I'm with this girl and when it comes to it I can't get erect and this isn't the first time this has happened, I mean I thought It was just a minor problem when it happened the first time but this is the 4th girl I've tried it with and I cannot get erect at all... I can get erect before but then as soon as any girl takes my penis out it's flaccid straight away and I do not know what to do and I am in a relationship with a girl I really don't want to loose.. Please can someone help me?!
Hi Pissed,
It is VERY COMMON for a male not to be able to "perform" at first.
Are you nervous or anxious? Maybe about possible pregnancy or how you'll "compare" to someone else?
Anxiety will kill an erection - instantly.
Any girl that you are about to have sex with should understand that you are not a machine. Things happen.
Don't make this about you. If you lose your erection focus on her and let YOUR body just go along for the ride. Give her oral, do anything to her, don't focus on you.
Let her give you a ha****b or oral.
Once you get past this it will likely be solved but it can take that special partner to help you at first.