Ive been seeing this girl for about a year on and off.Me and her have had a rocky relationship but always end up making up and getting close again.I really care about her.More then any other girl ive ever cared for.I havent had sex with anyone else in a long time and shes the only one i want to do this with and vice versa.The problem is that when we're getting into it everything is fine, we're doing great, im fully erect and ready to go.But when it comes time to have sex i just lose it.its like in the back of my head im telling myself this is really about to happen and i just get so nervous.Shes GORGEOUS too its not anything having to do with her at all.I've had sex with plenty of girls before alot of them just out of nowhere and ive never had this problem.But this girl that i care about so much things are so different and it means something this time around.Am i having this problem because i really do care about this girl on another level? what can i do? this has happened twice.I know its just pressure but what can i do or tell myself to get over this?
Performance anxiety can cause a man to lose his erection big time. This happens to all of us guys at some points in our lives. I am sure your gf had seen this before. You mentioned that when you had spontaneous sex with other girls you did not have this problem. So being spontaneous is the key to success. I think the best way (there is no easy way) to deal with this is to tell your gf what went through your head when you lose your erection. If she really cares about you and loves you, she will understand. Next time the two of you sleep together, just relax and hold her in your arms. Whenever your erection goes into full throttle, just go ahead and do it. No words, no expectations and no distraction. Have your condom on the ready under your pillow just in case.