Husband has been smoking marijuana daily for many years--has no motivation or emotional responses

I feel bad now reading this because I am 21 about to drop out of university cause I can't be bothered going in and I think I have some similarities with your husband and this is all because of me smoking weed. Reading this makes me wonder should I stop smoking weed because I definitely don't want to end up like ur husband
I mean to cause no offence I'm just saying

I am sorry to hear about all of your husbands who mistreat you.... It is sad, I hope things work out for you and you all make the best choices in life. I am sorry to say but I am somewhat similar to your husbands/BFs.... but just have not reached the point where they are. I am not trying to spam this blog, I just want to vent..... hear me out:-|.

I have been married for 3 years and have known my wife for over 5 years. She is a gem, no doubt about that. She is hot and I have never refused sex no matter what. I love her and I don't want to make her sad. I have been smoking weed over 8 years... through my bachelors in engineering and then my masters in the same filed. I am 32 and no matter how long I quit for :1, 2, 4 weeks or even 4 months, I have a relapse:-S..... My wife does not like me smoking weed. Thank god I am not mean to her on weed...I mean, I don't crash on the couch or anything like that, i sleep with her help her with dishes, cleaning laundry etc. I mean I am fully functional and earn good money and take care of the house/cars etc. I think the problem is not with weed as much as it may have to do with mental issues like depression, anxiety, fear of failure, ego problems, fear of rejection etc that cause people to self medicate and weed is the escape goat.

I have been depressed all my childhood and had math anxiety since grade 2. OMG at the age of 30 I went through all math books starting grade 2. Weed definitely helps you forget your issues and calm down. BUT WEED IS NOT THE SOLUTION... I think a combination of mental issues and bad habits makes it worse for an individual. If someone has been smoking weed everyday most of the day, many if not all behaviors are driven by habit not one's intellect. I am trying to be aware of ques that make me feel like smoking. You got to replace the response to the que with something else that is rewarding....

As i read this I really wanted to cry..I am a 31 soon to be 32 yr old male who has abused weed for 15 + yrs on average about 3 grams a day but in recent yrs that has nearly 2x. I to waste my life with dope video games and porn. i haven't worked in 17 months because i cant pass a test. i live with my fiance of 4yrs who earns all the money. i felt as thought she posted this and it made me feel horrible because there is really no difference between me and the posters man except the lack of emotion although anger is most prominent . i found this as i googled " smoked every day for 15yrs and need to pass drug test for a job fast" smh...God truly works in mysterious ways I just wanted to pass a drug test, now i come here, read  and i'm faced with my own ugly truth and by her (the poster) writing i felt my woman pain and my own shame..now although i really want to pass this drug test so i can contribute to my household and be a better me for my woman and myself.  I hope you man wakes up and tries to do right by you and himself as well.  God bless you. also if you know someone like us just remember that "hurt people, hurt people" there is always more then meets the eye. you dont have to put up with are trifling ways but love us from a far and hold us up in prayer. 

I knw exactly what your going threw.I've been wit my fiance for ten years and have two children with him.Our realationship has turned for the worst in the last year because of this.I refuse too expose my babies.He works take care of home cnt stop this.I'm just thinking about leaving if he refuses to get help this last time.

My thing is this .if u been doing this before you had a woman or family wouldn't u want stop when u be blessed with your own family.I can't stand him being so damn mean.Look I feel woman deal with this BS and go threw a lot.But the person with the problem don't give a damn.I'm fed up with it and I knw whoever else that's going threw this is too.Do annyone have soultions to ths problem or it just bever goes away?

You just need a real man he just hasn't grown up leave the weed to the teens

You should definitely stop now before it takes over your life completely. you should follow you dreams and dont let smoking get in the way . Im sure you can try and quit . just takes inner strength and determination. look to your future and see how you want it to be . if your at uni you must be clever and have it in you to work hard so please dont quit. I wish my partner would quit but theres only so much i can nag him . hes got to do it by himself but i dont think he really wants to. which is why i cant see us having a future and that makes me sad . he always says when im 40 i'll quit fags and weed . thats next year so we'll see!

I asked my fella to choose once i said is me and the kids or the weed . he walked out the door went to his mothers house who also smokes weed . he came back the next day wasnt sorry just made me feel bad for asking him to quit . ive had so many arguments about it over the years i just feel exhausted wih it now . time will either ge better or stay he same but as my children grow older its making me feel like i dont have to live with this anymore.

