Okay so my boyfriend (and hopefully soon to be husband) is in the navy. He came and visited me for the last two weeks of august and right after I went with him to visit his folks two weeks after that (the begining of september). During those four weeks we were sexually active, but we were safe by using a condom. But because I have never been on birth controle, or have ever had sex before, and because of our long disntance relationship and prior responsibilities, we were both very very nervouse about getting pregnant and not planning it.
The day before he arrived and we started our four week trist I ended my period and on the very last day of our four weeks together, I got my peirod. It was a regular one and definantly a normal flow because mine are always very heavy and usually 5-7 days long. We were both very relieved.
When I got home however, and my period took longer than usual to arrive, I got very worried again. How soon after having sex can I expect my periods to stop? However early october i had what I thought was my next flow. It was 3 days long and very short and light, unusual for me. But i figured since i was bleeding i really couldnt be pregnant.
My next flow should be any day now, early November, and I've been having some light bleading but nothing i would call a period and I'm starting to get worried again.
For another thing, my boobs and my stomach have been getting bigger. I thought I was just getting fat but I havent been eating any diffrent than usual, and I dont know if this is 'growing baby' pudge or just regular pudge- will your stomach stay soft in early pregnancy? And although my boobs are big (32Cish) they never seemed this big to me before, although they arnt sore at all.
I ... I havent taken a pregnancy test yet. Cause frankly, well, I'm scared to- as if by not knowing it wont happen. Which of course is utterly stupid I know (i'm planing on taking one thursday if i dont have my period) and whats worse, my parents think i'm still virginal (because frankly its none of their buisness, and I dont yet want to pop they're bubble of 'good girl-not a s***' image they've got of me). I cant talk to them, and really i dont want to mention it to my boyfriend yet either (because he's out to sea and he doesnt need that kind of stress when he's so far away). And I cant really talk to anybody i know about it...
SO yeah, I'm nervous and scared and most likely just jumping to conclutions about whats just a little fat-pudge and stress induced lateness... but I'd really Really REALLY like it if somebody could talk to me about this and assage my fears.
~VeryVeryWorried
The day before he arrived and we started our four week trist I ended my period and on the very last day of our four weeks together, I got my peirod. It was a regular one and definantly a normal flow because mine are always very heavy and usually 5-7 days long. We were both very relieved.
When I got home however, and my period took longer than usual to arrive, I got very worried again. How soon after having sex can I expect my periods to stop? However early october i had what I thought was my next flow. It was 3 days long and very short and light, unusual for me. But i figured since i was bleeding i really couldnt be pregnant.
My next flow should be any day now, early November, and I've been having some light bleading but nothing i would call a period and I'm starting to get worried again.
For another thing, my boobs and my stomach have been getting bigger. I thought I was just getting fat but I havent been eating any diffrent than usual, and I dont know if this is 'growing baby' pudge or just regular pudge- will your stomach stay soft in early pregnancy? And although my boobs are big (32Cish) they never seemed this big to me before, although they arnt sore at all.
I ... I havent taken a pregnancy test yet. Cause frankly, well, I'm scared to- as if by not knowing it wont happen. Which of course is utterly stupid I know (i'm planing on taking one thursday if i dont have my period) and whats worse, my parents think i'm still virginal (because frankly its none of their buisness, and I dont yet want to pop they're bubble of 'good girl-not a s***' image they've got of me). I cant talk to them, and really i dont want to mention it to my boyfriend yet either (because he's out to sea and he doesnt need that kind of stress when he's so far away). And I cant really talk to anybody i know about it...
SO yeah, I'm nervous and scared and most likely just jumping to conclutions about whats just a little fat-pudge and stress induced lateness... but I'd really Really REALLY like it if somebody could talk to me about this and assage my fears.
~VeryVeryWorried
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Hi honey! First off, let me say that I totally understand how you feel, my husband is in the military as well, and I'm going through something very similar (I'm working on my Ph.D., so the timing is very off!), and a bit afraid to say anything to him about it for fear that it will interfere with his job. I'm not sure that I can help with your pregnancy fears other than by saying that getting very stressed and worked up over it could be causing the change in your period. However, I highly recommend taking a test. That is the only thing that will make the fears go away. I had one other scare like this in my life, and I took a test and was so relieved that I had when I saw it was negative. I went 3 months without a period that time, most likely because I had myself so scared of being pregnant that it stopped my period. Just relax, take a test, and know what's going on. I hope it works out for you!
-C.
-C.
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