Sex, fingering, Virgin, pregnant

1. You are still a virgin until you have had sexual intercourse.
   • However it is possible your hymen has been ruptured; many assume an intact hymen to be evidence of virginity.
   • The state of your hymen can be checked using a hand-mirror.
   • Is there any cultural or religious significance in all this for you?
   • Where are you from?
2. The likelihood is that you are notpregnant as you had your period shortly after your sexual contact, although it is not impossible.
   • What date did this happen?
   • What was the date of your last period start?
   • What is your cycle length (typically 28 days)? Is it regular?
3. It is possible to get pregnant without sex. If sperm enters your vagina at a fertile time, you could get pregnant. This could happen by manual transfer.
   • How did he finger you? Was it by rubbing your clitoris, or did his finger penetrate your vagina?
   • How did you finger yourself? Was it by rubbing your clitoris, or did your finger penetrate your vagina?

   Does your mom know about the fingering episodes?If you have thrush this can (should) be treated

   Hope this helps as a start.

I understand it is important to stay a virgin until marriage, as I am a Christian also. If you sign in you can talk more privately if you wish. You do need to understand what you are doing when you masturbate (or when he touches you) and what the dangers are; also how your reproductive system works.

I don't think you are pregnant because

1. you had your period, and
2. your sexual activity was probably when you were not fertile (you didn't say what sort of fingering it was).

If your mother is right about thrush, simple treatment can deal with thrush. I don't think you need a gynaecologist, but just a doctor who can prescribe antibiotics. However you must get it treated, and it is very common for women to get it. It doesn't mean you have been sexually active. You are still a virgin!