Feeling depressed after stopping the birth control pills?

Me too trust me! It completely just ruins all the exciting things about life! I’ve thought so many ridiculous things it’s crazy! From thinking that I’m going to be bored with him, questioning if i think he’s attractive, his height, thinking he’s annoying to being completely just rude to him! It’s not fair to him but he still loves me after all of this and i can’t thank him enough. I fear that I won’t ever feel the same and either I’ll just live my life feeling like this towards him or the relationship will end( the last thing i want) I just want to feel better.

It’s weird I feel like I have to relearn how to be myself

Me too, I’ve also noticed that I feel like I’m really just missing how things used to be. I used to get really excited when doing new things with him or just things in general and now things just feel like we are so used to each other and nothing gives me that feeling anymore. If that makes sense!

Yes I’m definitely missing that zest for life as well, like even for the holidays coming up! October - December are my most favorite and unfortunately I haven’t enjoyed them properly this year!

awh me too! I love love love this time of the year and although I still am excited I’m
Not as excited as I’ve been the previous years. Maybe because I just always feel weird and down about my love life but who knows! Have a very happy thanksgiving:)

I wanted to give an update, I think last time I wrote was around 2 weeks ago. Before and during my period it was really horrible (probably my worst)  my anxiety would go on for the whole week, it was hard for me to even drive to work and coming late to work made it even worse. I work as a server at a restaurant so everything just felt overwhelming and too much for me that I would cry during my break and not even eat at all. I even had the worst dizzy spells!!  I would still get intrusive thoughts like my mind can’t even shut off, it was so bad I would just force myself to sleep and sometimes get very vivid nightmares.

That same week. Then I notice my depression starts to kick in and I start to feel hopeless and question why am I even here? It’s probably better that I’m not even alive. I’m going psycho and no one could probably help me.. it’s crazy how much I’m thinking and my fear is hurting myself and/or going psychotic.. then my anxiety kicks in AGAIN it’s like an endless pattern. I try drinking a lot of chamomile tea at my work days and it actually helps relieve a lot of my anxiety for a bit, but my thoughts would still pop up. 

After my period ended, i started to cool down a little but I would still have the thoughts set in my mind but I did feel myself getting a little better, then I came across this Yoga video on YouTube it’s called yoga with Adrienne, (I recommend it to everyone!! It really helps with taking away my  stress and anxiety.) after the video I felt so relaxed and actually felt prepared and focused to go to work. So from then on and for the past 4 days, I felt like myself again I didn’t really have any worries, the intrusive thoughts didn’t even exist to me and I was enjoying myself more. Don’t feel worried that you will never get better because you will! There’s still days where I feel horrible and at my worst (my period days) but now I’m starting to figure out what are my good days and bad days. It is taking time for me though, i’ve Only been 2 1/2 months off the pill and I barely got my first actual period last week, so it’s been hell so far.. and I know there’s gonna be more days where I feel like that but I hope some natural remedies will help a little bit. I don’t want to take any medication or anything, I wanna try to make it through. I hope some people know what I’m going through, and I hope all of you are doing better and better each day! 

I had anxiety like this only for about a week or two but coming off the pill affected me in many other ways that still effect me 6 months later. Time will heal you although it may seem like there were no good days when going through the bad ones. Goodluck & have a happy holidays!

Relationship OCD sounds like it, I have been having these exact same feelings too and my boyfriend has done NOTHING wrong, sometimes you just got to remove those negative thoughts and they will disappear because this has happened to me before and has come back. But once they were gone I was like WOW? WTF WAS I EVEN THINKING! And the love was back to normal. A lot of this happens when something scares you or change happens, I know this is a phase and will go away, I have gone to a therapist to help me out. I have realized it comes from within not the other person (unless they have traumatized you and you hate them with disgust, then you would KNOW you don't want to be with them), so I would say just go through this process day by day.. I ended the relationship a few times with how bad it has gotten and I should not have let it control me. But knowing that he would be okay and I would be okay if it ever ended it a good feeling. You want to "want" to be with someone, not "need" them. Also you have to think, if your relationship ever did not work out, what is the worst that could happen? Nothing you tried and it didn't succeed and thats okay. I hope this helps you two. It is a VERY WEIRD feeling, it is like self-sabotaging your relationship when it isn't time to end.. I hope you guys see this message.

So I was on the pill for 2 years, and I got off of it 2 months ago.. and GEEZ have you all described my feelings and anxiety's perfectly. I find it crazy how a lot of it links back to our SO, which is the one person who made us so happy.. I am so happy we are all writing in this same forum and have all the same symptoms because I thought it wasn't because of my anxiety and depression, BUT IT IS. And I know this isn't the real me.. I feel lost I don't know who I am and that contributes to not knowing what I want in life.. and then that contributes to doubting my relationship and pushing away people. I have definitely let it get the best of me sometimes and ended my relationship, but seeing him fight for me made me feel good.. If i wanted to let him go I would but I cant. I definitely feel my hormones ALL OVER THE PLACE. So I am happy that I am seeing a therapist and she is the best! It is just a more professional person you can talk too. I actually did not think I was depressed these past few months.. but honestly after what I have been feeling from time to time.. I have minor depression. At one point I lost 15 lbs, stopped eating, wanted to stay in bed all day, almost failed all my university work, stopped working out, all after I stopped the pill and got anxious/negative terrible thoughts! It probably contributes to low self-esteem and low confidence as well, so I am trying to work on that as well. But considered I knew myself pretty well and I used to be very strong-minded, I know that this is a mental illness and these thoughts are IRRATIONAL. Feel free to talk and Ill be more then happy to answer.

thank you immensely for this. I truly feel like a changed person after feeling like this for 6 months. During these 6 months I’ve had strong doubts about my relationship but also days of love yet, not the love I used to feel. If you read the forum from the last couple of days it explains how I’ve felt in detail. It’s very sad and breaks my heart to even think about losing him and I often tear up when thinking about how differently I feel towards him. I know I love him and want to be with him but the negative thoughts took over my mind and it stinks! I have good days that are often only consumed by a few thoughts but it’s still just not the same. Once again, thank you for this. have a wonderful thanksgiving

Hello so sorry to hear this but very glad the forum is helping you! I’ve doubted my relationship ever since about a week or two starting the pill and it all happened very suddenly. I got off thinking I would get better but nope! May i ask some of your symptoms

Sometimes I look at him differently, I felt numb in the beginning after we got back together from on/off again, i am starting to compare him to others, it is just questioning everything that I once never did question. So it sucks because i know nobody compares to him, and he is the best. But after reading what everyone is writing it obviously takes time. And this has happened to me before.. and one day the bad thoughts just stopped and silenced themselves and i was able to see what i had infront of me and just love him like I used to

sounds similar to me but they really have “stopped” they kind of just mute themselves when I’m with him or having good days. How long did it take for them to stop?

One time it took 2 weeks, but i was not on birth control for long. But now it is a bit longer, it is crippling me and i am going to see my therapist tonight. It is weird cause even if me and him take a break and stop talking, these thoughts don't stop? So i do not know what the solution is.

Probably time. I drove myself crazy for the first couple of month ma because the thoughts just wouldn’t go away and I didn’t know if I wanted to be with him or not. Now, even though I’m constantly questioning my feelings I know I want him it’s just a part of me now. Although it sucks saying that I’m not sure if I will ever feel the same from before I even started the pill. Truly believe it did this all to me and it’s not just a coincidence that we all doubt our relationship on here. You’ll get through it. Also, if it’s meant to be it will be