Greetings. I am a 22 year old young adult who is worried about her lady parts. I believe I should tell of my history regarding my vaginal area for a better understanding of what might be going on here. I'll try to be as detailed as possible.
I started having unprotected sex with another virgin last year and he had always pulled out. He has a larger sized penis than the ones I've seen before. In the beginning of our relationship, we had a lot of sex. Like 3-5 times a week and multiple times a day. I had no pain whatsoever. After a month or 2, I started taking birth control pills. We still had sex, but after a few months, I started to have a thick discharge. I believed it was a yeast infection. I treated it by eating a lot of yogurt daily, not having sex and it returned to normal in a few weeks time.
After months of dating him, it suddenly started to hurt when I had sex with him. I would really feel the pain after we were done. When I urinated, it stung. It even stung when I rinsed it with water. The same thing kept happening every time I had sex with him. I accounted the stinging to him being too rough. But I was confused as to why it only started happening now? It healed up when I wasn't having sex with him. But the moment I started having sex with him, the stinging returned. Sometimes, it stung the moment he tried to enter me and the penis would not be able to even go in! After dealing with the pain too much, I decided to have much less sex with him. I think it became something like once or twice a month. Or none at all.
I had gained around 10kg of weight in the 6 months that I started taking birth control pills. I blamed the weight gain on both stress at my new workplace and the BCP. I wanted to get back to my old weight so I stopped taking the BCP (now I have lost 8kg). The sex was still very little. I broke up with my boyfriend due to personality issues. I think that my vagina healed up as there was no longer any friction on it.
September this year, I started dating someone new. He moved very fast and we had sex very early in the relationship. I just went with it because of the heat of the moment and I really liked him. It was also unprotected. His penis was a smaller size than my previous boyfriend, no visible STDs, he also pulls out and I encountered no pain at all during or after the sex. Our relationship only lasted roughly for a month as I found out that he was a player. During that month, we had sex about 5 times.
I don't remember the exact moment that this itching and vaginal discharge started happening but it was either near the ending of my time with the new guy or after it ended. I missed my old boyfriend so I started seeing him again in October. We've had sex about 2-3 times already (even though I had the discharge going on). The first time we started having sex, my perineum looked like it was cracked and it bled. I think it was because that area was too dry. But the stinging returned to my clitoral area when I urinated.
There was once when we had sex, I was exceptionally turned on. It didn't hurt at all during or after the sex, it just felt good. After the sex, there was either unnoticeable stinging or none at all. There was also another time, the penis could not even enter because it stung too much inside the vagina.
Now I will describe the vaginal discharge. It is clear and watery. Sometimes it has a fishy smell to it and sometimes there is no odour at all. When I masturbate by rubbing my clitoris, it stings after awhile due to friction, I think. I wonder why this is happening to me now as it had never happened before. The discharge happens day and night, throughout the day and causes me to itch and scratch my vulva. It becomes so itchy beyond belief. I notice myself scratching mostly when I'm not wearing pants or panties. Let me note that I rarely wear panties as they make my tummy hurt. I also heard it was good to keep the vaginal area airy. But it becomes much less itchy when I do wear panties as the liquid is absorbed by the cloth and does not spread on my vulva. The clitoris and vulva sting when I pee or rinse with water because of the scratching. I'm currently 2 weeks late for my period (I am irregular). I used to use this 'feminine wash' but it would make it sting more. I noticed it was expired so I threw it away.
I had a very similar experience regarding this itchy vulva and vaginal discharge just last year when I was with my first. The clitoris also stung a lot. It lasted for weeks and weeks but eventually healed. Now it is back but itchier than ever!
Can someone please tell me the possibilities of what might be going on? I want to avoid seeing a doctor and I prefer treating myself until I'm better. So what are some safe things I can do to treat myself? Thank you in advance.