Quite detailed, so look away if you don't want tmi. :)
Anyway, so I'm in the last couple weeks of pregnancy right now and our normally very kinky sex life had been slipping quite a bit (not so easy to move around any more and we used to do things a little rough which he understandably doesn't feel comfortable with right now being that his baby is in the way.) so I decided to mix things up and get really good at giving head- especially since there is that dreaded 6 week or whatever period after birth where you can't have sex and I don't want him to suffer.
It's not like I didn't do it before- I did, but usually as a prelude to sex or sometimes anal, because he can take a really long time to cum sometimes and my mouth gets dry and sore and I've always been afraid of getting him with my teeth when it gets really fast and steady at the end. But I really wanted to get really good at it- I mean fantastic- and really blow his mind (and at the same time make him forget I am pregnant so I can feel more like his sexy wife again..)
So I started reading every possible tip I could find and I did them all. I dressed as whory as possible (hiding my baby belly as best I could :), high heels, thigh high stockings, mini skirt, easy access shirt, died my hair a crazy red I know he loves, tons of black eyeshadow, etc), told him every dirty thing I could think of and how much I liked it, moaned, etc, and did every trick I've ever read to him. I started out with all the main lickings and gentle sucking, etc, as there was a hockey game, so we were taking our time and I wanted him to know I was in no rush- that I was enjoying it. So that was about 2 and a bit hours. We interrupted a few times for us to have sex until he got close and then I went back at it. When the game was over, I really went for the full monty. I went as fast and hard as I could and tried to keep the suction as best as I could without any teeth and he kept getting close and then completely deflating right when I thought he was about to finish. I tried to let him grab my hair and throat f**k me a little bit, but I just can not do that yet- no advice in the world seems to help me with that.. and then I tried to control it by deep throating myself, until I started to gag and had to stop. After a while of trying everything I could, every way he guided me to, it got harder and harder for him to even get close because he was starting to over-think too much and couldn't even enjoy it anymore because he was worried I was going to be disappointed if he didn't cum. I kept telling him there was no rush- if it wouldn't work, then he could f**k me instead, but it was too late. By that point his drive was already gone and that didn't work either.
Now here is the main question- I did it a total of 3 hours, never letting him know I was tired or in pain and he seemed to be enjoying it. I wasn't monotonous. I did everything. And I mean EVERYTHING that I have ever seen suggested- and didn't leave any areas out, if you know what I mean. Did we just do it too long and he got tired/desensitized? Or did I just not do a good enough job? He swears it was good- although, again, he is really quiet when it comes to sex so it was hard to gage from his face while I was doing it what felt best, etc.. I had to ask before hand to let me know when he liked something but he never really did except for some very, very soft moaning the few times he got close.. I find he was slightly more vocal when he took the few breaks to have sex. He just kept saying afterwards it was his fault and was in a horrible mood and kept apologizing.. which made me feel worse because I did all I did to please him and I made him feel worse in the end.
What do I do next time? I actually hurt my mouth really bad and got a huge blister in it (I have a sharp tooth at the back) and my mouth was numb the rest of the night after that and horribly sore the next few days.. not to mention my back and knees, but I assume that would hurt less when I'm not 9 months pregnant. I am sooo scared that next time I do it he will feel pressure again and not be able to enjoy it and therefore it will go on forever. I don't mind doing it for a while (the licking and sucking, and teasing, etc)- it's the fast, hard, but steady ending that scares me because that's the part that hurts and, if it goes on too long, will eventually have to end because I can't keep that up forever. I just want to make him feel amazing and be able to please him once the baby is born and I can't finish him with sex because it's off limits until I heal.
What do I do? Did we do it too long or am I doing it wrong, or what? Help! :(
try to finish it with your hand ! :)
I could try that, but don't guys prefer you finish it with your mouth? If he would talk about it, I think he would say that's what he prefers. I have done it with my hand at the end before (which also typically takes a long time-just not as long) but it feels like I am taking the easier way out and I want to be please him the best way possible. Maybe you're right though. Maybe it's better to settle with something else so at least he doesn't get himself into a state where he feels pressure to finish and can't at all. :(
as a guy, P prefer getting finished by the mouth...jeez..3 HOURS?!...Id be in heaven:)
Lol. I always let him finish in my mouth and swallow. (Even if I got him close with my hand.) What a shitty way to finish something like that to just spit it out like it was something dirty. :S Don't know why girls do that. I hated the way my first boyfriend tasted but I always swallowed and said I liked it and smiled.. and drank something when he wasn't looking. :P
I think he was really into it for the first couple hours, but then just started thinking about it too much. I tried again when he was half awake/sleeping in the middle of the night a little bit ago and I guess I solved my one problem. That took only a few minutes and I think it was because he wasn't over-thinking and worrying if I was getting tired.