Most of the posts are not recent...hoping to chat to someone about my long term relationship with a cannabis user.

In the early stages of ending the painful, neglectful life.

Ive helped , or tried to...not gotten a whole lot in return.

Ive searched for the good person under the fog.

He works, doesn't bash me, isn't a bludger

 

 

 

 

I have been reading all the posts on here and have been wondering if I should write something on here or not.  I have thought long enough and thought that why not what was the worse that I could read on here?  So here we go.....

 

I am looking for something or someone to help me with my BF

Here is a little History: He is 29 and has been smoking HEAVY everyday since he was like 14..... He has always been able to function without problems, never has had any issues while he was on it.  6 Months ago he was arrested and was forced to stop smoking all together.  He has been clean since, we went thru a spell where that's all he wanted, then after  a couple days he was better well mostly. Once he was over the smoking thing he took up drinking everyday to replace the feeling I am guessing.  Not only has he been drinking now he is getting REALLY distant more and more over the past 2 weeks.  So bad that he is not wanting to touch me, Sexual or not, and if he does then he cant seem to preform like he should.

Ok...... Here is what I am wanting to know. 6 months later he has been drinking the whole time and not stopping, not getting TRASHED every night but getting drunk.  He was put on a Court Referral Program for the last 6 months and was unable to do anything,(Like probation) Last week he was let off and now all he is wanting is to smoke... smoke...smoke... SMoke not let me explain the problem a littl better we made a deal when he was busted since this effected his job, home, my kids, among other things that he would quit completely.  Ok now  I know everyone would think that I am crazy because this is all he is doing I am Lucky but... when that is all he thinks about day in and out it is not ok, he cant function without it when he is on it, and is mean if he does not have it like he wants it. So we agreed STOP.... Now he is off Court c**p and is not tested and can start again and that is all he is thinking about. He is seeming like he is going thru withdrawals again... I dont get it....6 months later and we are starting from square one again is this possible????? 

 

Someone please give me something to try.... He has told me he wants help so that is a start... but.....

Wow! Very nice thread. It seems many are suffering in similar relationships. I am 22 years old, male. I work full time in IT. I also smoke weed every day. I smoke after my morning shower. During my lunch break. As soon as I'm off work, I smoke EVEN MORE. This continues until I sleep. I have become quite robotic. Still functional, but somewhat lacking in emotion. My interest in relationships has ceased. I feel isolated from romance, as if it might be a hindrance to me. I started smoking only about a year ago(being raised a staunch Christian, I was quite isolated until recently). It almost immediately became a daily ritual. I was happy to be anything but sober. Soon, I challenged myself to function while high at work. I succeeded. Everything is fine. But it could be better. Motivation takes a huge hit, but things still get done. I am worried that my untamed addiction may lead to further loss of motivation. These stories sound like a further progressed version of my own state of existence.

Hi, I've never posted before, but have been reading posts for a long time now, and they have helped me understand a lot of my marriage. I have been with my husband for 18 years married for 14, we are both 36. He has smoked weed since he was 11. The affects of this drug has done nothing but ruin our life together. I look back and understand now that I have really only been his carer, who for many years fell for his sorry for himself emotional instability, having no support or nurturing for me. Well I could go on and on about how this has affected him, then comes the alcohol for many years, all through this I have worked more than full time just to pay our way, but there is never any money left for me. Anyway enough, my life is worth more and so am I, so now I have left our home and am living with mum, I feel at peace, and am planning to sign over the house to cut free from all this. I want nothing from that life, there's much to pick from the bones, I just hope he will let me go free and take the house on. A new life awaits me and I'm sure it can only be better. Without the emotional exhaustion and of his addiction who knows what I can achieve.

It is your husband. He is lazy & selfish. You will not be happy unless you leave him. I smoke daily, & have since '95. I have a full-time professional job, that I've kept for the last 11 years.

Your husband is a " loser ". I'm 21 I've been smoking pot once a day for 3 years but I have no desire to live the way your husband does. It's easy to fall down the devils path. The righteous path is the tough one to follow. But you have to give effort. TURN YOUR HUSBAND ONTO THE BIBLE. (New testament) IT WILL CHANGE HIS PERSPECTIVE ON LIFE!!! Best of luck and god bless

This is easy. DIVORCE your sorry, loser, no good husband!

 

P.S I make 100,000 a year, hate stupid stoners, and am about to divorce my wife for similar reasons.