Failed Surgical Abortion

my reply was to you, Jess1784.

If you havent already, DONT get another abortion. There is a real live baby growing inside of you. IF you abort him or her again, you are denying this child the most basic right, to live.

People are pouring their heart out and you are judging...your not GOD!

I found out I was pregnant on the 23 of January 2013.. I walk this year. . . and many other reasons I and my Bf could not keep it. I feel so bad cuz all I ever wanted was to have a big family. and so I had a surgical abortion done, I was wake for the whole thing . It hurt so bad and im still hurting alot of cramps , but I had mine done when I was about to be 8 weeks . its been about 10 days . since. I got kicked out my house but lucky for me my bf let me stay with him. I told him and my closest friends . I will never do this again.  I  have nightmares about that day I went and got it done :(  

Glamshamuk,
My situation is almost identical to yours. I just found out TODAY that my surgical abortion at 6 week had failed. Right now my guilt is killing me.My baby is still growing in my womb and he/she Is 10 weeks now. I am not sure if I can go through another procedure. Physically I can do it but mentally its really not easy. This is going to be one of my most important decision ever. If I decide to keep the baby what's the chances of him/her having any deformity dued to surgical abortion?

Hi guys, thanks for sharing all of your experiences. I am 5-6 weeks pregnant and was planning on having surgical abortion yesterday but after seeing the little fetus and it's heartbeat during the ultrasound, I couldn't go through with it. I keep changing my mind about whether or not I should keep the baby. I'm 25, have a degree and a job. My bf says he is supportive of whatever decision I make but I feel deep down he would rather have me get an abortion even though he used to always say he wants kids with me. This makes me very sad because all I want is for him to say he wants me to keep the baby. When I first found out I was pregnant, I immediately said I wanted an abortion. He said he immediately thought of keeping it, that abortion didn't even come across his mind. I think I have convinced him that abortion is the best way to go. He makes around 60k a year and I make around 30k. I still live with my mom. Before I found out I was pregnant, we have been saving up money to move out together next month. We have been on and off together for about 4-5 years now. I wish I didnt jump to want to get an abortion immediately even though that was my first initial reaction because maybe he would have wanted to keep it. He says he will support whatever I decide and I truly believe him. I just know deep down if I decide to keep it, I will feel emotional and sad knowing he wouldve rather had an abortion. I kind of do want to keep this baby even though it is unplanned. Its not the life I imagined or wanted though. I always wanted to be married first and be very financially stable like the rest of my family was when they had kids. I just dont know what to do. Please help.

It seems to me that you have already made up your mind of what you really want deep down :). Termination only crossed his mind when it was put on the table. It could also leave it just as fast. Sometimes life throws us curve balls. Life happens when we are busy making plans as the old saying goes. While I am very much pro choice. I think every case is individual. Deep down every person knows whats best for them. Just because different options were weighed, doesnt mean the final decision is any less of the best choice. Whatever that is. Goodluck!!!

Thanks, it has been helpful to read all of these experiences.  I am going through a similar thing at the moment.  Last week I had a surgical abortion when I was 5 weeks pregnant.  It wasn't an easy decision and I find it hard to think about this in a scientific and rational way. 

When I came home I was very emotional.  Every time I closed my eyes I imagined the baby inside of me and I kept thinking, what have I done?  Well I was feeling really bad mentally and then started to notice that I wasn't feeling 100% physically.  There was this really strange taste in my mouth which began when I became pregnant, feeling nauseas, no appetite for the foods I usually like, dizzy and always very hot.  The doctor had advised me after the surgery to get a blood test and I found out today that my hormones are rising rapidly and the termination was not successful.

I personally think that surgical abortions should not be performed at 5 weeks.  I was told that it may not be successful, but I wasn't told it's a better idea to wait and come back later.  I am absolutely dreading going in for the second time, it was like nightmare memory I certainly don't want to relive.  

The reason I decided to terminate is because I have only known my boyfriend for four months.  He wants to keep the baby but I am scared to take such a major step so early on in the relationship.  Then there are the reactions of those around me, I feel like I would really disappoint my family.  It is a very hard decision.

