13 yr old pregant?

Hi honey: It may sound condecending BUT "Welcome to teenagedom!" This happens in EVERY town Virtually with EVERY Teenager througout the world.

What I will tell you about this girl is this, since she comes from people with less morals, she is doing what she knows! She is grabbing on to any sort of normalcy she can get her hands on. She has probably seen her sisters her mother and other family members being surrounded by males! And WANTS and probably NEEDS that attention! Because the rest of her family are not there for her, so she wants the "attention" that she hasn't probably ever received. I am NOT making excuses for her, BUT it is best for you to look at her in a different light. Boys ESPECIALLY teenagers will ALWAYS go for what they can get right?!!! So don't think of yourself in that light! I KNOW it's hard to not want to lash out OR be the same! But you have to be strong in yourself honey! I PROMISE you hon, EVERYTHING comes home to roost eventually. Tell these guys - BEFORE it is known by others finding out your like them - WHAT the deal is!!! Don't DISS her or anything like her game! RELAX and be yourself. NOW in this day and age of texting and facebook/myspace I know things can get out of hand REALLY quickly. BUT DO NOT engage with her. DON'T Say a word about her to ANYONE!! Even your bestfriend! USE every bit of inner strength and act like you have never acted before that you DO NOT care! IF you do not talk about her I promise eventually she will move on to another. SOMEONE IS telling her that you like this or that guy! So keep EVERYTHING close to the chest! Just for now, and I REALLY mean about even your closest friends! EVERYONE wants to be in the clique, so your friends WILL sell you out, to stop themselves from being victimized. It's just a natural instinct honey - its NOT personal!

She IS jealous of you I promise you that, people don't single others out if they don't feel threatend. So what you have to show her is that there is ANOTHER person (you) out there that couldn't give a flying fig about her! Keep a LOW profile honey, I promise, IGNORE her, she might become desperate and raise the stakes abit but don't engage OK? It will pass! When you want to talk about it, come on here OK? Good luck honey and keep it down!

Wouldn't it be loverly!!!! It's a beautiful thing when one speaks to a teenager that way, but i think the words fall on deaf ears. I have 5 little darlins, 3 being girls. I remember saying, "walk away" ya sure mom. Kids will not stand around and be bad mouthed, not the kids today anyway. Girls are scrappy and the guys are tougher than ever.

Ah yes, back in the day i would sit my beauties down and explain to them that you don't need your fists to get a point across, wrong, this is how kids roll these days. I couldn't imagine any one of my girls saying "now i'm bigger than you, so i'm going to walk away" that doesn't fly anymore.

I remember sitting in the parking lot of the local High School waiting for her to get out. The stuff that i heard from these kids was unreal.
I heard threats, i heard plans bein made to beat some one's butt, i heard sad love stories from the chik who's bf hooked up with her best friend, i heard discussions about loosing virginity, i think i'm pregnant remarks, and the ever popular, you talk to my bf again and i'll whip your a** and heres a smack in the face for good measure!!!!

My kids are all grown today and they have kids of their own. My 11 year old grandson can tell some interesting stories.
Don't pick a fight, but don't walk away if one breaks out.

OH! BB I am a SCRAPPER!!! I will take ANYONE down at anytime, I have even threatened kids that were picking on my kids!!!!! o.O BUT what I am saying is true, I am not saying in anyway to sit there and turn the other cheek. I even told my sons principle - a catholic school - that I told the boys NOT to start it, BUT I also told them to FINISH it!!!! GIRLS are TERRIBLE even more when we were kids! Like I said, with Facebook, Twitter, My Space, Texting etc. They can ruin lives. You HAVE to stand up for yourself, BUT you can take precautions so it doesn't get there. What I want ababes and any other teenager reading this to know is this, IF ignoring them doesn't work, and they are IN your face, then make sure they remember you!!!!! The only thing about that is, nowadays there are so many punks with knives and other weapons it's diferent then when I had my school field fights. I made sure that the other girl would be knocked down 1st!

I am NOT advocating violence, BUT if it's needed it's needed. Just at 13 it's a fine line, between being bullied and being the bully! IF she is EVER physical towards you, FINISH it! With your hands!!!!!!!!! IF she's not then IGNORE her, not walking away BY ANY MEANS!!!! Just making her feel that once again she isn't even worth it. And also her now being pregnant, she will have a LOT more to worry about soon enough and wont be back in your school! So let here wollow in dirty diapers, and screaming baby all night. While you are out with your friends. Just be solid in yourself thats all I'm saying honey!

And BB whenever you want to dance just let me know!!!!!! ;-) ;-) o.O XD XD LOL

Bambi27,
Hmmmm :-| What do you mean by "dance"???? Please elaborate 8-|

:-D ;-) XD

Dear ababes: Just wanted to make sure you UNDERSTOOD my posts, I got a little off track! Even though it's been only a day, anything different happen with this girl? Also do you know when her baby is due and IF she will be coming back to your school - I know you didn't mention she was at your school just assumed she was, as she knows a lot about you.

And IF you thought I WAS serious with the statement about dancing with bbfeet, just know I was only joking OK? I've talked to her several times, so just kidding around! I bet you thought - "this sounds just like school!" ;-) XD

Is the girl you are having problem with the 13 year old or older?

Hello there=). I just wanted to put my "input" in on this=P. It sounds like you have a bad situation goin on with a friend of a friend. Maybe they just don't realize what their doing, or they do and just trying to do whatever THEY want, and not think about the people that are involved. If they are so low and immature to make the other guys NOT like you, then they are just as bad. If they believe everything that they are told, they aren't worth it, so don't worry about them. If they are better than that, they'll come around. I'd still talk to them and see what their problem is. If they don't wanna let go of lies, oh well.
The pregnant girl at 13? Thats terrible. That just shows that really aren't great morals in that household. If its a long line of teenage pregnancy, that just shows it more. Accidents happen. But if it happens over and over and over, well, come on lol.
Don't attack them though. Verbally? Possibly if it gets to that point. If they start anything more, and you need to defend yourself, thats a different ballgame. You just need to be the strong person and TRY to walk away, knowing your the bigger and better person and have better things to do than just sit around and try to screw peoples' lives up=).