I have been living with my partner now for 3 half years, and i accidentally discovered that he has a thing with porn and masturbates at least twice a day, he is 35 years old. I comforted him with this as it has been affection our relationship now for the last 2 years. I told him how i felt and that when we have sex its always rough and not intimate. He likes to watch himself cum rather than inside of me, he says that it does not feel like he has cum at all if he does not watch himself. I know that this is a problem!

He has been doing this since he was 15 years old, and now it also shows in his affection towards me. He likes to watch porn which we have done together so several occasions and I dont mind it, but then he is rough and there is no build up at all in the sex. Im confused and dont know how to handle this can you shed some light into this subject, sometimes when i come home i know he has been into it again its SAD.

Confused !