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I have been suffering from this for a couple of years now. I didnt realise it had a name!
It happens randomly after i orgasm, or wakes me up during the night, usually lasting about half an hour.
I am a 38 year old female
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Tried something new this time that seemed to help when I couldn't walk anymore for fear of falling from the dizziness. Laid on my back, brought my knees toward my stomach, and did a series of movements: pedaled my legs; rocked side to side, which massaged my lower back; stretched my legs to one side, then the other, like the "tick tock" in yoga or pilates.
I'm always a little fearful when I start masturbating. If I knew I'd have this pain every time, I'd never masturbate. It's awful! Hang in there, everybody. And thanks for contributing. Good to know I'm not alone and to hear feedback.
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Nothing to do with anal. I've been having this pain for 30 years and never had anal.
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Whew finally I found something on this subject. Doctors have no idea.
My wife has these anal cramp attacks after orgasm from Clitoral stimulation whether with my fingers or my mouth. It also creeps up on her during sleep, usually if she has a full bladder.
Her way of handling it is to take some pain killers and walk around the room. Sometimes the cramp subsides quicker than other times. Sometimes she must spend up to 20 or 30 minutes pacing the room. Not something you want to do with wobbly legs and and a mind that just wants to go to sleep.
Sometimes, I must be quick though, if I penetrate her and f**k her really hard doggy style, I mean really hard, forceful and rough, it can also help. She may feel the onset of the cramp and, if before it takes hold, I force myself into her and don't hold back, the cramps do not take hold and therefore never reach full intensity. I like the hard f*****g and the dominance of it as much as she does. She is even able to or cannot help having further orgasms with such a hard f*****g, so neither of us mind this attempt at remedy. If however a hard f*****g does not work, perhaps the timing was not quick enough, then there is no time for a cuddle. Once I have finished she must get to the pain killers and start pacing. That special intimate moment couples enjoy after sex is lost. Talking to her while she paces does take her mind off of it, but I must admit that after so much energy expended I am not always able to stay awake as long as it takes for the cramp to go away.
We have noticed that if I ease off stimulation of her clit a little earlier before the point of climax that the chances of this cramp are reduced. However, this timing can also be a bit hit and miss.
It's painful for her and I really don't know how to help other than not doing it. She has a really intense orgasm this way, and naturally wants to continue having mind blowing orgasms as much as I want to keep helping her achieve them. Yet, it is a bit annoying having to premeditate whether or not we should do it this way or not because we know there is a high chance of her being in pain.
She has no difficultly having orgasm's through vaginal stimulation, hands, penis or toys. She regularly has multiple orgasm's during sex and also rolling orgasm's. Sometimes her orgasms this way can roll on for so long that she has no concept of time or awareness of me. I could have an earth shattering simultaeous orgasm with her and she will ask me, "Did you cum?" Hard not to notice or hear me. Who said sex can't make you deaf. Strangely, orgasm in this way has never cause the cramps. Of course this is great, how frustrating it would be for both of us if any and all sex activities end up with her in pain. But she cannot have both vaginal and clitoral stimulation, so blended orgasm is not something I can give her. It's either or, I cannot being doing the two things at once.
It's good to hear that others have this problem. However, I see many people have different ways of handling the problem or treating it but nobody has a conclusive reason why it happens. Has anyone got further update or found out something new.
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