try masturbating (it works wonders). If all else fails and you just can't take it there is always castration, that's sure to work. (Joke...joke...)
LOL, I must say, its amusing the way you pointed out that persons spelling mistakes, but u must understand, when someone is typing really fast, some people don't bother with punctuation, and I'm sure "regular" being spelled wrong was maybe just a typo. With that said, I don't think "Firstly" is a word....and do u realize u wrote this in a sentence- "the compact bone in the middle of the bone and the spongy bone at the ends of bones"....I mean u used the word bone(s) 4 times and sounds ridiculous, & lastly, we didn't need an entire hypothesis of how testosterone works. You state its not testosterone production but the way it effects your body, well isn't that basically the same thing!!? All I know is my ex boyfriend got a blood test when we first started seeing eachother, I ofcourse wanted one from him. Well it turned out he was low in T (testosterone). He was relieved to find out why he was so tired and didn't have a sex drive like he used to. The Dr then prescribed him a T gel to rub on his skin. After about just 3 days of him applying it, his tiredness changed to complete energy, he had a feeling of well-being, and ofcourse, he had a strong sex-drive, which was great for me because I have an overactive sex drive. I have looked for answers for a long time of why a 37 yr old woman like myself would be like this and they all answer that it is derived from being bipolar or manic. Which I don't believe I am either. So I'm just wondering, why everytime someone is a little differant from all other people, there is always a name of an illness, diesease, or psychological disorder attached. So what some people enjoy sex alot more than others. Even though I knew I didn't have any psychiatric problem, I made a drs appt anyway (phd). He had told me he was sure I didn't have any manic disorder since I don't become aroused at certain times more than others, and I also do not have even one of the many symptoms. With all that said, perhaps just like a man may have to much T, perhaps I have a high estrogen level!
Everyone's sex drive is different. Whether it's "low" or "high" doesn't mean you're not "normal".
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If you are worried about a psychological disorder please look into this museum: www.cchr.org