I don't know what to do, me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and we are happier than ever. But not once has he made me cum or even tried to act interested in my pleasure he really only seems to think about himself... My last boyfriend would make me orgasim every night.. No matter how many times I've tried to teach him or tell him that it's getting me frustrated or sad he never listens.. We fall asleep and the next day it's like we never even had the conversation. I really don't know what to do :( 4 years of this is really getting me to the point of giving up completely... Please any advice!!
Hi jpop, that sounds horribly selfish and frustrating. Try a sex drought. If he doesn't make you cum first then no sex. He needs to pleasure you to orgasm using his mouth or hands or whatever turns you on before you will,even think of giving him a blowjob or having intercourse. Simple. If he's smart he should get the message, if not then you know he's never going to please you and you either need to accept the unacceptable or move on to someone who truly cares about you. and if he is selfish in the bedroom how is he in the rest of the relationship? Does he meet your needs in other ways or is he just as self centred? I hope that helps.