Hi, This is Tanishqa.
I'm was in affair with one Guy, we had sex for almost two year continuously(Dec2007 to Jan 2010) . and in-between i had two abortion also... my reason was to leave that guy.. his suspicious nature .. he used to beat me A lot.. but again he will be normal and will say sorry and will promises tht he won’t reaped that. But again he will do same thing, i was in very Bad situation , neither i was able to tell my parents nor any friends.. as it was completely secret.
Finally i took step and somehow i parted away frm him, but now from 2010 to its 2013 , I’m not in relationship wid anyone, and my parents looking for me a proposal as i am already 28 year old...
I have question : will my future husband will come to know tht i hv already lost my virginity or had abortion??
Pls help me .. hw can i liv my life peacefully now.
Hi Tanishqa,
I'm happy to hear that you are on the road to recovery and away from the abusive relationship.
Really, no-one should be able to tell if you have had sex or an abortion before, some cultures believe you can tell if a girl is not a virgin but none of it is based on Biology. Most of it is based around the hymen which can break when you have sex for the first time and can bleed a little bit.
But a virgin can break her hymen through activities like horse riding or using a tampon.
So in short, no there is no real way to tell if a person has had sex before and if you meet someone who does think otherwise.
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Dear Hearted, many Many thnx.:) I realy dnt wheathr its my Bad luck or Good luck but he was the frst person with whom i had relationship and though i hvnt bleed.. and that has made him More Suspicious .. but I told him THOUSAND time and he were knowing . it tht i m loyal .. but its my bad luck .. Thnks Dear .. God bless u