HOW BOUT YOU DONT HAVE AN ABORTION THAT BABY FET THE PHYSICAL PAINE AND THE BABY WAS ALIVE!!! IT EFFECTED YOU AND THE BABY,,, 

hi, everything you said I was experiencing with my decision of having an abortion. I am already a mom of 4 yr old and a 3 month old and found out I was pregnant again. When I went to my six week postpartum check up. I did a blood test that was negative and started on birth control right away. 2 1/2 weeks later I went back to the doctor to have a mirena placed in and they did no pee or blood test they just told me to empty my bladder. That was a tuesday and I was starting to get really sick and that friday i took a at home test which was positive. I had to make an appt to get the mirena removed and they couldnt get it out so I was told I might have to get it surgically removed and didnt want surgery so thats why termination would have been best. March 8th 7 weeks pregnant had the procedure done. Had no bleeding just light spotting and still feeling sick. I took another test today which was positive. Now just waiting to contact my doctor. Not to mention after my second pregnancy I was hemmorraging lost a lot of blood almost lost my life.

I just had a medical abortion this week but i inserted the 4 pills around 10 am and bled yesterday but not too much. Today morning again not much bleeding going on, so i am confused at this stage. I was 6 weeks and 6 days when ihad the 2nd set of pills. Is it normal that the bleeding has slowed down so much in 24 hours? 

 

 

thanks..

Hi. I recently had an abortion about a week ago! I went through 2 procedures in 2 days! It was hell! I was hurt emotionally and physically as well! I was 6 weeks and after the first surgery I was hurting in a lot of pain! The first 24hrs that's what made me return!

I just wanted to share my story. i'm 20 and raised Catholic, so I was taught to be pro-life from the beginning. My fiance and I found out that I was pregnant and I immediately became overwhelmed. I just couldn't have a baby! I discussed it with him and I informed him of my decision- abortion. We ended up going to a pp and it turns out that I was farther along than we thought(9 weeks), so we couldn't do the medical and had to do the surgical. I also couldn't do the sedation or anything because we had taken a cab and you need a car present for that(legal stuff). So I had the surgical done, they gave me an ibpro and these two pills that you put in your cheeks to dissolve(to dilate your cervix). I waited in the waiting room for about two and a half hours before I was taken back. Everything seemed to happen so fast. There were two doctors in there and a nurse. The nurse held my hand and kept telling me to breathe. They stick alot of things in there, but tell you what they're doing so there are no surprises  The suction did hurt the most, but it was over so fast and then the doctors left me with the nurse. I threw up and had to get an ice pack because I was sweating but the nurse was very kind and helped me dress and held back my hair. After about 10-15 minutes I felt alot better and wasn't even bleeding that much-just mild cramps. I'm relieved I got it done and feel so much better. My fiance supported me- and I think that is important, have someone that supports your decision. It was nice to get it all done in one sitting too, but I would have preferred the pills. 

Im a 32 yr old and had a surgical abortion at 7wks 6 days as i had to wait weeks because of health issues ,at first they said it was to risky to have the abortion  i was traumatized then finally they decided i could it was like i didn't have a chance to think about what I WANTED it was up to docs and the father to decide what was best for me and the life i had inside me, the only problem is i had the procedure 2 weeks ago ive only bleed a little less than a normal period and im still sick and my boobs still ache and have got bigger i have no pain and feel the same as i did before i had the termination? IF im still pregnant i don't have a clue how il cope put on a fake smile an pretend everythings fine i suppose

Hi. I'm a newbie to this forum. I had my procedure 2 1/2 weeks ago. Still bleeding and still having strong pregnancy symptoms. And apparently still getting bigger. I tested positive for another pregnancy test. I was 12 weeks when i had mine done. I wanted to keep my baby. I can't look at other babies, pregnant women, or baby clothes because i grow sad when i think of my child. I'm really concerned because I'm worried I might still be pregnant. What should I do? Signed StillABeaut