Husband addicted to masturbation

Ladies,
I hear you say that you want your man to be passionate with you and to forgo the porn. You consider porn to be cheating.
But for men, porn is not cheating, it is just a simpler, faster route to satisfaction. Masturbation is not about love or cheating on a woman. It is more a physical release and immmediate satisfaction. It does NOT mean that he doesn't love you nor that he loves another.

The problem is that women equate sexual release with love...and that is not necessarily true for men.
Someone said that a man masturbated so much that he developed ED. That is not true. Masturbation does not harm a man. However, if he has deveoped ED, masturbation may be a symptom of the developing problem, and the only way that he can get relief.

I urge all the women here who are complaining to seek out marital counseling. If your husband won't go or objects, go anyway. You have not much to loose, and only to save your marriage. But get help.

you are a sick person and a porn addict. Men like you need only a hand and a computer. Do your wife a favor, leave

What? I think Kevin is completely right. Porn has nothing to do with love for a man.

well
I have been married less than a year,
when we were dating and enagaged he didn't want to have sex because he wanted to wait. after he got married I found out he was sexting and flurting with goirls who would send him naked photos. he likes masturbating, when we are having sex he makes love to his hand more than to me, and he can only get off using his hand. after the honey moon we generally would have sex every third day only on the days I am ovulating. Now I am pregnant and we had sex only twice, Once he faked his orgasm and the other he used his best friend (i.e: the hand). He wanted to have sex on another occasion But I said no, I am not a dog waiting for his owner to throw him a bone. Who goes to Hawaii with his wife for 9 days and not have sex even once. I brought it up, but he ignored the subject. At this point, I honestly no longer care. we love each other and can be very happy, but it seems he is insistent on ruining his marriage.

My boyfriend and were having a very similar issue about 2 years into our relationship is when it became too much for me. He had seen my heart broken and frustrated. I kind of hit the point of "he can have me, or the porn" I did something a teenager would do. I believe that I am beautiful so he shouldnt need any other gal to stimulate him and so I did my hair in loose curls did my make up and posed for my camera. I send him a text, something along the lines of: I'm done. I want you to love me more then anything, I want u to lust after my body. Not some s*** on a computer screen. This is your chance, you devote your love to me. Or I'm gone. Here is what you'd miss out on. Its your decision. Then I send him the picture of me. Yes this may sound slutty or over the top. But that is where I was, I wanted to feel needed. And after that day, oddly enough things changed. He looks at me differently. I don't know how to explain it. It's like I'm the angel and temptress all at the same time. I haven't caught him with porn since. Occasionally he will email me or send me a quick text like "babe, I'm so turned on right now. You should send me something to think about until I can get home to ravish you." It's been a year and a half since I have him the I guess what you'd call an 'ultimatum'. We are engaged to be married. And I hope I get to spend the resting my life with him. I'm not saying all girls should send pictures to their guy. But I'm saying they should express how they feel. And stand up for yourself. I know it sounds like hindsight but if he would not have changed I would have moved out. I need someone to love me, care about me, and yes lust after me too. Everyone needs that, I say find a way to make a statement and go for it. Good luck; good bless.

My husband, has a porn addiction to the point he steals pictures of my friends anc his. Even though he's promised to stop he has lied and kept doing it. Too the ppoint it's put our marriage to edge. I found panties in his draw and I can't tell if he's lying if he cheated or stole them from a co worker. He's never reached orgasm with anypone because there is no sensation. Only way he can his by doing it himself.  I even considered getting fake breast so I'd looked more of the girls he fines attractive. I don't know what to do

That's why I don't get married I just masterbate for life. Porn is great and never complains or is demanding. My partner thinks the same.

Leave this man when you can, as it does not get better. I have been married to a man for over twenty years and he is know 63 and hasn't been able to have sex with me for years. He can't even keep it up now. It used to be you were married to someone a long time and had a life together, now there is porn (which only gets worse). I am 60 and would leave if I could but now need a roof over my head but as a non cheating spouse, when the right time comes for me, I'm taking it. My husband does not deserve a faithful spouse because he allowed the porn to take over. These men evidentially have a choice to make and they are not making it. This porn does not only pertain to the sex, they also treat negatively in a horrible way. --very controlling. If I were younger, I would definitely leave now. If I ever come into some money, I will leave as an older woman and become a beautiful woman again, shop at Victoria's Secret (I will know what I have on), with desire of some kind. Every woman is beautiful and a husband addicted to porn only destroys the wife in the worst ways.

