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4. They lie constantly
Does your partner lie about seemingly small matters, but have problems remembering their lies later? Psychopaths lie, but lack the foresight to lie consistently. This is a huge sign you're dating a psychopath.
Furthermore, if you confront a psychopath with proof of their lies, they will become critical and dismissive. They will try and undermine you and make YOU feel crazy.
This is a big red-flag. Don't ignore it.
5. They will make you feel guilty for the emotions you feel
Remember, the psychopath will condition you to accept abuse, so that you feel your response to the abuse is wrong and not the abuse itself. If your partner mocks you in front of others, criticising and humiliating you until you become upset and start to cry, it will never be his fault. Instead, he will make you feel guilty for being "too sensitive" and for "embarrassing him".
This is another huge red-flag. Please, please pay attention to it.
6. They provoke jealousy
The psychopath is a narcissist. He loves attention. He will flirt with other women (even that wicked ex), and will show attention to other women while ignoring you. If you react, he will chide you for your jealousy. You are needy, he will say; who can blame him for talking to other, more secure, women?
7. They give you the "silent treatment"
If you displease your psychopath, sometimes for simple amusement, the psychopath may withdraw from you, becoming cold and refusing to speak to you. Attempts to engage them in any conversation will be ignored. This is designed to make you feel unattractive, insecure, and to further increase your sense of dependence on the psychopath.
Sometimes, they may simply break all contact when they have become bored with you. Having damaged your self-esteem by mental - maybe even physical - abuse and flirting with others, they cease to be interested.
8. Attention-seeking behaviour
If you're dating a psychopath, they will dominate every conversation. They will gather people around them. They have an almost-hypnotic effect on other people.
They are also prone to have sudden injuries and illnesses that require your full attention. Psychopaths love sympathy. It guarantees attention. Does your partner constantly develop Flu, mumps, mastitis, or sprain an ankle right before you have a big, important meeting, or when you're due to go on vacation without him?
If your partner appears to be more sick than well, consider the possibility that he may be a psychopath.
9. You feel depressed
Your relationship should make you feel mostly happy. It should not make you cry, apologise constantly, or feel anxious. If you're not sleeping, not eating (or sleeping or eating too much) and find that life holds little pleasure for you since entering this relationship, it might be time to give your partner the heave-ho.
Does this sound familiar?
If these signs sound familiar, there is one piece of advice. Break all contact.
This may be easier said than done. However, the only way you can begin to recover from the grip of a psychopathic partner is by breaking all contact and never speaking with your partner again. Go and stay with a trusted friend or relative, change your phone number (and be careful who you give it to), and begin counselling to try and overcome the issues you will be left with as a result of this relationship.
Psychopathy is pathological, which means it's incurable. Psychopaths will not choose to seek treatment, and - even if they are forced to be treated by court order - conventional treatment programmes rarely help them.
That's why, for the sake of your own health, it's vital you break free of a relationship with a psychopath. Psychopathic partners cause a lot of harm. Even if a psychopath has already ruined some of your past, you have a choice.
You don't have to let them destroy your future.