Failed Surgical Abortion

Hi everyone I went through a surgical procedure under local anaesthetic(awake) on 31st August at 8.2weeks pregnant. My situation was that I had just given birth to my second son in April and knew a third child so soon was going to be too much for me as my first child still only 23 months and as heartbreaking as it was I had to make this awful decision. 2weeks+1 day after the surgery I experienced such heavy blood loss to the extent that the sanitary pads I used got completely soaked within 20 seconds, so I was on the toilet for almost 1 hour before my partner called for the ambulance. I experience faintness and dizzy spells and when I made my way downstairs before the paramedics came I blacked out and collapsed on the floor. I was taken to a&e and my bleeding eased down due to laying on my back with my feet in a raised position. I had bloods taken which came back normal and the dr just gave me fluids to replace my blood loss and that evening I was sent home. The following day I had appointment with gynaecologist where I had a urine test that shown positive and a vaginal scan and showed I still had something still there. To what I saw it was like a round/ oval mass similar to what an embryo looks like but the drs didnt discussed in detail and just said it was an incomplete abortion. The day after I had to have a medical abortion (pills inserted in the vagina) which seemed to take affect few hours later. The nurse told me I would experience bleeding that will subside up to a week. Before I was discharged I was told wait 3 weeks to do a pregnancy test and if it is positive then I have to go back to the gynaecologist to have another scan and possible go through the medical procedure again if they detect anything still in my uterus. So now I currently have under a week before I do that pregnancy test. Im still experiencing bleeding so it makes me certain that something is not right, because of this reason I couldn't wait and did an early test which unsurprisingly read positive. If I will have to have another medical and it fails again the dr told me a surgical procedure under general anaesthetic will have to be carried out. This whole process has made me mentally and physically drained. I feel absolutely torn and haunted by the decision I made to terminate my unborn. All day on the 31st my gut was telling me its wrong and I shouldn't go through with it because I have always been against abortions and to already be a mum to 2 children it was so difficult for me. I've experienced a feeling from my heart and also my head but for the first time in my life at that moment I experienced a gut instinct which I shouldn't have ignored. What's done is done and now it still a waiting process. I really do feel for everyone who has experience similar situations. If anyone out there reads this please don't think having an abortion is the easy way out because it will emotionally harder than you can imagine. Maria.

I just had an abortion and I never been so stress out everyone who told me they would be there for me just turn there back on me I'm 19 with a 4 month old baby I live on m y own I'm in college and I work but I'm a single mother my child father don't give me c**p for my baby so when I found out I was pregnant again I was devasted even though the guy I was pregnant wanted the baby I just couldn't carry through I'm struggling hard and everybody turn there back on me after I got it done it only been a couple days and I can't stop crying I push away a good man because of my decision everyone hates me I'm just stuck I feel so alone and empty I even try killing myself all I want was a hug and "I'm here for you" but I got nothing I just hate myself for doing it but I did what I had to

I went through 2 weeks of the same feelings. I honestly couldn't even watch t.v. when they talked about adoptions or children, ect. I also had a hard time seeing children patients (i work in a health care setting). It finally went away. I decided I was going to make some changes in my life because I HAD to move past it. I didn't want to keep feeling like I did.

Hi, how did you know that you were still pregnant

I feel u:( I had an abortion 4 weeks ago and I can't believe I did it. One of the Hardest things had to do in my life:'(

Hi, Well I am also an exemple that a surgical abortion can fail. Mine was incomplete, I was 6weeks and 1 day when I had my first surgical abortion and the following 4 weeks have been a nightmare! I still experienced the pregnancy symptoms, was really tired and my breast were killing me, my belly was bloated and I felt that something was wrong! I kept on calling the aftercare line and they kept on saying the same thing that my symptoms were normal and to wait the 4 weeks to have a pregancy test as per the procedure... After 4 weeks I took that pregancy test and it was positive!!! I called them again to get am appointment and they only had availability after few days so I decided to go in a private scanning clinic where they would be able to tell me if I was still pregnant , I tried to relax and convinced myself that for sure the pregnancy test could still show positive for 8 weeks and that the scan will confirm that everything was fine, unfortunately it confirmed that I still had a "gestation sack" left in there!!! No baby but that!!! I was shocked and didn't know what to think and was really scared to go through this again!! I already have 2 children and my husband and I were decided that we didn't want anymore, we were unlucky that I got pregnant as we were using contraception all the time but it happened. I went yesterday for my second abortion and I am now waiting for another 4 weeks before taking the pregnancy test that will show that this time it has worked! I am worried now and ask myself lots of question, can it ail twice, will I have to go again... It's really a traumatic period and experience and I really wish no one will have to go through this! I am waiting 2 weeks to go and see my gp and ask him to refer me for a scan so I will know before 4 weeks, I any be there waiting... It's unbearable!! The good thing is that I feel much less tired than the first time, I am bleeding very slightly like the first time and don't feel like the first time, I am home resting for a few days and I am hoping than everything will be sorted and put in the past very soon.r