Don't get fake breasts! I know too many younger women who have done this and the husband likes it, parades the wife in front of friends but it does not change his addition.

What age are you? There are too many 20 something men whose wives are discussing this at my work. They are not getting any sex with their husband and they are already acting like my husband of 20 years who is 63. He has been truly addicted to porn in the worst way since his early 40's. He is ugly and boring and has destroyed everything he had with me. He thinks he can make it up with flowers, nice restuarants, etc. He is withdrawn, non talkative, no intimacy what so ever anytime, has no value for wife and is too controlling, said wife is worthless, wife is unattractive, husband is not attracted to wife any longer. (I was never attracted to my husband - I loved him because he was what I thought - a nice man. He even had a picture of him masterbating on what he thought was a favorite channel with his sports programs yesterday that he thought no one would see. A whole room of company saw it yesterday and he still denied that it was him. I know it was him, I could see his leg, hand and penis. Is this what you want to become? You need to get out of this before it changes you and takes over. You evidently don't know what you are dealing with and don't understand women. What man needs to do this? A very insecure man. When you can't commit to your relationship, you are insecure. Sure you can watch porn on occasion but if you get addicted, your sex life will be only with you, your TV, on line women and computer. I made a mistake in marrying this man and it's too late for me. I had dates scheduled six weeks out when I was 39 before I married this man 20 years ago so I was not undesireable.

But how do you deal with a husband for whom u learnt his speed, did all those things that aroused him, tried variety and all those funky porny stuff, still masturbates secretly when you are asleep and prefers self sex instead of sex? It's been more than a year he has had sex with me. He says hez tired and sleeps and wakes up in the middle of night to watch porn and masturbate and does it during daytime whenever he gets chance wherever possible?

It is cheating plain and simple. If you watch porn then don't have sex with your partner, guess what, that is cheating. That is being selfish. He should be alone. Only men who are not in a relationship I would understand watching porn and masturbating. if the woman doesn't want to do certain things, even then I would say then they should talk . Him masturbating to satisfy himself is plain darn selfish. The woman wants and needs that bonding that only ejaculation provides.

you are very luck. Most men do not come out of it. This is an addiction, a very hard one. He obviously was not addicted yet. It is like cigs, heroin etc.

It is fine if both partners are in agreement. However, that is rare!
You miss out on one of the most beautiful parts of life. That bonding is so precious.

I am 27 and my husband is 54. We have been together 4 years. He sleeps in a different room at night because he works long hours at a meat packing plant and refuses to shower every night, so it was easier to just let him have his own space for the work week, and share the big bedroom on the weekends.

Our sex life has gone down to maybe once every few months, and that is if I initiate it. He would always tell me that he is always too "tired" and just "Doesn't get turned on" anymore. I tried to belive him until one day I stumbled across a pocket vagina in his room. I then flipped the mattress, found nearly a hundred "mature women" magazines and a few dvds. When I went in the drawers I found FIVE more pocket vaginas. Everything heavily used. There was a huge blowout fight, and I told him I wanted to end things. He promised to stop with the toys and start giving me attention instead.

Less than two weeks later I find a brand new toy and lotion hidden in the truck instead of his room. And I am still not being taken care of. Once again there was another fight, he even punched a hole in the wall right next to me over it. And he legitimatly does not see any problem. His only comments are "Excuse me for wanting a release after work", like he cant come to me instead??!

I don't know what to do. He is a great father, we get along as friends.. but he has every excuse in the book to not have sex and is addicted to masterbating with fake vaginas.

I was pretty down on myself but I know his son had joked with him about another ex saying they never had sex, so it seems to be a trend for him in all of his marriages. (I'm number 4).

I am glad to see other women have the problem and not just me, but I see no way to fix it. It is horrible and makes me feel so bad. I like porn, im up for anything, I would try whatever he wants.. but.. he wants to sneak masterbation.