me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and i want to give him head.. i have done it in the past but not to him.. i was never sure on how to do it right and make it feel unbelievably good for the boy.. i was wondering if anyone could give me some good tips on how to give head to my boyfriend and make him feel good
im glad i found this post, i've been wondering the same thing ! so any help would be great ! thanks !
Confidence is the key. Don't doubt yourself- he's happy.
But if you want really, REALLY effective tips, do what I did: read Lou Paget's 'How to be a Great Lover'. It is completely informative, easy to read and easy to follow. And written for the beginner head-giver, who wants to be mind blowingly good, but doesn't know where to start.
And if you are nervous about buying a book like this, just order it online!
But if you want really, REALLY effective tips, do what I did: read Lou Paget's 'How to be a Great Lover'. It is completely informative, easy to read and easy to follow. And written for the beginner head-giver, who wants to be mind blowingly good, but doesn't know where to start.
And if you are nervous about buying a book like this, just order it online!
yes confidence is the key. don't choke yourself. don't let him push you to going to deep if you dont want to. gagging is not a good thing. as long as you are doing it, he will be happy. practice makes perfect. a boy is happy if their penis is being rubbed pretty much. make sure your mouth is wet, not dry, dry is not the key. wet makes it easier for you, and better for him. move your mouth up and down the penis. the head of the penis is usually sentitive. dont use your teeth, use your tongue and lips. just remember, confidence, wet, no teeth. he will be happy. practice makes perfect!
i have a stupid question...is there a difference between a blow job and head ? because when my boyfriends asks, he asks for a blow job not for head.
no. blowjob and giving head is the same thing. just different terms for it.
Most of what people are saying here is correct.
Confidence is the number one important thing in giving "head" or a blowjob. If you aren't confident or are scared to do it, neither of you wille enjoy it very much.
Obviously, you have to start by getting your man "in the mood." You can do this with foreplay, kissing, playing with his "spots" if you know where they are. Or, you can go right for his prized possession and get right down to business, so to speak.
If you're going directly south, you can start out by licking up and down his shaft lightly with your tongue, taking all of his penis in your mouth.
Make sure as long as his penis is near your mouth, your mouth is wet. You can keep doing this, or whatever turns him on, until he's fully erect.
Now comes the fun..
You can start out by running your tongue all over his shaft, playfully licking the tip. Lick the underside of his penis, and pay special attention to where the head and shaft connect. This little spot is supposed to be somewhat compared to a g-spot on women. [I've been known to get a guy to climax just by tapping my tongue on this little spot.] Slowly start sucking the tip of his penis, taking more and more into your mouth as you start to slide your head up and down his shaft. Make sure you cover your teeth while down there. Most guys won't appreciate being bitten there.
DEEPTHROATING
When you start getting into it, you can try deepthroating. Now don't get all bent out of shape if you can't do this, a lot of people can't their first time. You have to teach yourself to be able to do it. They say the best position for deep-throating is for the giver [which would be you] to lay on a bed or table, with your head hanging off of it, kind of at a 90 degree angle. Your man should stand in front of you, at your head, and slowly slide himself into your mouth. Now, he has total control in this position, so you have to make sure you have communication. This position is supposed to open up your throat so that his penis passes right over your gag reflex. If this is uncomfortable, you can try other positions- the positions are endless! My favorite is with my guy laying down and me kneeling between his legs. Anyway, when you find your comfortable position, take a deep breath and slide his penis into your mouth as far as it will go. You'll probably hit your gag reflex, which isn't a very good feeling. Come up for air and try, try again- practice makes perfect!
So you're doing all this and he seems to be enjoying it. Now you're faced with a decision -spit or swallow? Most guys think it's amazingly hot if a girl swallows his load. If you have a queasy stomach, try keeping something to drink nearby so you can rinse it down.
INFO BY TYPE:
* Mouth Only - This is a good place to start if he isn't fully erect. Put his entire penis in your mouth while you suck and lick. Don't start moving your mouth up and down until he's at least partially erect. Another mouth technique is to repeatedly suck in his soon-to-be erect penis and then follow with a swallowing motion, allowing for his entire penis to be in your mouth. Just because it isn't fully erect yet doesn't mean it doesn't feel good.
* Mouth and Tongue - Lick the whole tip, and use your tongue to lick up and down the sides. This will help get his erection slick enough to slide into your mouth easily. Make sure you cover your teeth with your lips, and glide the head of his penis into your mouth. At this point you can use your tongue to lick the sensitive spot underneath the ridge of the head. From here you can proceed down the shaft as far as you can go. Don't worry if it isn't all the way - your mouth isn't necessarily as deep as his penis is long. Relax your jaw and neck as much as possible, and remember to breathe, through your nose if you can. This will help to minimize the possibility of gagging. When you pull your mouth back, pull it up the entire length right over the ridge of the tip, or even take it out of your mouth for a second- this is another opportunity to breathe. Then go on back for more. Try to avoid jerky, abrupt movements - and a glass of water nearby is handy. Keeping your tongue in motion is a good idea as well. You have it conveniently located, you might as well play with it. As for suction, you can suck on the head.