Hi , i'm so sorry to hear what you have been through. I myself have had a surgical abortion. It was only 6 days ago but like yourself i still feel pregnant. I terminated because my partner has cancer and i have a 6 & 7 year old. We felt it was to much to take on at this time. Also i was so ill i couldn't do anything so my partner was working, coming home & cooking, doing the washing and sorting out the kids while i constantly rested. And he needed to rest himself because he has treatment & operations to get through. I deep down didn't want an abortion but my partner didn't want the child as he is 52 years old and all his kids are adults. I am 34 years old & my kids are with a different person who has not been in their life for 3 years. I will have to live with what i have done for the rest of my life. Not only did i end my baby's short life but it was all i had of my partner. He may die from cancer but i felt i had to think about what he wanted too. His days could be numbered & he wants to enjoy what time is left & he felt he couldn't do that with a baby to think about. The issue i have now is i think the abortion failed as my symptoms of pregnancy have not gone. I was told after the procedure that it would settle down in a few days but it hasn't. As selfish as it might sound i would be happy if i was still pregnant because i know now i made a mistake by having the procedure. I did a pregnancy test yesterday and it was positive but i have read it can take a while for the HCG levels to settle down again. I hardly bled after the abortion which i though was strange and i have had cramps on & off but nothing that requires pain relief. I'm so confused. I don't know if the grief is making me feel this may or perhaps i should trust my instincts. I wish i didn't do what i did but my partner took it so badly that i felt i had a duty to him. In saying that i wouldn't repeat the procedure again because i think i have caused enough damage to my body & my baby too. My partner i'm afraid will have to live with my decision to keep the baby if in fact i'm still pregnant. i'm planning to do a pregnancy test each week for 4 weeks before i go back to my doctor because from what i have read they will not take any action until i have given my body a chance to get back to normal

Hi, I hope your birth went well. I admire your honesty and bravery. And you are right abortion does fail. I am going through the same situation, as i think mine has too but only time will tell :-)

Is your baby okay? I have a friend in the same position and am so worried.

How did the rest of the pregnancy go and was your child healthy??

I'm sorry you had to go through with this. I just had a suction abortion on Thursday, Oct 23rd and I was only 5weeks and 3 days pregnant. I still very much feel pregnant, but it's only been 5 days since the procedure. My breasts are becoming more sore and have mild cramping still. I hardly bled at all afterwards. I know it's rare, but I don't know what to think. :-(. The doctor didn't perform the procedure for very long either, most likely due to me screaming in pain. I wish I could find out sooner.

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Hi I am currently going through the same, only the clinic told me they do a scan after the op, however I went there after I booked an appointment which no one put into the system had to wait for ages to be seen to then be told that it hadn't worked... And it is so distressing to realise that everything you went through has to be repeated. Its so heart breaking as well as confusing chin up and stay strong

Hi. I know it might late for me to reply but I just saw ur post now. I had my surgical abortion 4 days ago and I feel like c**p, so much regret, guilt u name it I did cos of certain circumstances. My husband doesn't talk to me about it nothing so I'm also alone in this. I know how u feel it's the worst feeling having to go through these and having ur partner acting like a chicken to the situation. I been bleeding non stop ,cramping and my follow up check up is in 9 days.after reading all these stories I'm starting to get worried, wondering if I'm still pregnant or it's really over...I'm just scared and I already told my family that I had a miscarriage cos if they were to find out that it was an abortion they wud kil me .

Aaa did you have a healthy baby? I am in the exact same position, after failed medical abortion, 2 positive preg tests, i had a scan and they said I am 16 weeks and have a healthy baby, i have 20 week scan on 29th dec and i am so scared and just need some hope.