Ok, well i was sexually abused when i was a young child... i couldnt remember anything about the abuse until i was around 16 yrs old. I had been sexually active for sometime and was having 'great sex'... when i started to remember events from my childhood, i noticed that when i was having sex or fooling around, as soon as i started to feel good, i would become very emotional, it was though i was about to explode (not in a good way) i feel like crying, i want to run away, i want to get as far away from the other person, i feel like i am in pain...
I have tried talking to myself when having sex... saying this is what i want, because it is what i want at times but even then i still get the same feelings, im just wondering what i can do to make the feelings go away.
thanks
I have tried talking to myself when having sex... saying this is what i want, because it is what i want at times but even then i still get the same feelings, im just wondering what i can do to make the feelings go away.
thanks
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I know where you're coming from,the thought of sex,fooling around and actually having intercourse after sexual abuse can be hard..Emotionally painful, bringing back memories you could normally keep at the back of your mind..As you've said,you feel like crying,running away from your problems but I realise now that hiding your problems or running away from them doesn't work. What I used to do was pretend that what happened me never happened,put on a smile and acted like everything was fine but as soon as the word rape was mentioned I would just burst into tears,visits from police giving me an update on my rapist and if he got bail or not etc(Yes I was lucky enough that he was caught!) would result in me leaving the room and getting really upset...What you need to do is openly talk to your parent/s or guardian/s,boyfriend,friend,counselor or whoever and let all your feelings out,don't hide in shame when you cry,cry openly,admit to yourself that what happened did happen,accept it because that's what you have to do! Acceptance is the first step to help you overcome what has happened to you.Better to accept what happened than to hide it and have it gnawing at the back of your mind,having flashbacks....you could be having a brilliant day out with friends or whatever then....BANG,it hits you and spoils all the fun you had....Trust me,I know what I'm talking about.
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I am the same way.. I was sexually abused as a child and at first i loved sex, and I always enjoyed it, but as I got to be about 16 I kept getting flashblacks and like you said I can do anyhting for the boy but I hate anything being done for me, I'm just 18 now and I'm still like that .. Is there any hope that girls like us will enjoy sex again?
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