Hello, I'm a 21 year old male, and my girlfriend and I have been noticing something strange.
We're very comfortable with each other sexually and as far as communication goes (I'm talking to her about this as I post this) Anyways, let me give you some background before I go into detail. We've been going out for just over two months now, and we're both virgins. At this point we're into dry humping, and hand jobs / petting. She can climax easily. I have to deliberately try not to make her orgasm in the first minute of vaginal stimulation. That however, is not what this thread is about.
When I'm by myself, with or without porn, I have a very hard erection, and can ejaculate in less than 20 minutes. When I am with her, it feels as if my erection is not so hard (though it is as big) and there have been hand jobs that have lasted over an hour. So far there's only been two times when I didn't ejaculate, but still, it's a long time.
I've been going over a few things that could be causing this. My brain has always worked too hard. It wanders all over the place, but this also occurs when I'm by myself, so I doubt that is the issue. I'm extremely comfortable around her, often sleeping and walking around my room naked or very close to it. Other than the first hand job she gave me I've been very relaxed with all of them. We talk about things all the time, how to make it better for one another etc, so her technique is better now than ever, but on the other hand, the hand jobs are lasting longer now than ever, and I'm still not getting fully hard. I figured my poor diet and smoking could be the cause, but if that were so, then I wouldn't be hard when I was alone either. (I gave up smoking, I'm on my 3rd day, and I'm feeling good about it, I've never been able to quit before, but I'm doing it for her)
I just don't know what else it could be. I really care for this girl, and I know that this issue is distressing her. Please help.
We're very comfortable with each other sexually and as far as communication goes (I'm talking to her about this as I post this) Anyways, let me give you some background before I go into detail. We've been going out for just over two months now, and we're both virgins. At this point we're into dry humping, and hand jobs / petting. She can climax easily. I have to deliberately try not to make her orgasm in the first minute of vaginal stimulation. That however, is not what this thread is about.
When I'm by myself, with or without porn, I have a very hard erection, and can ejaculate in less than 20 minutes. When I am with her, it feels as if my erection is not so hard (though it is as big) and there have been hand jobs that have lasted over an hour. So far there's only been two times when I didn't ejaculate, but still, it's a long time.
I've been going over a few things that could be causing this. My brain has always worked too hard. It wanders all over the place, but this also occurs when I'm by myself, so I doubt that is the issue. I'm extremely comfortable around her, often sleeping and walking around my room naked or very close to it. Other than the first hand job she gave me I've been very relaxed with all of them. We talk about things all the time, how to make it better for one another etc, so her technique is better now than ever, but on the other hand, the hand jobs are lasting longer now than ever, and I'm still not getting fully hard. I figured my poor diet and smoking could be the cause, but if that were so, then I wouldn't be hard when I was alone either. (I gave up smoking, I'm on my 3rd day, and I'm feeling good about it, I've never been able to quit before, but I'm doing it for her)
I just don't know what else it could be. I really care for this girl, and I know that this issue is distressing her. Please help.