For years I seem to have a low level of energy: no spark, no get up and go, no motivation, no real joy for life.
I have low self esteem and low self confidence. My partner of 10 years left me a few months ago. While this hasn't added to the low self esteem, I see I was hiding behind him in some ways, especially when it came to being in social situations. Now I am anxious when meeting up with friends on my own etc.
I find I think about things a lot, but don't action them. Like knowing I need to do the dishes, but not doing them, knowing I need to wash my clothes, but not doing it. Why is that? Is it just lazyness? What's behind it?
I don't want to be this low energy person with no zest for life. I am devastated that my partner left me too. But would you blame him if I am not happy? For a long time we both weren't happy with the relationship, but didn't say anything. I wish it wasn't too late for us. But I know I need to be the best person I can be, and be happy, to have a relationship with anyone. I miss him every day.
What's behind this low energy?
I have low self esteem and low self confidence. My partner of 10 years left me a few months ago. While this hasn't added to the low self esteem, I see I was hiding behind him in some ways, especially when it came to being in social situations. Now I am anxious when meeting up with friends on my own etc.
I find I think about things a lot, but don't action them. Like knowing I need to do the dishes, but not doing them, knowing I need to wash my clothes, but not doing it. Why is that? Is it just lazyness? What's behind it?
I don't want to be this low energy person with no zest for life. I am devastated that my partner left me too. But would you blame him if I am not happy? For a long time we both weren't happy with the relationship, but didn't say anything. I wish it wasn't too late for us. But I know I need to be the best person I can be, and be happy, to have a relationship with anyone. I miss him every day.
What's behind this low energy?
hi, sorry to hear of your troubles. i have experienced some sad events in my life my parents died in my early 20's i had a baby and they were my support network anyway i started feeling tired all day yet couldn sleep at night like you i thought about things constantly i actually felt nothing for a long time it is horrible. i went to the doctor and he prescribed some anti depressants i was worried taking them told no one but my god they seemed to flip a switch in me, i was motivated to get on with my new life i took care of my apperance went out more etc i was on a low dose and only took them for a few weeks even though doc wanted me on them for couple of months but felt like had the right attitude to deal with things. also you sound like you could do with some iron try spatone liquid sachets added to orange juice take 2 a day this perks u up mentally and gives u energy. good luck
Sounds like your depressed, and splitting up with someone after a 10 year relationship certainly adds to your sadness.
Until you let go of him, (mentally) your probably going to continue feeling unhappy and "blah" as you are grieving the lost relationship. This is okay and it's part of the healing process, but there is something underlying that has caused you to feel less energetic than you should be.
Are you happy with your job situation? Many folks dread getting up and going off to a job that they hate, but the bills have to get paid.
Do you have any hobbies? Getting out of the house a few days a week will certainly make you feel better. Yoga is a good way to breath out some of your negative feelings.
Walking also relaxes you or ride your bike for miles. Was the relationship detramental to you? Was it abusive? Were you sad and unhappy before he came into your life? What is your family situation like? Are you close with your mom or maybe a sister?
After the mental picture is looked at, what about the physical end of it? When was the last time you had a good check up? Eating right is also very important. I suggest that you get an appointmen with your doc and discuss some matters with him. After a good check up he may suggest that you look into an antidepressant or anxiety med.
My daughter has been on Zanax now for about 3 months and she is a totally different person. Her energy level has increased ten fold.
I don't promote the stuff but sometimes we need a little help.
But now you grieve and you cry and you mope around. Give the process a little more time as you are now on your own. It's okay for now.
Hindsight is 20/20 and if you two would have talked it out, maybe things would have been different, but that was then and this is now. Now is important, not yesterday.
Until you let go of him, (mentally) your probably going to continue feeling unhappy and "blah" as you are grieving the lost relationship. This is okay and it's part of the healing process, but there is something underlying that has caused you to feel less energetic than you should be.
Are you happy with your job situation? Many folks dread getting up and going off to a job that they hate, but the bills have to get paid.
Do you have any hobbies? Getting out of the house a few days a week will certainly make you feel better. Yoga is a good way to breath out some of your negative feelings.
Walking also relaxes you or ride your bike for miles. Was the relationship detramental to you? Was it abusive? Were you sad and unhappy before he came into your life? What is your family situation like? Are you close with your mom or maybe a sister?
After the mental picture is looked at, what about the physical end of it? When was the last time you had a good check up? Eating right is also very important. I suggest that you get an appointmen with your doc and discuss some matters with him. After a good check up he may suggest that you look into an antidepressant or anxiety med.
My daughter has been on Zanax now for about 3 months and she is a totally different person. Her energy level has increased ten fold.
I don't promote the stuff but sometimes we need a little help.
But now you grieve and you cry and you mope around. Give the process a little more time as you are now on your own. It's okay for now.
Hindsight is 20/20 and if you two would have talked it out, maybe things would have been different, but that was then and this is now. Now is important, not yesterday.
It sounds to me like Depression symptoms. I get depressed alot and have to take myself out of the situation to make it better. I now have a Counselor to talk with and that helps ALOT more than you'd think. It's not lazyness or anything like that. Depression truly does make you feel like you have no "get up and go" about you, amongst other things like loss of interest in activities you used to love. That's my MAIN one.
If I were you I'd try to get myself involved in out-patient counseling. Like I said, that's what I've been doing for the past 2 years and so far it's been a good experience.
I'm very sorry to hear about your relationship, I know that must be hard for you.
I also see a Psychiatrist (Due to other issues) and he has me on medicine for my Social Anxiety/Panic and Anxiety Disorder. The name of the medicine is called Klonopin and that has worked WONDERS, it really has helped me out as far as calming down when I'm around a bunch of people. So, instead of wanting to go away by myself because big groups made me nervous and paranoid, I now want to stay for a few minutes and chat.
I wish you nothing but the best and good luck with everything!
One more thing, IF you wanted to, you can google a ton of sites that have a "Symptom Checker" on it and it's very accurate.
Best Wishes!
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If I were you I'd try to get myself involved in out-patient counseling. Like I said, that's what I've been doing for the past 2 years and so far it's been a good experience.
I'm very sorry to hear about your relationship, I know that must be hard for you.
I also see a Psychiatrist (Due to other issues) and he has me on medicine for my Social Anxiety/Panic and Anxiety Disorder. The name of the medicine is called Klonopin and that has worked WONDERS, it really has helped me out as far as calming down when I'm around a bunch of people. So, instead of wanting to go away by myself because big groups made me nervous and paranoid, I now want to stay for a few minutes and chat.
I wish you nothing but the best and good luck with everything!
One more thing, IF you wanted to, you can google a ton of sites that have a "Symptom Checker" on it and it's very accurate.
Best Wishes!
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