My best friend recently told me that she was pregnant which should be an exciting time. However, the story that followed made it sort of less exciting. See, she told me that she had sex with two guys on the same day around the time of her ovulation. She said that with guy 1 she knew it was a spur of the moment acting on impulse but was prepared because she inserted vaginal contraceptive gel approx 20mins prior to intercourse. The type of gel is active immediately and up an hour. Then the same day only a few hours later she had unprotected sex with guy 2 who she is in a committed relationship. Obviously she is pregnant but stressed and concerned about who could potentially be the father of this unborn child. She has reached out to the experts and has found out that the gel she used is about 71-82% effective at immobilizing the sperm, thus received the feedback that guy 1 would be less likely to be the father. Which let me tell you is exactly the news she was hoping for! She understands the magnitude of her poor decisions and realizes with open eyes everything she has to potentially lose from this situation. I am reaching out for her because she needs advice on how to move forward. I would like advice on how to help her move forward. She honestly in her heart feels this baby is guy number 2's and knows that he would be the best father and loves her more than life itself. She also knows that through everything even in a morale dilemma she is willing to sacrifice everything to never say a word to anyone ever. DNA testing is far too expensive and from what she has gathered could come up with potential inconclusive results, she's been to a genetic counselor and from her and guy number 2's histories everything is checking out and matching up as expected. So why rock the boat when there may not be a need for it. Can't live on the what if's but on the now's. Please do not pass any judgements, we all make mistakes whether big or small that we aren't proud of. Please share stories and advice!!!
Hi Concerned,
She needs to take the DNA test.
While no test result is 100% it will certainly exclude one of them from being the father. The true father also has a right to know, even if it is not what she wishes.
It is not just her baby.