I think he was really into it for the first couple hours, but then just started thinking about it too much. I tried again when he was half awake/sleeping in the middle of the night a little bit ago and I guess I solved my one problem. That took only a few minutes and I think it was because he wasn't over-thinking and worrying if I was getting tired.
you are a GREAT wife! Any wife that doesn't mind giving head near the end of her pregnancy is a special one. I would have taken a hand job. Wow, 3 hours! wow........
you couldn't have done anything wrong. I know I like my balls played with a bit, but after 3 hours, no doubt you hit the high points of every good area.
you couldn't have done anything wrong. I know I like my balls played with a bit, but after 3 hours, no doubt you hit the high points of every good area.
...and hand jobs are ok too:)
Aww, thank you. :) I try to be. Lol. In all fairness, he is usually a pretty great husband too, so I like to make him happy. :)
Now, as for ball play, I try to actually play with those and suck on them lightly and he says it feels good but he isn't really into that as much as the main action- seems to be happier when I just leave them alone for some reason. (And I am gentle with them- it's not like I'm too rough.) Shame, because I like them. :P I wonder why most guys like it but some guys don't really.
Now, as for ball play, I try to actually play with those and suck on them lightly and he says it feels good but he isn't really into that as much as the main action- seems to be happier when I just leave them alone for some reason. (And I am gentle with them- it's not like I'm too rough.) Shame, because I like them. :P I wonder why most guys like it but some guys don't really.
Handytim wrote:
:) Those are fun too.
...and hand jobs are ok too:)
:) Those are fun too.
3 hours! Lucky guy!
From what I just read, you must sincerely enjoy having sex or are a very giving person. Either way, you might consider only having sex every two weeks. I'm not saying to stop getting together or making love. By making love I mean, kissing, caressing and holding each other. You might not know this but every time a man orgasms, he unloads a lot of fluid that is essential to keeping him in good health. The more he ejaculates rather than orgasms, which are two separate things, the less he will be able to perform. If you get him to start doing Kegel exercises everyday, he can eventually get to a point where he can orgasm but not ejaculate. There are other things that can help, but until I finish writing my book, I can't divulge it all here. Just make sure he learns to do Kegel's to the point where he can enjoy sex with you without killing himself in order to enjoy it. Hope this helps!
jbh419 wrote:
Wish he'd think that.. :P
3 hours! Lucky guy!
Wish he'd think that.. :P
Well, problem is solved by now. I think it really was just too long and he was getting worried I wasn't enjoying it and then started to pressure himself to finish, like I thought. (Which, like I tried to tell him, was NOT the case. :( )I don't have problems with this anymore, unless he is just too tired. (We do things pretty much every day, so he really is just tired. Lol.)
As for the first statement, it's both. I am a giving person, and therefore I enjoy doing things for and to him alot. I also probably have an abnormally high libido for a girl- especially since I am a breastfeeding mother now and should have no drive at all...so I'm told. Hmm. No. Lol.
No sex for 2 weeks! Ugh, we'd lose our minds! I did things to him for 2 weeks after having the baby and we couldn't take it anymore, so we did it. I guess we don't have the self-control you are talking about. And cum is too sexy to learn how to stop it from happening. :P I thought they did studies and found that orgasms are supposed to better your health/help you live longer?
As for the first statement, it's both. I am a giving person, and therefore I enjoy doing things for and to him alot. I also probably have an abnormally high libido for a girl- especially since I am a breastfeeding mother now and should have no drive at all...so I'm told. Hmm. No. Lol.
No sex for 2 weeks! Ugh, we'd lose our minds! I did things to him for 2 weeks after having the baby and we couldn't take it anymore, so we did it. I guess we don't have the self-control you are talking about. And cum is too sexy to learn how to stop it from happening. :P I thought they did studies and found that orgasms are supposed to better your health/help you live longer?
I hate giving my husband head ! I don't get anything out of it. If my husband wants me to get him off when he is drunk he will bug me to do this til I do. Getting off in my mouth is very nasty. When we have sex (long time ago) I prefer he gets off in me. and not on me or in my face.
dejolane
I commend you for trying so hard. It is a good idea to use your hands if you get tired, sore or for whatever reason. Get a good pace going or you will find that some men take longer than others and not be able to go on. Since you want to become better at this please read what I read at
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