The problem is not in the guys mind or in the guys penis. Its a physical change in the chemical reward circuitry in the brain. They have been using porn for to long and getting to much dopamine from orgasm with porn. After a certain amount of time the brain realizes that the high dopamine reward is not in sex anymore but with porn which is why all these guys can get hard on their own with there fantasy's/porn and not with there real partners.
They get good morning erections because these are not driven by arousal but by pure testosterone so it proves there penis is fine but its the brain that isn't being aroused anymore which is why they dont get any erection signals, and if they do get an erection they will cum prematurely or go soft quickly because of the way they have been masturbating with a technique called "edging".
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has all the answers and scientific data to back this up and its becoming a very big problem especially for younger guys who have access to limitless amounts of porn before they reach sexual maturity.
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Did things work out.. I need to know?
What happened to you guys.. Did it work out for you all?
HelloI'm having similar problems too. My Girlfriend can get Me hard. When we try oral sex it gets errect, but when I try to penetrate, I just soften and stuff. I'm not gay, and I'm very attracted to My Girlfriend. I've been having a lot of thought about this, whether I have E.D. or if there's some other problem, and I also keep tinking that mine is too 'short' it's about 4 inches. Could you give me some advice? I'm still a teenager though, and We're just starting, I just wanted some feedback and advice. Thanks
im 24,,,, i had sex with prostitute 2year bedore,,,,but i have erection problem,,,,my pens gone softand lost erection and discharge in seconeds,,,,my pens size 5inch,,,,plz tel me im woried,,,rply fast ,,,waiting for ur rply,,,,,i did sex becze her vagina too loose
Well lads,
I have had similar issue, I have had several one night stand scenarios/ booty call scenario's and found it difficult to get or maintain an erection. There were variables to start with such as whiskey D or not nessarily being really attracted to the person but wanting to have a normal sex life but it build into a huge problem in my life.
Long story short I met a lady who I was into and was into me and is highly sexual. First meeting I had a made excuses when we got to the point we both knew should end with sex, second couldn't maintain an erection and blamed the booze and third time made excuses and the third time I met her on a date, watched my alcohol but bottled it as I felt if I screwed up this time she would drop me.
Solution:
I just went f**k it I am going to the doctor. I told him the scenario and said its built up in my head now and fear losing the missus and he gave me a prescription for cialis 20mg. He gave me four and a resuable prescription. He put it as a vicious circle you lose the erection due to alcohol, stress ect but now you cannot get/maintain due to pressure one puts on themselvesThere effects last 48 hours(not the erection but what ever they do to your body) so before going out on friday I just popped one and ended up having the most amazing weekend of passion I could have imagined.
Part of me wondered if the doc had given me a suger cube would it have been just as affective but either way it worked.
This has taken a huge burden off me so please go to your Doc because whether you just need to get over the mental issue which I believe my case to be or if its something more there is a short term answer.
Maybe you are gay, thats no problem it happened to me!
Dude, same problem, easy fix! It's all mental, nerves! you might not really feel the nerves/excitement, but that all it is. So here's what worked for me, some alcohol, it can relax you enough so that your nerves stay in check. Most guys don't get as excited as guys like us who waited and out so much on being in love, most guys were banging away thru high school, so alcohol now makes them to relax and they can't keep it up long enough to finish. But for you and me, just takes the edge off and you will be able to go as long as you want. Have a couple of glasses of wine. Also xannax works too, it's just too much excitment/nerves. And once you done it with the help of wine or what ever relaxes you, you won't need that stuff no more cause you will realize that it was just nerves, that there is nothing wrong with you, knowing that makes a difference, and gives you more confidence going forward. Peace out!
Hahaha omg. Noo he is not gay. Actually if anything he is probably more atracted to you than those other girls cause this happens to me. When I really like the girl I get kind of nervous at sex. And I get hard but then soft cause I start thinking "what is she thinking now, I might get soft and she is gonna get annoyed again". and when I think about her and watch porn I am soooo hard. It's just mental problems from the past and insecurities of what u might think. The BEST you can do is be supportive and pretend you don't even care. It's so ridiculous when girls think it's their fault or that we are not atracted to you guys. And WORST if u ask him if he is gay that just makes it worst and is so humiliating. My gf acted so supportive and pretended she didn't care. She acted like she didn't even wanted sex any more, not pushy cause that can be a little intimidating when u have this kind of issue. It's not for ever it's just a temporary issue. I am fine now and we have the best sex ever cause now I am not insecure with her anymore.
i have had similar problems. I'm 28yr old and she is 26. We were virgins, actually, we are!! My partner and I decided to go the distance some 3 months back. So, the first time when I was about to penetrate she said "I dont think i'm ready for this". I said "No probs, I understand". 2 weeks later she said she was ready for it. But when I go for the pentration she seems to be under a lotta pain and distress coz of the intact hymen, which is sucha turn off. Everytime, those expressions make me lose my erection. We tried some 6 times and the result is same everytime. I dont blame her really for being expressive, but then I dont know what to do.