* Mouth and Hands - Hands can be remarkably useful - they add variety, they can play with other parts, and they can make up for whatever you can't take into your mouth. One hand at the base of the penis, with the thumb and forefinger circling the shaft can not only help keep him erect and in position, but can keep the foreskin out of your way if he happens to be uncircumcised. With the other hand make the same ring with the thumb and forefinger, but use this one against your lips to follow the movement of your mouth up and down. You can also coordinate a mouth stroke with a hand stroke as if giving him a hand job. But the hands (or mouth) need not stay there! As long as one is paying attention to his penis, feel free to use the other to explore his thighs, stomach, balls, and whatever else you can reach. Watch out though, when playing with his balls, be gentle. You can be more firm if and when he requests it. You can even take one (or if your mouth is big enough, both) of his testicles in your mouth instead of simply licking or stroking them. Your hand can be particularly useful if you find yourself about to gag - let your hand do the work and give yourself time to recover before going back down.
Just remember, this is only suggestions.
All men respond differently.
What makes one man explode in seconds, may completely turn another one off. Make sure you communicate with your man and just make sure you enjoy it. Chances are if you enjoy it, he'll enjoy it too.
Confidence is the number one important thing in giving "head" or a blowjob. If you aren't confident or are scared to do it, neither of you wille enjoy it very much.
Obviously, you have to start by getting your man "in the mood." You can do this with foreplay, kissing, playing with his "spots" if you know where they are. Or, you can go right for his prized possession and get right down to business, so to speak.
If you're going directly south, you can start out by licking up and down his shaft lightly with your tongue, taking all of his penis in your mouth.
Make sure as long as his penis is near your mouth, your mouth is wet. You can keep doing this, or whatever turns him on, until he's fully erect.
Now comes the fun..
You can start out by running your tongue all over his shaft, playfully licking the tip. Lick the underside of his penis, and pay special attention to where the head and shaft connect. This little spot is supposed to be somewhat compared to a g-spot on women. [I've been known to get a guy to climax just by tapping my tongue on this little spot.] Slowly start sucking the tip of his penis, taking more and more into your mouth as you start to slide your head up and down his shaft. Make sure you cover your teeth while down there. Most guys won't appreciate being bitten there.
DEEPTHROATING
When you start getting into it, you can try deepthroating. Now don't get all bent out of shape if you can't do this, a lot of people can't their first time. You have to teach yourself to be able to do it. They say the best position for deep-throating is for the giver [which would be you] to lay on a bed or table, with your head hanging off of it, kind of at a 90 degree angle. Your man should stand in front of you, at your head, and slowly slide himself into your mouth. Now, he has total control in this position, so you have to make sure you have communication. This position is supposed to open up your throat so that his penis passes right over your gag reflex. If this is uncomfortable, you can try other positions- the positions are endless! My favorite is with my guy laying down and me kneeling between his legs. Anyway, when you find your comfortable position, take a deep breath and slide his penis into your mouth as far as it will go. You'll probably hit your gag reflex, which isn't a very good feeling. Come up for air and try, try again- practice makes perfect!
So you're doing all this and he seems to be enjoying it. Now you're faced with a decision -spit or swallow? Most guys think it's amazingly hot if a girl swallows his load. If you have a queasy stomach, try keeping something to drink nearby so you can rinse it down.
INFO BY TYPE:
* Mouth Only - This is a good place to start if he isn't fully erect. Put his entire penis in your mouth while you suck and lick. Don't start moving your mouth up and down until he's at least partially erect. Another mouth technique is to repeatedly suck in his soon-to-be erect penis and then follow with a swallowing motion, allowing for his entire penis to be in your mouth. Just because it isn't fully erect yet doesn't mean it doesn't feel good.
* Mouth and Tongue - Lick the whole tip, and use your tongue to lick up and down the sides. This will help get his erection slick enough to slide into your mouth easily. Make sure you cover your teeth with your lips, and glide the head of his penis into your mouth. At this point you can use your tongue to lick the sensitive spot underneath the ridge of the head. From here you can proceed down the shaft as far as you can go. Don't worry if it isn't all the way - your mouth isn't necessarily as deep as his penis is long. Relax your jaw and neck as much as possible, and remember to breathe, through your nose if you can. This will help to minimize the possibility of gagging. When you pull your mouth back, pull it up the entire length right over the ridge of the tip, or even take it out of your mouth for a second- this is another opportunity to breathe. Then go on back for more. Try to avoid jerky, abrupt movements - and a glass of water nearby is handy. Keeping your tongue in motion is a good idea as well. You have it conveniently located, you might as well play with it. As for suction, you can suck on the head.
* Mouth and Hands - Hands can be remarkably useful - they add variety, they can play with other parts, and they can make up for whatever you can't take into your mouth. One hand at the base of the penis, with the thumb and forefinger circling the shaft can not only help keep him erect and in position, but can keep the foreskin out of your way if he happens to be uncircumcised. With the other hand make the same ring with the thumb and forefinger, but use this one against your lips to follow the movement of your mouth up and down. You can also coordinate a mouth stroke with a hand stroke as if giving him a hand job. But the hands (or mouth) need not stay there! As long as one is paying attention to his penis, feel free to use the other to explore his thighs, stomach, balls, and whatever else you can reach. Watch out though, when playing with his balls, be gentle. You can be more firm if and when he requests it. You can even take one (or if your mouth is big enough, both) of his testicles in your mouth instead of simply licking or stroking them. Your hand can be particularly useful if you find yourself about to gag - let your hand do the work and give yourself time to recover before going back down.
Just remember, this is only suggestions.
All men respond differently.
What makes one man explode in seconds, may completely turn another one off. Make sure you communicate with your man and just make sure you enjoy it. Chances are if you enjoy it, he'll enjoy it too.
No there not a different some people call it head some call blow job some call it brain,