Hi im now 19 years old and my mother left me when i was 10. I live in europe and she met a man that lived i america so one day she came home and said she was remarried and was moving to america in 3 months and that i would be living with my father that i at that time didnt know very well i only spent every other weekend with him. She kept in touch over the phone and i came to visit her almost every summer. My mom has always been my bestfriend so i never said that it hurt me that she left i didnt want to hurt her feelings by telling her she let me down. When she left i told her i wanted to come but she didnt let me but she brought her horse.. not her daughter but her horse.. She said i could come later on so then when i was 16 she started talking about me moving down there i guess then she started to miss me so when i was 17 i gave up everything i had in my life and moved down there i lived there for two years and the last year things started to go kinda bad i was hanging around the wrong kinda people and i was never home because mom would sit at home and drink and my stepdad just sat there n watched football.. i had just started college and was getting all a's and i went to work and did good with school and work. i also started to get out of the environment that i was in and stopped hanging out with my old friends. one day i decided to go hang out with my ex boyfriend and we got into a fight and he hit me when i came home that night my mom was pissed and the next day she woke me up yelling and screaming that i was moving back to europe. they took away my car and everything so i had no chance of getting to school or work. my stepdad and her pretty much made it impossible for me to stay. She is now saying that it was all my fault and that she tought she did the best by leaving me behind when she moved and also for sending me back. but im really hurt that she wasnt there for me when i needed her the most.. and now all we do is figth and im mad at her for doing the things she did to me..
what do you guys think i should do.. is she right for doing what she did??
what do you guys think i should do.. is she right for doing what she did??
NOOO shes not right for treating you like that!!!!Shes being totally selfish of her own self and not thinking about her daughter, what u should do is move on in life and try to 4 get about her i know its easier said then done but obviously she dont care here let me share something with u. I am 20 years old, and a mother of 2 I would NEVER leave my children, my father had to leave us, b/c he was running from the cops my dad spent most of his life in and out of jail and prison...I grew to realize that my dad only cares about himself...and when thats the case u cant upset yourself for their actions its not ur fault u have a heart and they dont , u just need to do what u do best in life and make ur life the way u want it :) u sound very intelligent so keep up the good work and keep in mind what i said.
Thank you for that advice its good the hear from ppl that sees it from the outside thats its not just me thinking that she is wrong!
I know that it doesn't make the pain any easier but from what you said it sounds like your mother is suffering from a alcohol addiction and if so, she will not make wise decisions. Alcoholism is a very selfish addiction and there isn't really any focus on anything or anyone but themselves. It isn't anything personal against you and by no means is it your fault. Sounds like you are a pretty normal young woman and exceptional in some ways. So continue on and become all that God intended for you to be.