Anal Tags outside of anal hole?

Hi:
I am sorry that this response is coming so late, because your questions are really serious and correct answers are critical to your health and that of your sexual partner. First, and most importantly is that herpes does not go away. Even if you have not had an outbreak, you are still infected and you can and most likely will pass it on to any sexual partners. Secondly, the anus is one of the best ways to pass on an infection. There are millions of small blood vessels at your anal opening that would typically burst during anal sex. This is a perfect environment for spreading a disease. I sincerely hope that you have told all of your sexual partners that you are infected with herpes, especially the one that wants to have anal sex. Please get under the care of a doctor. There are apparently drugs that can help (only help) the prevention of herpes. In addition, you should educate yourself about stds, especially herpes. If you did not know that it doesn't go away, you really need information. I hope that others have not been infected. Please let me know what has occurred since your last post and how you are doing.

I would very much advise against anal sex. I am a woman of 48 and i have known three friends who have had to have operations because of anal sex. It can lead to fissures (tiny tears, extremely painful). Think about it...the anus has not evolved to cope with a large thrusting penis whereas the vagina has. The anus has no natural lubrication. The anus is designed to rid the body of fecal waste. Why does your boyfriend want to have anal sex with you so badly? 30 years ago it was not a usual request; it has come out of the widespread popularity of pornography. Think about your future health rather than your boyfriend's temporary pleasure.

Seriously Rose, you had 3 friends who told you they had to have an operation due to anal sex? Stop and think about what you just said for a minute. Now, you may be against anal sex or not like it but to claim you had these 3 "friends" is just plain silly.

It always happens with these kind of threads, someone pops up with this story about someone they know or a "friend" who was hideously damaged by anal sex. Please people, can't you just leave this subject to people who actually have some experience over many years and know what they are talking about.

No more urban myths.

Um....do you want their names to prove it?? Two were women and one a gay man. All had recurrent anal fissures.
I don't honestly care what you do in your private life, I was just giving woman-to-woman advice to a young woman whose boy"friend" is trying to pressurise her into a potentially damaging practise. From her post she sounds reluctant. If she wanted to do anal don't you think she would have already done so??
Nobody should ever persuade anyone else to have a form of sex they don't want to. And I have tried anal sex more than once, it is very painful!

Rose, you've obviously not given sufficient thought to why it is so hard to take what you say seriously. Most people are really not up to discussing surgery they've had done to that area of their body; it is often too embarrassing. Far more so if the surgery was due to anal sex. Who discusses that with their friends? People would be mortified if anyone were to find out. And you want people to believe that this highly improbable event has happened to you no less than 3 times in your life? All I can say is that you must have a very interesting social circle with exceedingly low embarrassment thresholds.

Further, it is worth pointing out that anal fissures are a common complaint and occur with or without anal intercourse. I'm puzzled by your offer to provide names. Anyone can come up with 3 names, but what does it prove?

I'm glad you don't care about what I do in my private life - after all, this isn't about me. But by including that sentence you do rather suggest an agenda.

Anyhow, going back to more relevant points: reading the OP I can't see anything about them being pressured or being reluctant. She does say she is scared because of health concerns, but then so would I be with a herpes infection and some kind of growths around her anus. It may be that her boyfriend is coercing her but we cannot assume that. I thought the first reply largely answered her correctly; this is about awareness and educating herself about STD's in general and herpes specifically. Regarding what she calls "tags", well she really needs to see her GP about that and proceed from there.

Lastly I cannot help but remark upon your "experience" of anal sex. If you did indeed find it "very painful" what on earth possessed you to do it more than once? I'm baffled. Still, plenty of people do do it often and don't find it painful so maybe it is a matter of technique, lack of lubrication and an over enthusiastic partner and well endowed partner. What do you think?

I tried it more than once because the different instances were with different men.

Please don't assume that everybody has the same ideas about what may or may not be discussed with their friends! Women and gay men might find it easier to discuss intimate matters than straight guys.
I talk about sex with my close friends without shame.

We could ping-pong forever about whether anal sex can be harmful...at the end of the day I hope the young lady in question will only do what is right for her, not you, as your very name reveals your own agenda.

Also, just out of curiosity, just what do you imagine my agenda to be?! If you think it is to give kind advice to younger women, you are quite right. If you think it is something else, I'd be curious to know what!

I'm more than happy to ping-pong for as long as you like. I too, would hope the OP does what is right for her.

You read too much into a name. Sure, I like anal sex. I also like tea. If I were called TeaLover would that then suggest I have a nefarious plan to force all the coffee drinkers in the world to drink tea?

Anyway, I've seen the variation on the "I have these friends..." so many times now that it's becoming a little tedious. Most disappointing that people can't expand or elaborate on the theme a little. Maybe I can do that for you. Did you get a phone call from your friend that went something like this:

"Hi Rose, it's Dawn. Just called to say sorry I haven't been in touch in a while but I just got out of hospital. They had to reconstruct my rectum as I'd damaged it from having far too much anal sex. You know how it is. Anyway, how about doing lunch sometime?"

Ah well, a humorous diversion, but that's as far as I go personally into the world of complete fantasy.

Anyway, well done for trying anal sex with different men even though you found it "very painful". I find it most curious that you've indulged several partners that way and yet you say to the OP:

"Why does your boyfriend want to have anal sex with you so badly?"

You never thought to ask any one of those different men? This story becomes ever more incredible.

I'm not interested in justifying myself to a stranger.
I just wanted to offer advice.

L'enfer est plein de bonnes volontés et désirs.

Thank you for your educatonal posts, replies such Rose's may demage/bias other person perception on things that were obviosly important for OP,
M

I bumped to this forum by chance while I was looking for anal itching remedy. Before this I had anal skin tags. These were just outside the butt hole and as eveyone indicated I was really scared to see them. It is natural to get scared when you see something around such sensitive area. I too doubted it to be some thing sexually transmitted. I had a lot of research and was greatly disappointed to see suggestion like going to the doctor and cutting them myself. Going to the doctor for this thing looked so embarassing. I thought I would rather live with them rather than going to the doctor and put my pants down. How would I feel when he sees that part I had been hiding throughout my life. Cutting them myself, tying them around with floss, bleeding, pain all looked so horrible. I thought I would leave them as these were. But I always was skeptical that those could be something serious.

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